alloverthat wrote:I've been on this thread for a while (lurked since the beginning actually and maybe posted 4 or 5 times). I did get the context, and it still struck me as off.
If you think I'm completely off the mark then lets just leave it at that. I've just heard that big black men shit so much it gets tired.
I'm not going to bore you at length, but just so that you get where I'm coming from:
One of my brother's friends recently was all "I wanted to be friends with him, because no one's going to fuck with me when I'm with a big black dude amiriggghht?! haha". Which, similar to the stuff you guys were saying was pretty inoffensive, and obviously not meant will any ill intent at all (and I didn't say anything). But the reasons he was saying that - big black men are perceived as scary and dangerous, also cause a LOT of problems for my brother.
So when you guys are all "he talks shit like a big black dude" and telling stories about how one big black man you met cussed at you and then did big strong black man shit, it just doesn't sit right, no matter how friendly the context.
Anyway, I'm really done derailing this thread. Just wanted to come here to procrastinate and talk about the LSAT. Hope there's no bad feeling and that I can still do that
Of course you can.
I think that I understand where you're coming from. I do feel strongly that none of it was at all intended in that way, but, I also understand that the need to combat the constant barrage of racism from our society can be incredibly exhausting. I sometimes become especially sensitive to what I perceive as potential misogyny for a similar reason. I don't purport to know you or your circumstances, but that's been my personal experience, and I just want you to know that you have no need to feel at all strange for calling attention to something that you felt to be socially unhealthy, whether or not that assumption were true.
TLDR: People are awful, and it's very difficult to give benefit of the doubt when experience tells you that generally something that reads inappropriate is, in fact, inappropriate. But I promise that the people in this thread are not at all awful.