LSAT is ruining my relationship!

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LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby PeanutsNJam » Wed Jul 25, 2012 11:25 am

As the male in a relationship, it is a fatal mistake to be right. What used to be normal casual disagreements about insignificant things with my girlfriend have transformed into me critically analyzing every single argument she comes up with. She doesn't like it. Anybody else have similar problems?

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby dkb17xzx » Wed Jul 25, 2012 11:28 am

PeanutsNJam wrote:As the male in a relationship, it is a fatal mistake to be right. What used to be normal casual disagreements about insignificant things with my girlfriend have transformed into me critically analyzing every single argument she comes up with. She doesn't like it. Anybody else have similar problems?


I had this problem but with family. I think it's important to be able to detach yourself (as difficult as it might be). I also think that the added pressure and frustration from an argument / fight will hurt you mentally. Talk to her about why are being a nitpicky pain in the ass (that's how it is construed) and tell her that you'd rather not fight at all. Most importantly, apologize. You general frame of mind should be as stress free as possible.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby StrictlyBusiness » Wed Jul 25, 2012 11:29 am

I, too, have this problem. Not from the LSAT though, my girlfriend is just wrong most of the time. And I'm an ass hole.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby dudders » Wed Jul 25, 2012 11:30 am

PeanutsNJam wrote:As the male in a relationship, it is a fatal mistake to be right.


Pretty sure the LSAT isn't the only problem in your relationship.

I don't recall the LSAT making me overanalyze my partner's arguments for logical fallacies or anything like that, so if it's having that effect on you, I have a feeling law school is going to be "fatal" to your relationship if it survives long enough for you to get your score back. Law school and the LSAT made me crabby and preoccupied, but they did not turn me into a bitch who manages to work sufficient vs. necessary into the taking-out-the-trash debate.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby PeanutsNJam » Wed Jul 25, 2012 11:32 am

dudders wrote:
PeanutsNJam wrote:As the male in a relationship, it is a fatal mistake to be right.


Pretty sure the LSAT isn't the only problem in your relationship.

I don't recall the LSAT making me overanalyze my partner's arguments for logical fallacies or anything like that, so if it's having that effect on you, I have a feeling law school is going to be "fatal" to your relationship if it survives long enough for you to get your score back. Law school and the LSAT made me crabby and preoccupied, but they did not turn me into a bitch who manages to work sufficient vs. necessary into the taking-out-the-trash debate.


I said that tongue-in-cheek.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby LittleTree » Wed Jul 25, 2012 11:45 am

I'd dump your ass if you were so caught up in how smart a few practice tests had made you that you "analyzed" every one of my arguments.
Just turn it off around her. No reason to rub her face in the dirt just because powerscore has turned you into an intellectual powerhouse.

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Postby cc.celina » Wed Jul 25, 2012 11:48 am

Lol

I drove my bf CRAZY during lsat prep

(Mostly because it gave me the worst mood swings -- I react to stress by becoming psychotic)

It helps every now and then to just say something like "I'm sorry, I don't mean to be annoying to you, I'm just really stressed about this test and I'm taking it out on you." Also, given how much I freaked out about the lsat, my bf loved it when I texted him with little updates when I did well, and it helped me to have someone who was excited about my PTs, lol.

But yeah, try to filter yourself when you're talking to her. It's not fun for anyone to be constantly told that they're wrong. I have this problem where I love to argue for fun and I don't realize that my bf is taking it personally, so I had to consciously stop myself from debating everything he said.

If she is a good girlfriend she will understand that LSAT prep is all-consuming and it is not her fault. But it wouldn't help to remind her.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby heebie-jeebies » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:06 pm

PeanutsNJam wrote:As the male in a relationship, it is a fatal mistake to be right. What used to be normal casual disagreements about insignificant things with my girlfriend have transformed into me critically analyzing every single argument she comes up with. She doesn't like it. Anybody else have similar problems?


In addition to analyzing the arguments of a single person, you should take a step back and also work on your two-speaker method of argument and point at issue questions. For example, "PeanutsNJam's attempted refutation of his girlfriend's argument is vulnerable to criticism on the grounds that ..."

Moreover, it's probably good to have some disagreement with your girlfriend while you are preparing for the LSAT, since sexual intercourse is likely to dull your reasoning skills and distract you from getting a good score.
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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby cc.celina » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:06 pm

heebie-jeebies wrote:sexual intercourse is likely to dull your reasoning skills and distract you from getting a good score.

This is the falsest thing I've read on TLS to date

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby espressocream » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:07 pm

My bf is a phd student, so his career is also based on making an airtight argument.
I did it sometimes, but jokingly - and he appreciated it. Took the hits like a champ.
Not to say he didn't do the same to me, and it was fine. For us it was a good thing to
be aware of what we were saying, and if it made sense.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby mindarmed » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:10 pm

heebie-jeebies wrote:
Moreover, it's probably good to have some disagreement with your girlfriend while you are preparing for the LSAT, since sexual intercourse is likely to dull your reasoning skills and distract you from getting a good score.



This answer would be credited only if Michelle Bachmann was correct about anything.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby brewery33 » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:29 pm

Stop taking yourself so seriously and realize that it is just a test. The world will not end if you fuck it up, nor will you contract a serious illness.

Concentrate on the test and take a prep course. The prep course is completely a variable, however in doing so you will get explanations that may not come directly across the texts you are reading for prep.

One last thing, I am married and have figured out that most arguments are worthless wastes of time. Concede to normal human being talk.

Now stop being a bitch and complaining about your life and kill the test!

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby TrialLawyer16 » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:46 pm

I did and think a lot of people had this problem, especially when you first start getting heavy with studying. The good thing is you're realizing you're doing it. The next thing is to realize that even though you notice you're doing it with your girlfriend because of your arguments, you're probably doing it with everybody and possibly being a little snarky. It's kind of hard to turn it off when you're spending every available moment studying, so my advice would be to just maybe take your foot off the pedal a little bit and allow more time for relaxation/fun/just living life to go along with your studying. Maybe get on a study plan where you allocate a certain amount of hours per day or certain amount of pages in a prep book for studying (and don't go over that) and try to use the rest of the time to live your life as normal as possible.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby Colonel Angus » Wed Jul 25, 2012 1:52 pm

cc.celina wrote:
heebie-jeebies wrote:sexual intercourse is likely to dull your reasoning skills and distract you from getting a good score.

This is the falsest thing I've read on TLS to date

Don't you watch seinfeld, abstaining from sex makes men smart and women dumb. Obviously the credited response is to withhold sex until you're so much her intellectual superior she can't even tell when you're being a jackass.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby Eberry » Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:11 pm

StrictlyBusiness wrote:I, too, have this problem. Not from the LSAT though, my girlfriend is just wrong most of the time. And I'm an ass hole.


+1

This isn't getting the love it deserves.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby TheThriller » Wed Jul 25, 2012 2:54 pm

Moral of the story: Don't date at your age.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby JohnV » Thu Jul 26, 2012 11:25 am

I think it's normal for this to happen in any sort of argument while you are deep in LSAT study mode.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby Oscar85 » Thu Jul 26, 2012 11:35 am

No, that comes off as being douchey to me. However, I haven't really interacted with people due to my hermetic approach to the LSAT. And my parents and I communicate in another language, and I know I'll go crazy if I apply the LSAT to my Spanish interactions.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby sjwest » Thu Jul 26, 2012 11:39 am

cc.celina wrote:It helps every now and then to just say something like "I'm sorry, I don't mean to be annoying to you, I'm just really stressed about this test and I'm taking it out on you."


178. ;)

No but seriously. This. Don't mention how her arguments are poorly worded. After LSAT, this will go away, so blaming on the test is perfectly acceptable as well as partially true.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby Icculus » Thu Jul 26, 2012 11:41 am

JohnV wrote:I think it's normal for this to happen in any sort of argument while you are deep in LSAT study mode.


I shudder to think about how you all will act around people when actually in law school if you allow studying for the LSAT to impact your daily like life in such an obnoxious manner. I originally though the OP was a joke, but apparently this happens to people?

Eberry wrote:
StrictlyBusiness wrote:I, too, have this problem. Not from the LSAT though, my girlfriend is just wrong most of the time. And I'm an ass hole.


+1

This isn't getting the love it deserves.


+1

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby JohnV » Thu Jul 26, 2012 1:18 pm

Icculus wrote:
JohnV wrote:I think it's normal for this to happen in any sort of argument while you are deep in LSAT study mode.


I shudder to think about how you all will act around people when actually in law school if you allow studying for the LSAT to impact your daily like life in such an obnoxious manner. I originally though the OP was a joke, but apparently this happens to people?


You (as in, anyone identifying with this behavior) don't have to be an obnoxious dick about it, he didn't say he went around and nonchallantly picked apart their random conversations for logical faults. If you're in an argument with someone you are naturally going to try to best their argument with your own while making theirs weaker. That also happens to be what you are studying for multiple hours a day, every day, so it's not crazy to think you might apply the same process to a real life argument.

And I doubt the other person even recognizes it, it's probably more in the head of the OP/LSAT person because they are getting a little consumed by the test and can sense that there are similarities involved. I've noticed it some, but it hasn't resulted in 'more' arguments with my gf, it just results in a different dynamic that I vaguely notice.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby 6lehderjets » Thu Jul 26, 2012 1:31 pm

Better knock it off, or else you might become a regular in this thread.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby sd5289 » Thu Jul 26, 2012 1:34 pm

PeanutsNJam wrote:As the male in a relationship, it is a fatal mistake to be right. What used to be normal casual disagreements about insignificant things with my girlfriend have transformed into me critically analyzing every single argument she comes up with. She doesn't like it. Anybody else have similar problems?


Lol. :lol:

Crazy.

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Re: LSAT is ruining my relationship!

Postby Adam Banks » Thu Jul 26, 2012 8:07 pm

StrictlyBusiness wrote:I, too, have this problem. Not from the LSAT though, my girlfriend is just wrong most of the time. And I'm an ass hole.

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Postby ninetails » Fri Jul 27, 2012 12:51 am

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