To stay or not to stay in this relationship

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Should I stay in this relationship?

Break-up!
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Stay in the relationship and make it work you douche!
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Total Litigator
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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby Total Litigator » Thu Jun 23, 2011 12:12 pm

RUM wrote: Then as he gets shorter and you work out all day to get taller



Yes... this is how life works.... what on earth are you saying lol

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby worldtraveler » Thu Jun 23, 2011 1:39 pm

I feel like voting for him to stay just to keep him out of the dating pool. Since he might be in Northern CA I might encounter him at some point and that scares me.

I also fail to see how wanting to move with him for law school makes her "needy". I think most people in a serious long-term relationship would contemplate moving with their significant other.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby environmentallaw » Thu Jun 23, 2011 1:50 pm

This is a joke, right? I'm a bit concerned that so many posters took the OP seriously...

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby aaaaaah » Thu Jun 23, 2011 2:11 pm

Is the OP the Brazilian birthday guy? He has to be, right?

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby coldshoulder » Thu Jun 23, 2011 5:57 pm

tobeornottobe wrote:She told me she would never have lost her virginity to me had she known I would break up with her.


She's nuts. You're probably also a little nuts. End it, start over somewhere else in the country, without her.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby quixotical » Thu Jun 23, 2011 6:18 pm

aaaaaah wrote:Is the OP the Brazilian birthday guy? He has to be, right?


I thought the same thing-- maybe OP is a flexityflex alt? Anyone seen flex around lately? Although OP didn't mention collecting cologne, so it might just be another douchey guy who thinks he's, like, super totally hot!!1!

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby FantasticMrFox » Thu Jun 23, 2011 6:20 pm

quixotical wrote:
aaaaaah wrote:Is the OP the Brazilian birthday guy? He has to be, right?


I thought the same thing-- maybe OP is a flexityflex alt? Anyone seen flex around lately? Although OP didn't mention collecting cologne, so it might just be another douchey guy who thinks he's, like, super totally hot!!1!

dunno if I said this already or not but I like your avatar :D

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby quixotical » Thu Jun 23, 2011 6:28 pm

FantasticMrFox wrote:
quixotical wrote:
aaaaaah wrote:Is the OP the Brazilian birthday guy? He has to be, right?


I thought the same thing-- maybe OP is a flexityflex alt? Anyone seen flex around lately? Although OP didn't mention collecting cologne, so it might just be another douchey guy who thinks he's, like, super totally hot!!1!

dunno if I said this already or not but I like your avatar :D


Thanks foxy! :D

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby Rooney » Fri Jun 24, 2011 10:59 am

Scoreboard.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby northwood » Fri Jun 24, 2011 11:02 am

TLDR. if you are not happy now- why do you think you can changer her or the relationship. end it before people get overly attached and committed to the relationship ( or settle) and find someone new. its easier to end things now, than have to deal with that drama later ( when all you are doing is just going to make it worse by stringing it along).

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby bllardw » Tue Jun 28, 2011 2:11 pm

hooma wrote:
tobeornottobe wrote:I should write a book about my life. It would make for an interesting story.


This would not make for an interesting story.


+1

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby dturnbull87 » Wed Jun 29, 2011 12:51 pm

Doesn't look good with makeup and you're still with her? Mate, find a woman that looks good with and without it. You may go broke from caving in all the time and buying her jewelry and she may not be able to afford the stuff that "makes her pretty".

But if you're only looking at her in the dark, then...go ahead and ignore TLS

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby tobeornottobe » Mon Jul 04, 2011 2:18 am

decided to not be a douche and make it work.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby DonDrapersAttorney » Mon Jul 04, 2011 2:24 am

El_Gallo wrote:I love that this is your first post on TLS

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby Danteshek » Mon Jul 04, 2011 2:53 am

tobeornottobe wrote:decided to not be a douche and make it work.


If you were in a good relationship, it would not be "work"

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby Blessedassurance » Mon Jul 04, 2011 2:59 am

tobeornottobe wrote: Dated a fat, needy chick and I'm thinking of dumping her because I want to explore my options and think I could do better now that I'm going to LS

What the hell should I do? Stay or break up before law school?


Summarized for clarity.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby stratocophic » Mon Jul 04, 2011 3:02 am

Lololol how did I miss this thread? Drug in all of BP, had people raging, either 0 self-awareness or excellent flame... magnifico.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby Blessedassurance » Mon Jul 04, 2011 3:11 am

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby sunynp » Mon Jul 04, 2011 7:10 am

tobeornottobe wrote:decided to not be a douche and make it work.


You are already a douche and have no hope of ever being anything but a douche.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby piccolittle » Tue Jul 05, 2011 10:45 am

tobeornottobe wrote:decided to not be a douche and make it work.


This is your douchiest move yet. Good luck with that.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby HopefulGrad » Wed Jul 06, 2011 1:14 pm

This has to be the dumbest thread ever... Is the OP serious? I particularly loved the makeup reason... I'm going to ask my boyfriend how he feels about me without makeup.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby bport hopeful » Wed Jul 06, 2011 1:18 pm

Only read the OP, so sorry if anyone already said this, and Im sure they have because its the obvious answer, but you should dump her because of points 2-4.

If shes busted and annoying let her go dude.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby feadogger » Wed Jul 06, 2011 5:12 pm

OP: I will not address how YOU feel. I think enough people have done that, in spades. Whether shallow, immature, or whatever, they are your feelings that only you can resolve. Best I can do is give you a similar scenario and its consequences just as a cautionary tale.

I have been with my beloved for 18 years now. The hardest time in our relationship was when I was in vet school - I left and went across half our state while he stayed in our hometown getting his UG. On ICU rotations, I worked from 5 am to 10 pm or 12 pm to 3 am alternating shifts. When I got home, I didn't even want to talk on the phone to him. I just wanted to sit and NOT think for a while. This made him feel unloved and neglected, and if he wasn't more mature it would have ended our relationship. I assume the hours will be similar, if not worse, in LS. At least you won't have to sleep in a barn on a bale of hay . . .

Back to my point which is that it sounds like she is even more needy than my husband was at that time. IMHO, I don't think your relationship can survive the stress LS will cause to HER.

I'm not trashing what you have said about her because the internet is like riding in a car or being inebriated . . . people will say things they normally wouldn't dare, since they are cloaked with anonymity or EtOH. I think the internet causes severe diarrhea of the mouth that wouldn't normally happen. Consider what you have read carefully, and if you truly FEEL what you are saying, you know what to do.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby BrianGriffintheDog » Wed Jul 06, 2011 5:20 pm

tobeornottobe wrote:The difference between her with make-up and without make-up is like night and day. She has gained weight and does not seem to want to lose it.


The moment she starts to stop caring herself (in other words, respect herself) is when the spark is gone.

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Re: To stay or not to stay in this relationship

Postby bport hopeful » Wed Jul 06, 2011 6:00 pm

feadogger wrote:OP: I will not address how YOU feel. I think enough people have done that, in spades. Whether shallow, immature, or whatever, they are your feelings that only you can resolve. Best I can do is give you a similar scenario and its consequences just as a cautionary tale.

I have been with my beloved for 18 years now. The hardest time in our relationship was when I was in vet school - I left and went across half our state while he stayed in our hometown getting his UG. On ICU rotations, I worked from 5 am to 10 pm or 12 pm to 3 am alternating shifts. When I got home, I didn't even want to talk on the phone to him. I just wanted to sit and NOT think for a while. This made him feel unloved and neglected, and if he wasn't more mature it would have ended our relationship. I assume the hours will be similar, if not worse, in LS. At least you won't have to sleep in a barn on a bale of hay . . .

Back to my point which is that it sounds like she is even more needy than my husband was at that time. IMHO, I don't think your relationship can survive the stress LS will cause to HER.

I'm not trashing what you have said about her because the internet is like riding in a car or being inebriated . . . people will say things they normally wouldn't dare, since they are cloaked with anonymity or EtOH. I think the internet causes severe diarrhea of the mouth that wouldn't normally happen. Consider what you have read carefully, and if you truly FEEL what you are saying, you know what to do.

How is this the advice you give after that story. Also, it is illegal to work in health care for more than 16 hours.




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