delusional wrote: I am of the radical opinion that while it is not within your parents' rights to control what you do, it is still wrong for you to take no account of their opinions. Whether their judgement is right or wrong, frontwards or backwards, it would behoove you to show a little respect for them. Doing small things they don't approve of when they're not around is no big deal, but to adopt a living arrangement against their wishes is wrong, unless they were abusive or neglectful.
No. My idea of showing respect is keeping in contact with my parents and maintaining a good relationship. Every so often I get unsolicited advice from my parents. I don't always follow it, but I consider what my parents think important.
That said, to kowtow to your parents' wishes/keep an illusion of doing what they want is cowardly and betrays something far more serious- a lack of respect for yourself. My parents don't want me living in with my current girlfriend, but their rabid dislike for her is so off base and illogical I refuse to acknowledge it. And I refuse to lie about my lifestyle or put any effort into maintaining some sort of facade. My parents are very intelligent, and often give helpful advice, but they're not infallible. If your parents' religion/worldviews pressure you into making lifestyle choices against your own desires, and you're a fucking college graduate, grow the fuck up. Seriously. I don't want my parents to always see me as the obedient little son, I want them to see me as an independent man capable of my own life decisions, whether they like it or not. If you're older than say, 22 or so and your parents hold your lifestyle choices against you, they're
the ones who are wrong. We're talking about adults
here for fuck's sake, not tweens.