Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

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Dating during law school is a...

good idea
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bad idea
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15%
meh
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Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby doing_it_in_a_car » Wed Dec 22, 2010 5:32 am

Is there hope for law school couples? Is it very uncommon to date in law school? Is there even time to maintain a relationship?

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Helmholtz » Wed Dec 22, 2010 5:34 am

Depends on the relationship and the personality/dependence of the other person.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby LurkerNoMore » Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:16 am

If you are both mature individuals, it's no big deal. If you aren't, then yeah, it's a bad idea. If you break up, you'll still have to see them. You will still have friends in common. It's not the end of the world, though.

If you aren't talking about dating someone in your LS class, but just dating in general, if you can't find time for a relationship, you are doing LS wrong. You might choose not to have a relationship and use LS as an excuse, but seriously, LS and relationships are perfectly compatible.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby homestyle28 » Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:29 am

I voted meh, b/c fundamentally this is an internet forum and the answer is almost always meh.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby kwais » Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:35 am

busy adults have relationships. nothing special about law school

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Hoopster » Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:40 am

I know a couple at YLS. They met right after starting at the law school last year. They are still going strong to this day and will likely marry at some point. And oh yes, they are outstanding students with excellent career prospects having nabbed V5 SA positions next summer, and also busy with sports and the law journals as well. It's very possible their accomplishments are a result of being in a relationship.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby reasonable_man » Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:52 am

While personally, I'd rather chew glass than date a lawyer or law student, I don't see why someone cannot maintain relationships during law school. I'm busier now as a lawyer than I was as a law student and I maintain my relationships just fine.. I mean do people really take a vow of non-fornication/coupling for 3 years of law school?

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby danquayle » Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:53 am

Bill and Hilary met in law school.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby giddybiscuit » Wed Dec 22, 2010 10:21 am

my mum and dad also met during law school.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby plenipotentiary » Wed Dec 22, 2010 10:33 am

Hoopster wrote:It's very possible their accomplishments are a result of being in a relationship.


How do you figure that?

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Drake014 » Wed Dec 22, 2010 10:38 am

If you find an exceptional woman, go for it. Its harder to find "the one" then it is to find a job. And right now, its really really really hard to find a job.

If you don't run into an exceptional woman, don't go looking. One bad fight during finals and you just fucked up your semester, and possibly job prospects. I'm just fortunate that all of my bloodiest fights occurred during 2L rather than 1L.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby BriaTharen » Wed Dec 22, 2010 2:38 pm

After seeing one or two relationships go bad in first semester, I'm starting to agree with 2Ls that told me to hold of on serious relationships until 2L year. Just casually date in 1L.

EDIT: Also, do your best to not date people in your section if possible

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Kobe_Teeth » Wed Dec 22, 2010 3:00 pm

My S/O and I actually got along really well during my first semester. Its break that we're worried about. We both are off until the middle of January (she teaches), could be a looooooong few weeks.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Hoopster » Wed Dec 22, 2010 3:39 pm

plenipotentiary wrote:
Hoopster wrote:It's very possible their accomplishments are a result of being in a relationship.


How do you figure that?


Individually, they are competitive by nature. Being together, they probably bring out the best in each other, not wanting to disappoint the other. It's all in good but serious fun. The girl said as much so I take her word for it.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby blazinswordofjustice » Wed Dec 22, 2010 3:44 pm

I voted meh, b/c fundamentally this is an internet forum and the answer is almost always meh.


+1

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Gotti » Thu Dec 23, 2010 1:53 pm

danquayle wrote:Bill and Hilary met in law school.



LOL

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Pleasye » Thu Dec 23, 2010 2:09 pm

Hoopster wrote:I know a couple at YLS. They met right after starting at the law school last year. They are still going strong to this day and will likely marry at some point. And oh yes, they are outstanding students with excellent career prospects having nabbed V5 SA positions next summer, and also busy with sports and the law journals as well. It's very possible their accomplishments are a result of being in a relationship at Yale.

FTFY.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby IAFG » Fri Dec 24, 2010 4:08 am

dating a 1L sucks balls. they're moody, insecure, whiney, feel entitled to not do dishes, laundry or bathe, tiny inconveniences are treated as major stumbling blocks (wait in LINE at the BANK? don't you know i am a fucking 1L and this is the MOST IMPORTANT YEAR EVAR!?!?), their sex drive often falls off, they cancel plans, don't return calls, set gchat to invisible to avoid human contact, make shitty law-related jokes (i'd like to 12(b)(6) that gunner asshole!) and generally weren't all that pleasant before they came to law school, or they wouldn't have done so.

if you can find someone who will tolerate these traits, they're probably a doormat with low self-esteem.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby irishman86 » Fri Dec 24, 2010 4:44 am

IAFG wrote:dating a 1L sucks balls. they're moody, insecure, whiney, feel entitled to not do dishes, laundry or bathe, tiny inconveniences are treated as major stumbling blocks (wait in LINE at the BANK? don't you know i am a fucking 1L and this is the MOST IMPORTANT YEAR EVAR!?!?), their sex drive often falls off, they cancel plans, don't return calls, set gchat to invisible to avoid human contact, make shitty law-related jokes (i'd like to 12(b)(6) that gunner asshole!) and generally weren't all that pleasant before they came to law school, or they wouldn't have done so.

if you can find someone who will tolerate these traits, they're probably a doormat with low self-esteem.


THIS

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Mickey Quicknumbers » Fri Dec 24, 2010 4:49 am

Dating 1L's is probably the crappiest idea ever, I agree with IAFG completely. Seriously, if you're dating a 1L you need to break up with them right away before you get too attached.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby mths » Fri Dec 24, 2010 8:19 am

IAFG wrote:dating a 1L sucks balls. they're moody, insecure, whiney, feel entitled to not do dishes, laundry or bathe, tiny inconveniences are treated as major stumbling blocks (wait in LINE at the BANK? don't you know i am a fucking 1L and this is the MOST IMPORTANT YEAR EVAR!?!?), their sex drive often falls off, they cancel plans, don't return calls, set gchat to invisible to avoid human contact, make shitty law-related jokes (i'd like to 12(b)(6) that gunner asshole!) and generally weren't all that pleasant before they came to law school, or they wouldn't have done so.

if you can find someone who will tolerate these traits, they're probably a doormat with low self-esteem.

You didn't tell me you were dating a 1L.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby chup » Fri Dec 24, 2010 10:43 am

Helmholtz wrote:Depends on the relationship and the personality/dependence of the other person.

Should have /thread right there.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby Grizz » Fri Dec 24, 2010 11:15 am

BriaTharen wrote:After seeing one or two relationships go bad in first semester, I'm starting to agree with 2Ls that told me to hold of on serious relationships until 2L year. Just casually date in 1L.

EDIT: Also, do your best to not date people in your section if possible


This is pretty good advice. I'm dating a 1L in my section. Oops. But I echo the "hold off on the seriousness" sentiment. Pretty much all the other 1Ls I know are taking the same route.

Honestly though, it's nice to never have to explain why I want to spend every night in the 'bary.

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby IAFG » Fri Dec 24, 2010 12:31 pm

mths wrote:
IAFG wrote:dating a 1L sucks balls. they're moody, insecure, whiney, feel entitled to not do dishes, laundry or bathe, tiny inconveniences are treated as major stumbling blocks (wait in LINE at the BANK? don't you know i am a fucking 1L and this is the MOST IMPORTANT YEAR EVAR!?!?), their sex drive often falls off, they cancel plans, don't return calls, set gchat to invisible to avoid human contact, make shitty law-related jokes (i'd like to 12(b)(6) that gunner asshole!) and generally weren't all that pleasant before they came to law school, or they wouldn't have done so.

if you can find someone who will tolerate these traits, they're probably a doormat with low self-esteem.

You didn't tell me you were dating a 1L.

i'm dating a 2L; this is describing myself

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Re: Dating during law school: as bad an idea as it sounds?

Postby D. H2Oman » Fri Dec 24, 2010 2:11 pm

danquayle wrote:Bill and Hilary met in law school.



Ok I'm convinced. Don't do it.




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