Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

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Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby disneyprincess » Mon Sep 20, 2010 11:22 am

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plenipotentiary
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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby plenipotentiary » Mon Sep 20, 2010 11:31 am

You probably already know that law school classes are graded on a curve. I think competing against your boyfriend for grades (and job opportunities) sounds like a terrible idea. Romantic relationships should not be zero-sum. In light of that, one idea that you don't seem to have considered is for one of you to take a year off, so that you can go to the same school but not be fighting over class rank.

Also, both of you should retake the LSAT. ;)

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby buckilaw » Mon Sep 20, 2010 11:46 am

Retake The LSAT. Use your new scores to decide on a city. A few cities with multiple schools are Columbus, Cleveland, Boston, Chicago, NYC, and DC. Given your previous scores and GPAs I think Columbus and Cleveland are your most realistic choices; although I personally would not attend any school in Ohio except OSU. Imho the best you could hope for is to retake and score above 165, this would bring BU and BC into play. Although that is far from a sure thing since both of your GPAs are on the lowside for BU and BC.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby king3780 » Mon Sep 20, 2010 12:12 pm

disneyprincess wrote:The issue is, we have pretty similar stats, and there's not many cities where two schools exist within an hour of each other that are of the same caliber. I have a 162/3.32, and he has a 163/2.83.


These are not "pretty similar stats." There's a half point difference in your GPAs. That's a huge difference. Pick a school, any school and put your numbers and his numbers in law school predictor and see what happens. For your numbers, you get seven admits and a bunch of strong considers in the top 2 tiers. He gets three admits and 3-4 strong considers.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby reasonable_man » Mon Sep 20, 2010 12:18 pm

NYC. You go to Cardozo and he goes to Brooklyn Law school. You both graduate unemployed with six figure debt.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby paratactical » Mon Sep 20, 2010 12:20 pm

king3780 wrote:
disneyprincess wrote:The issue is, we have pretty similar stats, and there's not many cities where two schools exist within an hour of each other that are of the same caliber. I have a 162/3.32, and he has a 163/2.83.


These are not "pretty similar stats." There's a half point difference in your GPAs. That's a huge difference. Pick a school, any school and put your numbers and his numbers in law school predictor and see what happens. For your numbers, you get seven admits and a bunch of strong considers in the top 2 tiers. He gets three admits and 3-4 strong considers.


+1

If you can't figure out two schools that are kind of close and go to the same school, either you'll be selling yourself short and going to a school he can barely get into or you'll be happy without a ton of debt and he'll be drowning in it.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby 180orbust » Mon Sep 20, 2010 9:22 pm

Don't worry about law school interfering with your relationship if you go to school together or in the same city. You will be too busy for that nonsense. And it will be nice to have support. It may hinder your ability to network with your classmates. Philly is a possibility: Temple, Nova, Rutgers comes to mind. True love conquers all.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby Kswizzie » Mon Sep 20, 2010 9:27 pm

reasonable_man wrote:NYC. You go to Cardozo and he goes to Brooklyn Law school. You both graduate unemployed with six figure debt.


quite good, quite good

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby dextermorgan » Mon Sep 20, 2010 9:34 pm

reasonable_man wrote:NYC. You go to Cardozo and he goes to Brooklyn Law school. You both graduate unemployed with six figure debt.

Perfect solution.

Seriously though, have you thought about going at different times? One of you goes first while the other gains work experience (probably him to distance himself from that horrendous gpa), and then you switch. It has worked for couples in similar situations.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby waitlisted1 » Tue Sep 21, 2010 12:09 am

I know one story won't make a difference. But I interned at a firm where a guy and his wife both worked. They met early in undergrad, dated, and then ended up going to the same law school (he said they each chose separately and didn't tell each other until they made their decision and then they happened to choose the same one...who knows if that part is true). Either way, they are married and they had a kid while i was interning there. The guy is 30 years old. While at school he said he lived in a house with some random other law school guys. I don't know what she did. And then I think third year they lived together. But he said that year he had no classes on fridays and she did so he was able to go out and get hammered with the guys and then come back.

Anyway, just figured i'd give that anecdote.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby im_blue » Tue Sep 21, 2010 12:35 am

reasonable_man wrote:NYC. You go to Cardozo St. John's and he goes to Brooklyn New York Law school. You both graduate unemployed with six figure debt.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby Cupidity » Tue Sep 21, 2010 12:41 am

Assuming neither of you compromises rank, going to the same school--or similarly located schools is a great idea. I'd encourage you to look into the Boston area, several schools covering the entire range of possible ranks, effective transit between all of them so that a mid point wouldn't be more than 20 minutes for either.

You didn't state whether or not you have lived together previously. If you have been cohabitating successfully, no worries. If not....this may not be the time to experiment. That caution aside, go for it.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby Kobe_Teeth » Tue Sep 21, 2010 12:51 am

There's a couple who attends my law school. They only sit by each other. They are ALWAYS with each other. They don't hang out with anyone else. They seem like nice people but everyone hates them. They're SUPER-annoying.

If you decide to do this and get a choice, try to be in different sections. Branch out. Make friends.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby ResolutePear » Tue Sep 21, 2010 1:26 am

Alpha Rule #1: Never give your woman alpha status.

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Postby 005618502 » Tue Sep 21, 2010 1:45 am

ResolutePear wrote:Alpha Rule #1: Never give your woman alpha status.


+1

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby reasonable_man » Tue Sep 21, 2010 2:42 am

im_blue wrote:
reasonable_man wrote:NYC. You go to Cardozo St. John's and he goes to Brooklyn New York Law school. You both graduate unemployed with six figure debt.



While I agree that you're solution would likely yield the same outcome, its pretty well settled that my solution also works.. You're just about as fucked at SJU and NYLS as you are at Schmozzo and BLS..

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby 20160810 » Tue Sep 21, 2010 2:47 am

Going to someplace like NYC, DC, Chicago or LA where there are a bunch of different mediocre law schools is the only credited response here unless both of you want to retake.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby Baylan » Wed Sep 22, 2010 6:10 pm

There is a married couple at my school.

They are in different sections.

I am not friends with them.

This post is almost useless.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby Pip » Thu Sep 23, 2010 9:36 am

You mention not wanting to be smothered... the fact that you mention that means you would be better off breaking up. When 1 person feels smothered that isn't something that will get better over time it will only get worse.

You've heard of 1 person on this thread telling a story about a husband and wife that met in undergrad and continued through law school into practice... well that's 1... I don't think you will be the other 1 in a 1,000,000. Do yourself a favor and stop trying to live like a married couple, go out on your own. Even if you both made it into the same city or law school the odds are not that great that you would both score equal jobs after school. Odds are great that you would get into a better school and get a better job and he would then resent it and break up with you so just do it now.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby reasonable_man » Thu Sep 23, 2010 1:31 pm

Baylan wrote:There is a married couple at my school.

They are in different sections.

I am not friends with them.

This post is almost useless.


I wouldn't say it is almost useless... I'd day it is completely useless.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby sandiecohen47 » Thu Sep 23, 2010 1:40 pm

This post hits very close to home. My boyfriend and I met in an East Coast city between undergrad and law school. We studied and took the September 2009 LSAT together, applied to law schools at the same time with a lot of overlap and are now 60 miles from each other on the West Coast at two top-30 law schools. It's pretty great to have another 1L who respects my time and understands what I'm going through without any of the competition.

I have seen him 6 of the past 7 weekends and it's been great. There was a month there during the application process in which we were looking at a 2,500 mile distance. That would have sucked... a lot. But, I do know of a 1L friend at Boalt who is dating another 1L in NYC and they seem to be doing great. Video chat and Skype are relationship-saving inventions.

You will be ridiculously busy your 1L year. My advice: kill those applications and see what happens. If you are far apart your 1L year and you still miss and love the other person, that can provide an incentive to kick ass and transfer.

Good luck!

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby ResolutePear » Fri Sep 24, 2010 4:56 pm

Why is this damn thread still alive? I don't even

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby kurla88 » Fri Sep 24, 2010 5:09 pm

It seems a little early to be thinking about this. You apply where you want to go, he applies where he wants to go. Make sure there's some of the same schools and same cities on your lists.

AFTER you get in, get scholarship offers etc, start thinking about whether it's feasible to be in the same city or at the same school. At this point it's all idle speculation.

And your being above the 3.0 barrier is going to be pretty significant.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby dresden doll » Fri Sep 24, 2010 5:20 pm

Mature people can handle going to school with one another without either side feeling smothered.

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Re: Going to the same school with my boyfriend?

Postby IAFG » Fri Sep 24, 2010 5:31 pm

dresden doll wrote:Mature people can handle going to school with one another without either side feeling smothered.

yup.

that said law school is a bad idea for both of you with those numbers. get jobs.




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