I HATE MY BOYFRIEND !@#!!@#! Forum

[Good Guy Gaud]

I didn't pass and when results came out he called and rubbed that fail in my face.

Wow. What a dick

[robinhoodOO]

You should seriously consider dumping someone who does that to you two days before the bar exam. If you've made any significant effort to let him know what a tough time this is for you and how high the stakes are and how much you need to focus, then he's either intentionally sabotaging you, monumentally selfish, or really dumb.

You are assuming she has explained this to him before. Not arguing for him, but we should be aware of both possibilities before crucifying anyone.

Assuming: AKA giving her the benefit of the doubt

[El Pollito]

I had the same issue with an exBF . Drama hit day two after MBEs he called and just had to go on and on and make it all about him. He didn't take it with me he took in July. I was tired I wanted to brush up on some other things but he just needed of all nights to be super self absorbed. I did not sleep at all that night and bombed day three.

I finally pulled the plug. I was warned about law school relationships and learned the hard way. Suffice to say it ended and I just had to take time away and really kicked myself during the stressful wait for results thinking dumb dumb dumb why did I engage in that conversation the night before day three. I didn't pass and when results came out he called and rubbed that fail in my face.

I'm now at my testing center, scared to death he may be here on Tuesday. I'm praying he is a creature of habit and is taking it in Pasadena again and not where I am because it would suck to see him. Thankfully there is a proctor here at my testing center who is friends with my dad and a scary son of a bitch if need be haha.

You honestly need to learn from this strangers mistake...cut out the sabotage and focus on passing. Your do-over is coming back like me. I should have known my DB would pull what he pulled on the last bar. He'd break up with me before finals knowing it would mess my head up. Karma is a bitch

Best of luck to you.

this sounds more like an abusive asshole problem than a law school relationship problem

[Good Guy Gaud]

OFS

She needs to drop that sucker

[despina]

You should seriously consider dumping someone who does that to you two days before the bar exam. If you've made any significant effort to let him know what a tough time this is for you and how high the stakes are and how much you need to focus, then he's either intentionally sabotaging you, monumentally selfish, or really dumb.

Agreed (assuming, as others have said, that (a) you had a conversation about expectations at the beginning of this nonsense and (b) he's not going through something super serious like death of a parent etc where he actually does need emotional support from you).

[victortsoi]

You should seriously consider dumping someone who does that to you two days before the bar exam. If you've made any significant effort to let him know what a tough time this is for you and how high the stakes are and how much you need to focus, then he's either intentionally sabotaging you, monumentally selfish, or really dumb.

Agreed (assuming, as others have said, that (a) you had a conversation about expectations at the beginning of this nonsense and (b) he's not going through something super serious like death of a parent etc where he actually does need emotional support from you).

i think you forgot to list (c) the requirement for bad faith or actual malicious intent, in some jurisdictions.

[redblueyellow]

I had this issue previously with a GF.

I sat her down before bar prep and let her know that I'd be relatively unavailable. I told her that I could text her every now and then, but I wasn't going to Skype/call her during the last month. She seemed to get it, but sometimes she'd still get a bit bothersome.

I then told her that if she didn't leave me alone, I'd definitely fail and she'd have to go through this again and next time I'd pretty much just not respond to her.

She hasn't bothered in me in two weeks except late at night before she goes off to sleep.

[despina]

You should seriously consider dumping someone who does that to you two days before the bar exam. If you've made any significant effort to let him know what a tough time this is for you and how high the stakes are and how much you need to focus, then he's either intentionally sabotaging you, monumentally selfish, or really dumb.

Agreed (assuming, as others have said, that (a) you had a conversation about expectations at the beginning of this nonsense and (b) he's not going through something super serious like death of a parent etc where he actually does need emotional support from you).

i think you forgot to list (c) the requirement for bad faith or actual malicious intent, in some jurisdictions.

Ha. In my personal jurisdiction, (c) is only required for the first of the three possibilities that anon sequitur lists, but all three offenses are permanent bars from dating me if proved by a preponderance of the evidence. Here I think we're closer to clear and convincing if not BRD.

[kyle010723]

Agreed (assuming, as others have said, that (a) you had a conversation about expectations at the beginning of this nonsense and (b) he's not going through something super serious like death of a parent etc where he actually does need emotional support from you).

i think you forgot to list (c) the requirement for bad faith or actual malicious intent, in some jurisdictions.

At issue is whether the bf was negligent. Negligent analysis is: (1) duty, (2) breach, (3) causation, and (4) damage

Did the bf owe any duty, if so, what kind of standard? If the bf owed a duty, did he breach the duty? Assuming OP suffered damages, was it caused by bf's breach of duty?

Here, it appeared that causation and damages were established, the remaining question is did bf had a duty and did he breach?

Finally, the question is whether bf had any viable defense?

Alternatively, maybe bf's conduct was intentional, extreme and outrageous...

[despina]

I had this issue previously with a GF.

I sat her down before bar prep and let her know that I'd be relatively unavailable. I told her that I could text her every now and then, but I wasn't going to Skype/call her during the last month. She seemed to get it, but sometimes she'd still get a bit bothersome.

You told your GF you were going AWOL for an entire month? I understand "I can't have long conversations every day, and I don't necessarily text you back within an hour," but no communication for a month would definitely be a dealbreaker... if I were a reasonable girlfriend in similar circumstances...

[despina]

the remaining question is did bf had a duty and did he breach?

There's definitely some res ipsa to be had here. There's no "we need to talk" two days before the bar without negligence in there somewhere...

[El Pollito]

Agreed (assuming, as others have said, that (a) you had a conversation about expectations at the beginning of this nonsense and (b) he's not going through something super serious like death of a parent etc where he actually does need emotional support from you).

i think you forgot to list (c) the requirement for bad faith or actual malicious intent, in some jurisdictions.

At issue is whether the bf was negligent. Negligent analysis is: (1) duty, (2) breach, (3) causation, and (4) damage

Did the bf owe any duty, if so, what kind of standard? If the bf owed a duty, did he breach the duty? Assuming OP suffered damages, was it caused by bf's breach of duty?

Here, it appeared that causation and damages were established, the remaining question is did bf had a duty and did he breach?

Finally, the question is whether bf had any viable defense?

Alternatively, maybe bf's conduct was intentional, extreme and outrageous...

i hope you all fail

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[robinhoodOO]

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[redblueyellow]

I had this issue previously with a GF.

I sat her down before bar prep and let her know that I'd be relatively unavailable. I told her that I could text her every now and then, but I wasn't going to Skype/call her during the last month. She seemed to get it, but sometimes she'd still get a bit bothersome.

You told your GF you were going AWOL for an entire month? I understand "I can't have long conversations every day, and I don't necessarily text you back within an hour," but no communication for a month would definitely be a dealbreaker... if I were a reasonable girlfriend in similar circumstances...

No, I would text back during the day, but definitely no phone calls, meeting up, etc. I'm already stressed and underprepared as it is, and if I did anything with the GF, i'd be even more screwed.

If it's late at night before bed, I'd be OK with a quick 2-3 min chat.

But yea, during the day, basically AWOL save for a few texts. She did the same thing during Boards and I was perfectly fine with it.

[kyle010723]

Eh, we're all under a lot of stress. If OP's bf does not understand that, the best course of action is to ignore him for the next few days until after the Bar. Any decision as to their relationship status right now will likely be irrational.

[robinhoodOO]

I had this issue previously with a GF.

I sat her down before bar prep and let her know that I'd be relatively unavailable. I told her that I could text her every now and then, but I wasn't going to Skype/call her during the last month. She seemed to get it, but sometimes she'd still get a bit bothersome.

You told your GF you were going AWOL for an entire month? I understand "I can't have long conversations every day, and I don't necessarily text you back within an hour," but no communication for a month would definitely be a dealbreaker... if I were a reasonable girlfriend in similar circumstances...

No, I would text back during the day, but definitely no phone calls, meeting up, etc. I'm already stressed and underprepared as it is, and if I did anything with the GF, i'd be even more screwed.

If it's late at night before bed, I'd be OK with a quick 2-3 min chat.

But yea, during the day, basically AWOL save for a few texts. She did the same thing during Boards and I was perfectly fine with it.

You're lucky you don't have kids. My wife still expects me to talk to, hold, and occasionally rock our 1 year old, etc. Outlandish expectations

[redblueyellow]

I had this issue previously with a GF.

I sat her down before bar prep and let her know that I'd be relatively unavailable. I told her that I could text her every now and then, but I wasn't going to Skype/call her during the last month. She seemed to get it, but sometimes she'd still get a bit bothersome.

You told your GF you were going AWOL for an entire month? I understand "I can't have long conversations every day, and I don't necessarily text you back within an hour," but no communication for a month would definitely be a dealbreaker... if I were a reasonable girlfriend in similar circumstances...

No, I would text back during the day, but definitely no phone calls, meeting up, etc. I'm already stressed and underprepared as it is, and if I did anything with the GF, i'd be even more screwed.

If it's late at night before bed, I'd be OK with a quick 2-3 min chat.

But yea, during the day, basically AWOL save for a few texts. She did the same thing during Boards and I was perfectly fine with it.

You're lucky you don't have kids. My wife still expects me to talk to, hold, and occasionally rock our 1 year old, etc. Outlandish expectations

There's only one option.

I think you know what it is.

[robinhoodOO]

I had this issue previously with a GF.

I sat her down before bar prep and let her know that I'd be relatively unavailable. I told her that I could text her every now and then, but I wasn't going to Skype/call her during the last month. She seemed to get it, but sometimes she'd still get a bit bothersome.

You told your GF you were going AWOL for an entire month? I understand "I can't have long conversations every day, and I don't necessarily text you back within an hour," but no communication for a month would definitely be a dealbreaker... if I were a reasonable girlfriend in similar circumstances...

No, I would text back during the day, but definitely no phone calls, meeting up, etc. I'm already stressed and underprepared as it is, and if I did anything with the GF, i'd be even more screwed.

If it's late at night before bed, I'd be OK with a quick 2-3 min chat.

But yea, during the day, basically AWOL save for a few texts. She did the same thing during Boards and I was perfectly fine with it.

You're lucky you don't have kids. My wife still expects me to talk to, hold, and occasionally rock our 1 year old, etc. Outlandish expectations

There's only one option.

I think you know what it is.

It was Robin Hood. In the Kitchen. With the law book.

[anon sequitur]

If you've made any significant effort to let him know what a tough time this is for you ...

You are assuming she has explained this to him before. Not arguing for him, but we should be aware of both possibilities before crucifying anyone.

Are you unfamiliar with the word "if"?

[Calicakes]

I just tell the wife go make me a sammich then leave me alone.

But I guess she's stuck with me so it's a little different.

I'm so lucky that my wife is extremely supportive, even though its now my 3rd time taking it. She works 10hr days as a police officer, yet comes home and does EVERYTHING( except cook) in the house and goes out of her way to make my life easier. Of course she keeps saying that when I get a job, she can retire. LOL. Yeah, thats not going to happen. Maybe because we're both women, its "easier"? She did say last night that she can't wait until this is over because I've been a little "bitchy".

[Elston Gunn]

I had this issue previously with a GF.

I sat her down before bar prep and let her know that I'd be relatively unavailable. I told her that I could text her every now and then, but I wasn't going to Skype/call her during the last month. She seemed to get it, but sometimes she'd still get a bit bothersome.

You told your GF you were going AWOL for an entire month? I understand "I can't have long conversations every day, and I don't necessarily text you back within an hour," but no communication for a month would definitely be a dealbreaker... if I were a reasonable girlfriend in similar circumstances...

No, I would text back during the day, but definitely no phone calls, meeting up, etc. I'm already stressed and underprepared as it is, and if I did anything with the GF, i'd be even more screwed.

If it's late at night before bed, I'd be OK with a quick 2-3 min chat.

But yea, during the day, basically AWOL save for a few texts. She did the same thing during Boards and I was perfectly fine with it.

What the hell. This is so over the top.

[redblueyellow]

I had this issue previously with a GF.

I sat her down before bar prep and let her know that I'd be relatively unavailable. I told her that I could text her every now and then, but I wasn't going to Skype/call her during the last month. She seemed to get it, but sometimes she'd still get a bit bothersome.

You told your GF you were going AWOL for an entire month? I understand "I can't have long conversations every day, and I don't necessarily text you back within an hour," but no communication for a month would definitely be a dealbreaker... if I were a reasonable girlfriend in similar circumstances...

No, I would text back during the day, but definitely no phone calls, meeting up, etc. I'm already stressed and underprepared as it is, and if I did anything with the GF, i'd be even more screwed.

If it's late at night before bed, I'd be OK with a quick 2-3 min chat.

But yea, during the day, basically AWOL save for a few texts. She did the same thing during Boards and I was perfectly fine with it.

What the hell. This is so over the top.

Not when you're working full time.

[Elston Gunn]

Not when you're working full time.

Okay, that is an important additional fact.

[941law]

As it turns out, the op is pregnant. At least one test that went positive.