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Posted: Sun May 28, 2017 4:46 pm
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Government offices (especially prosecutors) also require a much more extensive background check than most NGOs or private sector positions, so I imagine that had something to do with it.Nonconsecutive wrote:My 1L position (DOJ) required references and contacted all of them. I was applying for one of their smaller regional offices though, so not sure if that factored into it.
OP won't need a reference for months. I'm not sure what you are talking about? He hasn't even started school yet.mcmand wrote:Cut him some slack. It's stressful to have your major work experience of your career potentially maligned by a psycho boss to any future employers. That's a very real fear, and it wouldn't be irrational, in terms of short-term thinking, to want to preserve the relationship and find another way out.Npret wrote:You might as well get on with your life. You can find other people to be references if needed. Write a letter and email notifying him of your last day. I'm not sure why you would let fear keep you in a job you need to leave.
But, OP, you should still take a deep breath and weigh all the facts. Sounds like you just need to leave. Give your two weeks already, don't pull any punches but be professional about it, and move on. You don't owe your boss this, but if you feel it will make things better, put some more extra hours in during the two weeks to try to leave your successor and boss better off.
Don't be shy about asking for a reference. If your boss decides to stop being weird and makes himself available to meet, you could ask in person (always ideal). Don't sell yourself short when you ask. Describe the positive things you've done and why a reference from him would be meaningful. Tell him nice things about his management (even if you're putting lipstick on a pig in doing so). Turn "you're a nazi micromanager" into "I really appreciate you taking the time to show me the ropes."
I feel your pain here, leaving a job is always a little scary because people's emotions get involved, but you and I know that you're going to leave, and you should do it in a way that benefits you and is least harmful to your employer. Rip the bandaid off and do it.
Thanks for this. Is it a bad call to put in my two weeks on Tuesday since Monday is a holiday? I suppose it isn't a full two weeks then, which is why I'm hesitant.mcmand wrote:Cut him some slack. It's stressful to have your major work experience of your career potentially maligned by a psycho boss to any future employers. That's a very real fear, and it wouldn't be irrational, in terms of short-term thinking, to want to preserve the relationship and find another way out.Npret wrote:You might as well get on with your life. You can find other people to be references if needed. Write a letter and email notifying him of your last day. I'm not sure why you would let fear keep you in a job you need to leave.
But, OP, you should still take a deep breath and weigh all the facts. Sounds like you just need to leave. Give your two weeks already, don't pull any punches but be professional about it, and move on. You don't owe your boss this, but if you feel it will make things better, put some more extra hours in during the two weeks to try to leave your successor and boss better off.
Don't be shy about asking for a reference. If your boss decides to stop being weird and makes himself available to meet, you could ask in person (always ideal). Don't sell yourself short when you ask. Describe the positive things you've done and why a reference from him would be meaningful. Tell him nice things about his management (even if you're putting lipstick on a pig in doing so). Turn "you're a nazi micromanager" into "I really appreciate you taking the time to show me the ropes."
I feel your pain here, leaving a job is always a little scary because people's emotions get involved, but you and I know that you're going to leave, and you should do it in a way that benefits you and is least harmful to your employer. Rip the bandaid off and do it.
Good point. Now that I think of it, all the jerbs I had in law school that actually contacted my references were government, whereas the NGO didn't seem to have contacted anyone.cavalier1138 wrote:Government offices (especially prosecutors) also require a much more extensive background check than most NGOs or private sector positions, so I imagine that had something to do with it.Nonconsecutive wrote:My 1L position (DOJ) required references and contacted all of them. I was applying for one of their smaller regional offices though, so not sure if that factored into it.
Great plan.mtf612 wrote:The office is closed for memorial day on monday.Kungfu Wontons wrote:Give him 2 weeks notice on Monday morning. Don't ask him for a reference because he's weird.
This is not a big deal, though it might seem like it right now to you.
I won't ask for a reference at this point - hopefully things will smooth over before I leave. Going to ask a few other co-workers/supervising staff whether they'd be comfortable offering a reference 6 months from now lol