Dealing with a crush in Law School Forum

[kalvano]

I'm 33, which is old for TLS. Doesn't bother me, it happens to everyone. I'm not saying married life is the best thing ever, but it's pretty awesome when you find the right person. It would be terrible if you aren't happy with the person, though. But I was lucky and found someone awesome a long time ago.

And I don't mean that being single is terrible and everyone should get married. It just seems like the cycle would get old after a while. I have several single friends that are getting older, and they all say the same thing, that "it was fun, but it gets old." Threads like this reinforce that to me, because I'm very happy with where I am.

[ScottRiqui]

I'm 33, which is old for TLS. Doesn't bother me, it happens to everyone. I'm not saying married life is the best thing ever, but it's pretty awesome when you find the right person. It would be terrible if you aren't happy with the person, though. But I was lucky and found someone awesome a long time ago.

Agreed. You know that saying "Find a job you love, and you'll never 'work' another day in your life?" I think relationships are the same way; with the right person, they can be rewarding and actually fairly easy to maintain. I don't know if I just got lucky, or if it was the fact that my wife and I paired off early and have grown together into a good couple, but it's worked out. It helps to have good role models too - my parents are coming up on their 60th anniversary next summer.

[kalvano]

It's also extraordinarily helpful to not have kids right away. We are about to have our first one, and it's stressful. Definitely can hurt a relationship more than help.

[ScottRiqui]

It's also extraordinarily helpful to not have kids right away. We are about to have our first one, and it's stressful. Definitely can hurt a relationship more than help.

That's a good point I didn't consider; we don't have kids, so any time we spend together gets to be about the relationship.

[Redfactor]

It helps to have good role models too - my parents are coming up on their 60th anniversary next summer.

I think this is huge.

It doesn't bode well for newlyweds when their idea of marriage is what they get from TV or bitter spouses / divorcees.

It's also extraordinarily helpful to not have kids right away. We are about to have our first one, and it's stressful. Definitely can hurt a relationship more than help.

That's pretty situationally dependent in my eyes. Where you are in life when you get hitched and how long you've been together, effectively acting married before the nuptials, play heavy hands. I know when my wife and I got married, things didn't feel any different. We had already lived together for years and the majority our excitement came from all the social (fiscal) benefits. (Well the ring was fun for her I guess.)

But if I am correct in my reading, I do agree that there should be time for the two to grow as a couple and invest into their relationship before throwing something as complicated as a baby into the mix (something I don't have experience with).

[kalvano]

But if I am correct in my reading, I do agree that there should be time for the two to grow as a couple and invest into their relationship before throwing something as complicated as a baby into the mix (something I don't have experience with).

Yes, totally depends on where you are in the relationship. But if you're young, freshly married, and haven't been together for a while before getting married, I think it can totally screw it up.

[JDot]

I've been with my wife, total, for almost 15 years. Nothing's perfect, but I'll take married life over single life any time.

This. It's been 27 years since our first date, and I'm happier with my wife than I have any right to be. I would be completely dead in the water if anything happened to her and I ended up single again.

comments like this make me happy I'm single...I'm sorry, but putting your life so far into someone else's hands that it would render you "dead in the water" if you broke up just sounds pathetic, no offense

but to each his own and if you're happy then good for you

[ScottRiqui]

I've been with my wife, total, for almost 15 years. Nothing's perfect, but I'll take married life over single life any time.

This. It's been 27 years since our first date, and I'm happier with my wife than I have any right to be. I would be completely dead in the water if anything happened to her and I ended up single again.

comments like this make me happy I'm single...I'm sorry, but putting your life so far into someone else's hands that it would render you "dead in the water" if you broke up just sounds pathetic, no offense

but to each his own and if you're happy then good for you

By "dead in the water", I meant in the context of getting back into the dating scene, not that I wouldn't be able to continue with life. The last time I was "dating", I was barely out of my teens, and Bush Sr. was in office.

[NoodleyOne]

I've been with my wife, total, for almost 15 years. Nothing's perfect, but I'll take married life over single life any time.

This. It's been 27 years since our first date, and I'm happier with my wife than I have any right to be. I would be completely dead in the water if anything happened to her and I ended up single again.

comments like this make me happy I'm single...I'm sorry, but putting your life so far into someone else's hands that it would render you "dead in the water" if you broke up just sounds pathetic, no offense

but to each his own and if you're happy then good for you

No one is happy they're single.

No one wants to sleep alone.

[dowu]

[SEngland]

This marriage talk is hella weak.

Stay single - it is CLEARLY the best play.

Those who are married always try to get in their own heads that they made the right move.

[fundamentallybroken]

This thread has devolved into married men defending their happiness to total strangers, who are in turn being k-JD jackasses by calling bullshit to complete strangers who say they're happy.




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[nickb285]

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[LetsGoLAW]

Every one knows 1L life is crazy and the last thing you want to be is distracted. However, I have developed a crush on a girl that sits next me in my Civil Procedure class. I need to focus and it does not help that she is in my section. So in other classes, I sometimes find myself staring at her The unfortunate thing is she really does not talk to me because she probably thinks I'm an idiot. Has anyone else dealt with a crush in law school? I don't know if I have the time and energy to try to get her to like me haha.

Follow the elements of the Law of Attraction, brah:

1) Have confidence.
2) Don't act beta/needy.
3) Talk to the girl.

[LAWYER2]

I had an informed consent NSA hook-up with a classmate one night. Shit got hella weird immediately thereafter. Will not do it again, lol. Or at least If I do, it'll be someone a little more emotionally mature.

[hephaestus]

I had an informed consent NSA hook-up with a classmate one night. Shit got hella weird immediately thereafter. Will not do it again, lol. Or at least If I do, it'll be someone a little more emotionally mature.

This may be the least surprising thing I've ever heard.

[PRgradBYU]

Any time I question whether getting married was a good call, I look at threads like this and any doubt is instantly gone.

TITCR. I'm not going to get on here and defend my decision to get married before law school, but I will say that I'm happy I don't have the added stress of trying to get with girls. Nothing better than having a nice meal waiting for you after a long day of classes / studying, too, not to mention the constant support and encouragement (in a variety of ways...).

This marriage talk is hella weak.

Stay single - it is CLEARLY the best play.

Those who are married always try to get in their own heads that they made the right move.

(Lonely bro)

[ManoftheHour]

I regret posting in this thread.

[dowu]

I regret posting in this thread.

You're cool.

[KD35]

I had an informed consent NSA hook-up with a classmate one night. Shit got hella weird immediately thereafter. Will not do it again, lol. Or at least If I do, it'll be someone a little more emotionally mature.

Guessing the NSA wasn't fully NSA

[Lumieres]

"Law school goggles"

[BeenDidThat]

I've been with my wife, total, for almost 15 years. Nothing's perfect, but I'll take married life over single life any time.

This. It's been 27 years since our first date, and I'm happier with my wife than I have any right to be. I would be completely dead in the water if anything happened to her and I ended up single again.

comments like this make me happy I'm single...I'm sorry, but putting your life so far into someone else's hands that it would render you "dead in the water" if you broke up just sounds pathetic, no offense

but to each his own and if you're happy then good for you

No one is happy they're single.

No one wants to sleep alone.

Since when does being single in today's parlance = sleeping alone?

And to the guy hating on the single-bro above, you seem to be proving his point.

[Nova]

"Law school goggles"

This is a proven phenomenon

[SEngland]

I'm married to my Fantasy Football roster

[NotMyRealName09]

I'm married to my Fantasy Football roster

That bitch can fuck, bro