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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby rad lulz » Fri Aug 24, 2012 11:10 am

Sup thread?

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby angua » Sun Aug 26, 2012 7:33 pm

Hi all, thought you might enjoy this article about well-known people publicly sharing their struggles with depression.

Edit: The list at the end of the article is a badass collection of funny, insightful articles. It is good to have in your bookmarks for a rainy day.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby Metaread » Tue Aug 28, 2012 1:21 am

Thanks for the article, it was a nice read.

So, why do lawyers suffer depression at much higher rates than professionals of other professions? Any theories? Yes, the work is tough and demanding...but not for all lawyers, I'd imagine. What about doctors?

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby dowu » Tue Aug 28, 2012 1:28 am

Metaread wrote:Thanks for the article, it was a nice read.

So, why do lawyers suffer depression at much higher rates than professionals of other professions? Any theories? Yes, the work is tough and demanding...but not for all lawyers, I'd imagine. What about doctors?


I'd venture to guess that it's because a lot of lawyers are assholes and dealing with assholes on a daily basis is no bueno.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby bjsesq » Tue Aug 28, 2012 1:39 am

I'm experiencing some late to the game depression. As I've reflected on the no-offer, a couple things stand out:

1) 2/3 of the class WAS offered. Some of them lit. I MUST have fucked stuff up. They reason they didn't pick my ass wasn't because lololdguy.
2) I screwed something up.
3) No more money to provide my kids with all the things I could never have.
4) 6 FIGURES IN DEBT. Congrats, kids, WELCOME TO YOUR DADDY'S CHILDHOOD! LOOK AT HOW WELL HE DID FOR YOU.
5) And now I post about the shit in front of a bunch of fucking people who don't tear me apart themselves because they are either

a. Scared I will rip them to pieces verbally; or
b. Rip them to pieces physically.

I sit in my room knowing that all my fucking wit amounts to shit at this point because I can't put that form of intelligence to use when it truly matters. I screwed up, and all my bluster means dick right now. PM me about this and I will fucking kill you.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby Peg » Tue Aug 28, 2012 9:59 am

bjsesq wrote:I'm experiencing some late to the game depression. As I've reflected on the no-offer, a couple things stand out:

1) 2/3 of the class WAS offered. Some of them lit. I MUST have fucked stuff up. They reason they didn't pick my ass wasn't because lololdguy.
2) I screwed something up.
3) No more money to provide my kids with all the things I could never have.
4) 6 FIGURES IN DEBT. Congrats, kids, WELCOME TO YOUR DADDY'S CHILDHOOD! LOOK AT HOW WELL HE DID FOR YOU.
5) And now I post about the shit in front of a bunch of fucking people who don't tear me apart themselves because they are either

a. Scared I will rip them to pieces verbally; or
b. Rip them to pieces physically.

I sit in my room knowing that all my fucking wit amounts to shit at this point because I can't put that form of intelligence to use when it truly matters. I screwed up, and all my bluster means dick right now. PM me about this and I will fucking kill you.


*hug*

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby northwood » Tue Aug 28, 2012 10:03 am

bjsesq wrote:I'm experiencing some late to the game depression. As I've reflected on the no-offer, a couple things stand out:

1) 2/3 of the class WAS offered. Some of them lit. I MUST have fucked stuff up. They reason they didn't pick my ass wasn't because lololdguy.
2) I screwed something up.
3) No more money to provide my kids with all the things I could never have.
4) 6 FIGURES IN DEBT. Congrats, kids, WELCOME TO YOUR DADDY'S CHILDHOOD! LOOK AT HOW WELL HE DID FOR YOU.
5) And now I post about the shit in front of a bunch of fucking people who don't tear me apart themselves because they are either

a. Scared I will rip them to pieces verbally; or
b. Rip them to pieces physically.

I sit in my room knowing that all my fucking wit amounts to shit at this point because I can't put that form of intelligence to use when it truly matters. I screwed up, and all my bluster means dick right now. PM me about this and I will fucking kill you.


hugs buddy.. it will get better

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby fw8014 » Thu Aug 30, 2012 9:32 pm

I went to psychotherapy throughout my 1L year and I highly recommend it to any law students. For the most part, I wasn't even depressed but it was helpful to set aside time to air out my frustrations about LS to a professional. It's better than constantly being a Debbie Downer around your S.O., friends and family. I think it made me perform better in school because I had a constant outlet for my anxiety and it never got the best of me.

My crappy student health plan even covered my sessions and my co-pay was less than $20 per visit. The cost may seem high but if you go once every two weeks, it's like a more therapeutic version of a night out at the local pub. Without the hangover. If you live in a large city and you spend 5 mins googling "psychotherapy", you'll probably find a collective of practitioners with reasonable rates and some sort of matching service. Don't be afraid to go in for an initial consultation and shop around if you feel like your therapist isn't a good match.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby rad lulz » Thu Aug 30, 2012 10:06 pm

bjsesq wrote:I'm experiencing some late to the game depression. As I've reflected on the no-offer, a couple things stand out:

1) 2/3 of the class WAS offered. Some of them lit. I MUST have fucked stuff up. They reason they didn't pick my ass wasn't because lololdguy.
2) I screwed something up.
3) No more money to provide my kids with all the things I could never have.
4) 6 FIGURES IN DEBT. Congrats, kids, WELCOME TO YOUR DADDY'S CHILDHOOD! LOOK AT HOW WELL HE DID FOR YOU.
5) And now I post about the shit in front of a bunch of fucking people who don't tear me apart themselves because they are either

a. Scared I will rip them to pieces verbally; or
b. Rip them to pieces physically.

I sit in my room knowing that all my fucking wit amounts to shit at this point because I can't put that form of intelligence to use when it truly matters. I screwed up, and all my bluster means dick right now. PM me about this and I will fucking kill you.

I have this feeling every day.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby northwood » Wed Sep 05, 2012 3:03 pm

Scared ashell that I just ruined my financial life but I'm at the point where it almost makes sense to finish but I'd rather start paying off the debt but have no clue how to start as this was a career change from a career that I can't return to for medical reasons. The feeling of helplessness I so overwhelming at times but I'm stuck trying to figure it out. / end rant but still looking for a bright side to this day

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby CorkBoard » Wed Sep 05, 2012 3:57 pm

rad lulz wrote:
bjsesq wrote:I'm experiencing some late to the game depression. As I've reflected on the no-offer, a couple things stand out:

1) 2/3 of the class WAS offered. Some of them lit. I MUST have fucked stuff up. They reason they didn't pick my ass wasn't because lololdguy.
2) I screwed something up.
3) No more money to provide my kids with all the things I could never have.
4) 6 FIGURES IN DEBT. Congrats, kids, WELCOME TO YOUR DADDY'S CHILDHOOD! LOOK AT HOW WELL HE DID FOR YOU.
5) And now I post about the shit in front of a bunch of fucking people who don't tear me apart themselves because they are either

a. Scared I will rip them to pieces verbally; or
b. Rip them to pieces physically.

I sit in my room knowing that all my fucking wit amounts to shit at this point because I can't put that form of intelligence to use when it truly matters. I screwed up, and all my bluster means dick right now. PM me about this and I will fucking kill you.

I have this feeling every day.

Hugs to both of you.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby solotee » Sat Sep 08, 2012 7:12 pm

Sorry to hear about post-decision phase people here are going through now. It's hard taking a risk, make many sacrifices, push yourself full throttle 2+ years mentally and financially, and end up with less than favorable results. Not many will understand the trouble you went through, and the subsequent disappointment of the results.

However, it's at these times your character to handle adversity is tested. It's at these times your true qualities as a person shine. It's at these times you cut your losses, come up with a plan going forward, and execute the plan with the high performance like you're used to doing. It's what separates true winners from people that settle and blame the world. You may not have achieved what you wanted and worked for right now, but you're headed towards a good direction, you're going somewhere. Sooner or later, you will be rewarded for your efforts and get what you're working for.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby rad lulz » Sun Sep 09, 2012 12:32 pm

solotee wrote:Sooner or later, you will be rewarded for your efforts and get what you're working for.


Maybe not.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby CorkBoard » Mon Sep 10, 2012 12:14 pm

rad lulz wrote:
solotee wrote:Sooner or later, you will be rewarded for your efforts and get what you're working for.


Maybe not.

Maybe not, but trying never hurt anybody. Positivity is tough to develop when everything seems pretty shitty, but have some confidence. Things don't always work out the way that you want them to, and that's okay. Seek and find comfort in those who care about you. People do care about all of you, and want you to succeed, and most of all, to be happy.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby solotee » Wed Sep 12, 2012 9:45 pm

"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - life itself."

-Walter Anderson

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby grrrstick » Wed Sep 12, 2012 10:19 pm

Sorry if I hurt your feelings.
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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby crumpetsandtea » Wed Sep 12, 2012 10:24 pm

^ Is this supposed to be a joke? Because I don't think it's particularly funny.... :|

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby pinkcamellia » Wed Sep 12, 2012 10:25 pm

crumpetsandtea wrote:^ Is this supposed to be a joke? Because I don't think it's particularly funny.... :|


It also doesn't belong in the Support Thread. Let's try to stay on topic, people. There are other threads, like the Alternative Career thread, where you can make your escape plans.

Thanks for backing me up here, Crumps.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby johnnyutah » Wed Sep 12, 2012 10:36 pm

bjsesq wrote:I'm experiencing some late to the game depression. As I've reflected on the no-offer, a couple things stand out:

1) 2/3 of the class WAS offered. Some of them lit. I MUST have fucked stuff up. They reason they didn't pick my ass wasn't because lololdguy.
2) I screwed something up.
3) No more money to provide my kids with all the things I could never have.
4) 6 FIGURES IN DEBT. Congrats, kids, WELCOME TO YOUR DADDY'S CHILDHOOD! LOOK AT HOW WELL HE DID FOR YOU.
5) And now I post about the shit in front of a bunch of fucking people who don't tear me apart themselves because they are either

a. Scared I will rip them to pieces verbally; or
b. Rip them to pieces physically.

I sit in my room knowing that all my fucking wit amounts to shit at this point because I can't put that form of intelligence to use when it truly matters. I screwed up, and all my bluster means dick right now. PM me about this and I will fucking kill you.

Bummer dude. Clerkship possibilities? I know someone who turned a clerkship into a BigLaw job.

ETA: Of course, I have so far been totally unable to turn my clerkship into anything. I am making good use of the health insurance though.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby pinkcamellia » Wed Sep 12, 2012 10:45 pm

As a side note, I really do appreciate that people are making suggestions like JU is, above. However, I would prefer that this type of discussion occur over PM. Obviously I don't own the internet or anything, but it would be nice if y'all could try to do that, because I receive updates when this thread has new posts so I can see who needs support or is interested in it. The idea was for it to be less of a thread and more of a system, but again, if y'all would prefer it to be more conversational and bring in job suggestions, etc. then by all means keep doing your thing.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby FeelTheHeat » Wed Sep 12, 2012 10:52 pm

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Background.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby johnnyutah » Wed Sep 12, 2012 10:59 pm

pinkcamellia wrote:As a side note, I really do appreciate that people are making suggestions like JU is, above. However, I would prefer that this type of discussion occur over PM. Obviously I don't own the internet or anything, but it would be nice if y'all could try to do that, because I receive updates when this thread has new posts so I can see who needs support or is interested in it. The idea was for it to be less of a thread and more of a system, but again, if y'all would prefer it to be more conversational and bring in job suggestions, etc. then by all means keep doing your thing.

Oh, I just realized that this was a thing and I'm not in the Lounge. Blame f7 for putting a link. Apologies, carry on.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby pinkcamellia » Wed Sep 12, 2012 11:07 pm

FeelTheHeat wrote:Really beautiful, if you haven't seen it. (LinkRemoved)

Background.


That's so beautiful. I can't even talk about how lovely that is.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby swimmer11 » Tue Oct 16, 2012 12:57 am

Does any other 1L out there feel like they will be on the verge of killing themselves if there grades are not up to snuff? I, personally, feel like I would seriously be concerned with my mental health. I have always battled depression, and the idea of failing again, I do not know if I would be able to handle it. I just am fucking concerned.

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Re: TLS Support Thread

Postby CorkBoard » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:02 am

swimmer11 wrote:Does any other 1L out there feel like they will be on the verge of killing themselves if there grades are not up to snuff? I, personally, feel like I would seriously be concerned with my mental health. I have always battled depression, and the idea of failing again, I do not know if I would be able to handle it. I just am fucking concerned.

If you feel this way at any point, don't be afraid to go see a counselor. Your school most likely has its own counseling center with lots of resources to help you. It might be good to go talk to someone anyway (regardless of grades) if you have struggled/are struggling with depression.

Feel free to PM if you need someone to talk to.




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