Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

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Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby ryno8cubs5 » Tue Feb 14, 2012 3:08 pm

My girlfriend of 3 1/2 years just broke up with me Sunday. I have not done anything school related since then. It is our first mini-term this week, so at least it is not a big deal. I do have a lot I need to get done: a take home Civ Pro midterm, research for my second trial brief, working on my write-on for law review, and outlines. I just can't seem to find motivation.

I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on wading water through this and still doing well. I am ranked 20/151 at my school right now. So, I would like to stay there, if not go up. I just don't know how to gather the motivation to work hard at school right now. Anyone have any advice?


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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby jessuf » Tue Feb 14, 2012 7:18 pm

Hmm. Do you have any friends? Talk it out with them and vent. That always makes me feel better than moping around.

I got in a fight with my bf yesterday, and I am now spending my VDay home eating pizza and watching the Bachelor and I will probably be going to law prom alone now. Whenever I'm in a situation like this or after a breakup, I tend to be more into my work because I find it distracts me from thinking about the fight or breakup. I also try to surround myself with people for most of the day because being alone is when I start thinking more about how emo I'm feeling. Try study groups??

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby A Swift » Tue Feb 14, 2012 7:21 pm

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Postby jimmythecatdied6 » Tue Feb 14, 2012 8:37 pm

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby Geetar Man » Tue Feb 14, 2012 8:50 pm

A Swift wrote:Image


+1

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Postby beachbum » Tue Feb 14, 2012 8:54 pm

Compartmentalize, bro. School comes first; you only get one shot at what is probably the most important year of your academic career, so make it count. Everything else is secondary, and (in the long run) probably won't have the significance of your 1L year. So stay the course.

And in your case, doing well (and getting a good job) can either a) get her back, or b) make her feel like shit as you move on to bigger and better things. So there's that.

And FWIW, my buddy ended things with his fiance halfway through the semester, and one of my friends back home lost his battle with cancer in the middle of finals week. We both ended up doing well. It can be done.

Maybe this is cold-hearted advice, but it works. You just gotta push away those things over which you have no control, and instead focus on your studies. It'll pay off in the end.

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby shock259 » Tue Feb 14, 2012 9:10 pm

If anything, use it to give yourself more incentive. Do well so you can get a high paying job and laugh all the way to the bank. Immature? Yes, but it sure can be motivating.

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby 09042014 » Tue Feb 14, 2012 9:21 pm

Don't let some slut ruin your career. Buck the fuck up son.

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby JoeFish » Tue Feb 14, 2012 9:42 pm

beachbum wrote:Compartmentalize, bro.

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Postby dreakol » Wed Feb 15, 2012 12:47 am

i'm assuming you've been cheating on her

just turn on of those into full time things breh

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby MrPapagiorgio » Wed Feb 15, 2012 12:54 am

Desert Fox wrote:Don't let some slut ruin your career. Buck the fuck up son.
This, as well as this:

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Postby Cupidity » Wed Feb 15, 2012 12:57 am

Do so well that you transfer up to Yale and then laugh at her for jumping off the ship too soon.

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby dood » Wed Feb 15, 2012 1:12 am

JoeFish wrote:
beachbum wrote:Compartmentalize, bro.


also, wat are those pills?

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby bk1 » Wed Feb 15, 2012 1:17 am

dood wrote:
JoeFish wrote:
beachbum wrote:Compartmentalize, bro.


also, wat are those pills?


Adderall.

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby Big Shrimpin » Wed Feb 15, 2012 10:22 am

dood wrote:
JoeFish wrote:
beachbum wrote:Compartmentalize, bro.


also, wat are those pills?


:lol:

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby srfngdd6 » Wed Feb 15, 2012 10:27 am

Desert Fox wrote:Don't let some slut ruin your career. Buck the fuck up son.


ahaha +1

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby crit_racer » Wed Feb 15, 2012 10:43 am

DF, I'm sure you were kidding, but you shouldn't use the word "slut" even if it is in a joking manner. That's like using the N word as a joke...it doesn't really make it any less offensive.

OP--Just try to stay focused. I would recommend getting lots of exercise, eating well, socializing, and establishing a consistent study regime. I have a friend who did well his first semester but then went through a bad break up (similarly serious relationship) and tanked his second semester. He ended up with another girl (he's now a 3L) and is really into her, but he regrets doing so poorly that semester.

In the long run, this will work out. These things usually do. Someone else will come along, etc. BUT, doing poorly in law school is a permanent stain on your record. Good luck

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby jk2011 » Wed Feb 15, 2012 10:49 am

crit_racer wrote:DF, I'm sure you were kidding, but you shouldn't use the word "slut" even if it is in a joking manner. That's like using the N word as a joke...it doesn't really make it any less offensive.

He just calls it like he sees it. Sluts = sluts.

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Postby 09042014 » Wed Feb 15, 2012 10:53 am

crit_racer wrote:DF, I'm sure you were kidding, but you shouldn't use the word "slut" even if it is in a joking manner. That's like using the N word as a joke...it doesn't really make it any less offensive.


I'm sure the slut race won't mind.

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby NotMyRealName09 » Wed Feb 15, 2012 2:33 pm

Slut =/= N-Word by any stretch of the imagination.

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby jk2011 » Thu Feb 16, 2012 12:51 am

NotMyRealName09 wrote:Slut =/= N-Word by any stretch of the imagination.


This.

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Postby 20121109 » Thu Feb 16, 2012 1:34 am

jk2011 wrote:
NotMyRealName09 wrote:Slut =/= N-Word by any stretch of the imagination.


This.


Are you kidding?

Sluts have been oppressed more than black people! FREE TEH SLUTS. LET THEM HAVE MOAR SEXING.

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Postby splitbrain » Thu Feb 16, 2012 2:07 am

crit_racer wrote:DF, I'm sure you were kidding, but you shouldn't use the word "slut" even if it is in a joking manner. That's like using the N word as a joke...it doesn't really make it any less offensive.


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OP: It's all about getting back to being fine being single. You were awesome before her and you'll be awesome after her. Stay focused. Get back on the horse and know that you'll be able to move on from this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=adI-QnpYBT4 Or use it for motivation to do better... ¯\(°_o)/¯

GAIAtheCHEERLEADER wrote:
jk2011 wrote:
NotMyRealName09 wrote:Slut =/= N-Word by any stretch of the imagination.


This.


Are you kidding?

Sluts have been oppressed more than black people! FREE TEH SLUTS. LET THEM HAVE MOAR SEXING.


Hmm wonder what they'd say if one of us applied for PILF funding to assist that cause...

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Re: Going through a breakup and still doing well this semester.

Postby paratactical » Thu Feb 16, 2012 2:52 am

Desert Fox wrote:
crit_racer wrote:DF, I'm sure you were kidding, but you shouldn't use the word "slut" even if it is in a joking manner. That's like using the N word as a joke...it doesn't really make it any less offensive.


I'm sure the slut race won't mind.

Their slut music with their slut pants hanging so low you can see their slut underwear.

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OP - Make it through the semester. Do whatever you have to do. Exercise like a lunatic. Drink. Whatever it is that will occupy your time that isn't spent doing school work so that you don't dwell on the break up now. When the semester is over, take a few bottles of whatever you like, hole up in your room and break some shit.




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