Supporting a 1L

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Grizz
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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby Grizz » Sun Aug 28, 2011 1:45 pm

romothesavior wrote:My girlfriend sent me a great finals care package last year with a note explaining what it was all for. It included:

-Smarties to make me smart
-Highlighters so I would get all the important information
-A 5 hour energy for energy
-Almonds for brain power (I love almonds)
-Hersheys kisses

I think there may have been a few other things in there. It was all little stuff like this but it meant a lot to me.

I threw up a little in my mouth

(forever alone)

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby Lady in Red » Sun Aug 28, 2011 4:05 pm

I think your husband is a very lucky guy, and he'll love whatever you send him. That being said, his brain will run better on healthy food, so consider making some homemade meals, freezing them, and sending them with him when he leaves on Sundays.

On an unrelated note, I just finished watching The Paper Chase. I'm applying to law schools now, hoping to begin my 1L in the fall of 2012. The book One L didn't scare me, but I'm not gonna lie...this movie shook me up a bit.

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby MrPapagiorgio » Sun Aug 28, 2011 4:27 pm

Lady in Red wrote:I think your husband is a very lucky guy, and he'll love whatever you send him. That being said, his brain will run better on healthy food, so consider making some homemade meals, freezing them, and sending them with him when he leaves on Sundays.

On an unrelated note, I just finished watching The Paper Chase. I'm applying to law schools now, hoping to begin my 1L in the fall of 2012. The book One L didn't scare me, but I'm not gonna lie...this movie shook me up a bit.

AVOID THAT MOVIE LIKE THE PLAGUE.

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby NYC Law » Sun Aug 28, 2011 4:28 pm

MrPapagiorgio wrote:
Lady in Red wrote:I think your husband is a very lucky guy, and he'll love whatever you send him. That being said, his brain will run better on healthy food, so consider making some homemade meals, freezing them, and sending them with him when he leaves on Sundays.

On an unrelated note, I just finished watching The Paper Chase. I'm applying to law schools now, hoping to begin my 1L in the fall of 2012. The book One L didn't scare me, but I'm not gonna lie...this movie shook me up a bit.

AVOID THAT MOVIE LIKE THE PLAGUE.


Eh. I got bored with it after the kid started banging the prof's daughter

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby TheFriendlyBarber » Sun Aug 28, 2011 4:34 pm

You guys couldn't find a place halfway between your home and his law school apartment?

Sounds like the guy wants some "freedom." If I were you, I'd start sending boxes and boxes of naked pictures, dirty underwear, and highlighters ASAP.

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby Lady in Red » Sun Aug 28, 2011 8:00 pm

TheFriendlyBarber wrote:You guys couldn't find a place halfway between your home and his law school apartment?

Sounds like the guy wants some "freedom." If I were you, I'd start sending boxes and boxes of naked pictures, dirty underwear, and highlighters ASAP.


During my first year teaching, my significant other's job was two hours from home, and she got a separate apartment and came home on the weekends. It was rough, and we missed each other like crazy during the week, but the arrangement really did allow both of us to focus on the madness of first-year teaching.

I think the distance will give your husband much needed space to focus on law school, and it spares you some of the insecure/obsessive law school monologuing that all 1Ls are rumored to do. :)

I'm sure a dirty photo or two would be appreciated, if he's anything like most of the guys I know...but not because you have anything to worry about.

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby minnbills » Sun Aug 28, 2011 8:34 pm

blink wrote:Image


Glad I'm not the only one who thought of this...

EDIT: And yeah this thread is really depressing

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby kurla88 » Sun Aug 28, 2011 10:29 pm

npe wrote:If he does start bitching incessantly about law school, tell him to stop being such a beta whiner. What you've always loved about him is how much different and stronger than he is from his peers, and you don't expect that to change now. You know that he's smart, talented, and hardworking, and he's going to do great in law school.

Seriously, supporting a spouse in law school shouldn't be the same as raising a kindergardener.
Yes, recognize that he may be much busier than he was in the past. Yes, understand that he's getting a lot thrown at him. But the best thing you can do for him as a person is not to let him fall into the trap of self-pity that has turned so many good men into sniveling, blubbering manchildren. The greatest thing my fiancee did was realize that while things were tough, I was man enough to handle it.

/3L rant.


This, oh my God. 1L is not the hardest time of your life, or even close. 2L/3L can be worse if OCI doesn't work out and you're trying to find a job and also keep your grades up/journal work/extracurrics. Actually being a lawyer will almost certainly be worse.

Recognize that he's busy and be willing to listen to him whine about school, but he doesn't need a free pass on all things relationship and/or chore related. Except maybe during finals, but hey, I did my own laundry and I survived.

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby CleverGirl » Tue Aug 30, 2011 9:35 am

Thanks so much for your good ideas!!!

We both have children from previous marriages and his child is here and my life is here; thus, I couldn't move and he wouldn't want to.

He came home this weekend and I rubbed him down while he told me about contracts and torts and whatnot. I actually do enjoy hearing about it as I am currently in law enforcement and he was formerly in law enforcement and generally find law in general interesting.

I'm already starting to see the decrease in communication and will admit it's not fun. All I have to do is look at his planner, though, to find out why - it practically reads like a book.

I had mentioned about doing something later in the semester for his study group. Over reaching?

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby blink » Tue Aug 30, 2011 4:29 pm

minnbills wrote:
blink wrote:Image


Glad I'm not the only one who thought of this...

EDIT: And yeah this thread is really depressing



haha I couldn't believe it took this long for someone to comment...

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby spleenworship » Tue Aug 30, 2011 10:09 pm

CleverGirl wrote:Thanks so much for your good ideas!!!

We both have children from previous marriages and his child is here and my life is here; thus, I couldn't move and he wouldn't want to.

He came home this weekend and I rubbed him down while he told me about contracts and torts and whatnot. I actually do enjoy hearing about it as I am currently in law enforcement and he was formerly in law enforcement and generally find law in general interesting.

I'm already starting to see the decrease in communication and will admit it's not fun. All I have to do is look at his planner, though, to find out why - it practically reads like a book.

I had mentioned about doing something later in the semester for his study group. Over reaching?


If you do it before finals you will be a goddess, I would think. Personally if my wife showed up in a couple weeks and gave us food at our study group, we might feel a little weird.

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Re: Supporting a 1L

Postby npe » Tue Aug 30, 2011 11:08 pm

spleenworship wrote:If you do it before finals you will be a goddess




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