a true tragedy: death as excuse

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chunaa
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a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby chunaa » Tue Feb 08, 2011 12:45 am

or the death of SO.


Is it a good excuse to neglect one's duty (e.g. not responding to work emails ...) if one's spouse or SO died two months ago?
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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby TTH » Tue Feb 08, 2011 12:46 am

chunaa wrote:subtext: yours are trivial matters because presumably no one died in your family)


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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby Bildungsroman » Tue Feb 08, 2011 12:47 am

It's weird that someone can so clearly show a lack of perspective using only text.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby BlueDiamond » Tue Feb 08, 2011 12:48 am

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby kapachino » Tue Feb 08, 2011 12:50 am

Two months isn't a year. And not only that, he lost her during the holiday season. Where is your compassion? The man is dealing with the loss of his wife, not his pet. I'm sure he had to take some time off, and got behind on things. He's probably in the catch-up phase now. Be patient. Do you have a class with him this semester, or know when his office hours are? Have you tried to talk to him one-on-one outside of e-mail?

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby TTH » Tue Feb 08, 2011 12:54 am

My favorite inference is that OP's seems to be trying to get in touch with a prof from last semester to ask about his exam, which could probably wait.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby kapachino » Tue Feb 08, 2011 12:55 am

TTH wrote:My favorite inference is that OP's seems to be trying to get in touch with a prof from last semester to ask about his exam, which could probably wait.



IDK. If OP had a class with this prof now, wouldn't it make more sense to talk to the prof after class?

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby chunaa » Tue Feb 08, 2011 1:01 am

After my SO died, I still responded to work-related emails as usual. oops .. It actually took me two weeks to recover enough to write back.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby BlueDiamond » Tue Feb 08, 2011 1:45 am

chunaa wrote:After my SO died, I still responded to work-related emails as usual. oops .. It actually took me two weeks to recover enough to write back.


sounds like true love to me

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby romothesavior » Tue Feb 08, 2011 1:59 am

OP sounds like the worst type of person.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby Ignatius Reilly » Tue Feb 08, 2011 2:02 am

romothesavior wrote:OP sounds like the worst type of person.


the worst part is it make him fell manly

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby gbpackerbacker » Tue Feb 08, 2011 2:18 am

kapachino wrote:Two months isn't a year. And not only that, he lost her during the holiday season. Where is your compassion? The man is dealing with the loss of his wife, not his pet. I'm sure he had to take some time off, and got behind on things. He's probably in the catch-up phase now. Be patient. Do you have a class with him this semester, or know when his office hours are? Have you tried to talk to him one-on-one outside of e-mail?

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby dextermorgan » Tue Feb 08, 2011 2:45 am

True Story: During my days in retail management I once had an employee call in dead.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby gbpackerbacker » Tue Feb 08, 2011 3:48 am

dextermorgan wrote:True Story: During my days in retail management I once had an employee call in dead.



care to elaborate?

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby firemed » Tue Feb 08, 2011 3:51 am

Wait... so professors SO died, and you want what? An LOR? Forget it.

Test.... maybe.... like, you know, if you are graduating this spring I would push it. Otherwise just wait until the deans get on him/her for not getting grades in.

And seriously, you think that just because it helped you to get back to work after two weeks that this person is going to react the same way to grief.

Different people do different things. Have some compassion.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby crumpetsandtea » Tue Feb 08, 2011 3:51 am

romothesavior wrote:OP sounds like the worst type of person.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby Stanford4Me » Tue Feb 08, 2011 3:52 am

gbpackerbacker wrote:
dextermorgan wrote:True Story: During my days in retail management I once had an employee call in dead.



care to elaborate?

PLLLLLEASE DO!

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby DamnLSAT » Tue Feb 08, 2011 3:52 am

gbpackerbacker wrote:
dextermorgan wrote:True Story: During my days in retail management I once had an employee call in dead.



care to elaborate?


Like the hospital called and said he just wasn't coming in that day?

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby Mickey Quicknumbers » Tue Feb 08, 2011 7:44 am

romothesavior wrote:OP sounds like the worst type of person.

But personally his personality is the best kind of worst kind of person.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby chunaa » Tue Feb 08, 2011 1:11 pm

in other fields, he would not have been able to get away with it.
then, of course, professors are GOD.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby firemed » Tue Feb 08, 2011 2:07 pm

chunaa wrote:in other fields, he would not have been able to get away with it.
then, of course, professors are GOD.


Wow... you are kind of a dick, aren't you? Everyone ITT told you that you were being a dick, and you just had to come back in and hammer the point home, didn't you? Let it go.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby dakatz » Tue Feb 08, 2011 2:19 pm

Wow, what a cold and empty person OP must be if he cannot understand that some things are just more important. Do you really have so little perspective on life? Before even considering law school, OP, you should really work on growing up and become a more mature person with a sense of tact and class. Without that, you are bound for all types of failure.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby rose711 » Tue Feb 08, 2011 2:40 pm

chunaa wrote:in other fields, he would not have been able to get away with it.
then, of course, professors are GOD.

In other fields people have staff and other co-workers that can help step in for them in emergencies. Professors usually don't have the same support systems as private attorneys.

And, if you are hoping for a favorable outcome from your request for this professor, you probably are going about it in the absolutely worst way possible. In fact, you are probably turning a lot of people against you in real life, just as you have on this forum, if you are making similar remarks at school or to professors.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby kapachino » Tue Feb 08, 2011 2:44 pm

firemed wrote:
chunaa wrote:in other fields, he would not have been able to get away with it.
then, of course, professors are GOD.


Wow... you are kind of a dick, aren't you? Everyone ITT told you that you were being a dick, and you just had to come back in and hammer the point home, didn't you? Let it go.


I was trying to give OP the benefit of the doubt before, but I can see now that it was pointless. Some people are just hateful.

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Re: a true tragedy: death as excuse

Postby dresden doll » Tue Feb 08, 2011 2:50 pm

firemed wrote:
chunaa wrote:in other fields, he would not have been able to get away with it.
then, of course, professors are GOD.


Wow... you are kind of a dick, aren't you? Everyone ITT told you that you were being a dick, and you just had to come back in and hammer the point home, didn't you? Let it go.

I particularly like how he refers to her death as an 'excuse.'




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