So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby beach_terror » Wed Nov 03, 2010 6:14 pm

This is why I'm happy I'm not in a relationship right now. The last thing I need during crunch time is someone fucking with my flow.

If you're feeling down, find a rebound and do it quick. Get it in. It'll help put off any of the emotional baggage until finals are over.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Shooter » Wed Nov 03, 2010 6:26 pm

The most important thing you can do right now is expend absolutely no energy in trying to get her back (not that you were going to anyways):

1) Law school > your gf.
2) If you ignore the situation and move on with your awesome life as an educated member of high society, she'll come running back regardless. It's only a matter of time.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby kaftka juice » Wed Nov 03, 2010 6:53 pm

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby frost » Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:11 pm

It's slightly weird that you're posting this on TLS rather than calling up a friend for some drinks, but I suppose TLS > drinking when you have torts outlining to do.

If she really broke up with you because law school takes up time, then it sounds like it's no big loss. Kudos to you for putting school first. I know two classmates who gave in to their SOs' whining and oppression last year. They ended up median and below, and I know they wish they could do their 1L year all over again and focus on school instead.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby 12262010 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:15 pm

frost wrote:It's slightly weird that you're posting this on TLS rather than calling up a friend for some drinks, but I suppose TLS > drinking when you have torts outlining to do.

If she really broke up with you because law school takes up time, then it sounds like it's no big loss. Kudos to you for putting school first. I know two classmates who gave in to their SOs' whining and oppression last year. They ended up median and below, and I know they wish they could do their 1L year all over again and focus on school instead.


Posting on TLS and calling up a friend aren't mutually exclusive.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby UnTouChablE » Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:43 pm

Am sorry son, this looks like something that could definitely throw you off your game.

If you have a jump off this is the time to call her; if not, shit be a better man than I am, and keep it together at all costs.

I could see myself a mental wreck and that would completely fuck ma shit up. Even liking a girl right now is distracting me, but she is gorgeous, I might just be easy to distract.

Do what you can brother, life is never easy.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Blindmelon » Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:52 pm

It sucks - push it to the back of your mind for now.

Me and my girlfriend broke up halfway through first semester, I started dating someone 1000x better who I met in law school 2 months later. Dating a law student makes life easier. And unlike my ex, shes actually cool.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby arism87 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:54 pm

beach_terror wrote:This is why I'm happy I'm not in a relationship right now. The last thing I need during crunch time is someone fucking with my flow.

If you're feeling down, find a rebound and do it quick. Get it in. It'll help put off any of the emotional baggage until finals are over.


+1

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby MrKappus » Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:55 pm

dresden doll wrote:
plenipotentiary wrote:Dumping you before finals is ice cold. I hope you didn't love her.

He's at least a month away. That doesn't qualify as ice cold.


+1. I'd say "week before or during finals" is req'd to qualify as ice cold.

OP: it sucks, but it won't wreck your concentration. It'll only make you sad when you have time for it to do so (like winter break).

'Luck w/ finals...

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby 09042014 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 8:01 pm

Blindmelon wrote:It sucks - push it to the back of your mind for now.

Me and my girlfriend broke up halfway through first semester, I started dating someone 1000x better who I met in law school 2 months later. Dating a law student makes life easier. And unlike my ex, shes actually cool.


Law students are the worst.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby StrictlyLiable » Wed Nov 03, 2010 8:01 pm

If you took her virginity, she'll be back.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby arism87 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 8:01 pm

StrictlyLiable wrote:If you took her virginity, she'll be back.


I feel bad for laughing at this, but.. so true.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby christmas mouse » Wed Nov 03, 2010 8:04 pm

Gamecubesupreme wrote:
I guess the worst thing about this whole ordeal is after she broke up with me, the first thing that came to my mind was I still have to finish my outlines for torts by next week.


This means 2 things:
1. Can you really blame her? I know you said you were up front with her about law school commitment and she must have said she could deal with it, but maybe she underestimated how hard it would be to date someone who had other priorities. All I'm saying is there is a reason why lawyers have high divorce rates and alcoholism... Shit sucks, thats the life we chose, not everyone is mentally as strong or emotionally as strong to deal with the consequences of out choices. Respect it and move on...

2. Sounds to me like your head is in the right place. Things got tough, but u prioritized and you see what is most important to you right now. Use this as motivation.

Some of this may have sounded pretty dick, but now is no time to feel sorry for yourself, you've got assumption of risk to flesh out.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby dresden doll » Wed Nov 03, 2010 8:05 pm

plenipotentiary wrote:
dresden doll wrote:
plenipotentiary wrote:Dumping you before finals is ice cold. I hope you didn't love her.

He's at least a month away. That doesn't qualify as ice cold.


He's already studying. His head needs to be in the game.

I've told my boyfriend that he can dump me before school starts or after finals. If he does it during 1L, I will disembowel him.

While I'm sure you're being facetious, no one owes it to anyone to remain together for such an extended period of time just to spare their school performance from taking a hit.

It'd be one thing if OP's exams were right around the corner (i.e. if it were Thanksgiving). But it's only the beginning of November. He'll live, and she didn't owe to him to stay together for another month and a half just so he could study in peace. That sort of a demand is about as selfish as she's accused of being ITT.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby stayway » Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:07 pm

arism87 wrote:
beach_terror wrote:This is why I'm happy I'm not in a relationship right now. The last thing I need during crunch time is someone fucking with my flow.

If you're feeling down, find a rebound and do it quick. Get it in. It'll help put off any of the emotional baggage until finals are over.


+1


just be careful of the rebound becoming another baggage itself

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby grrrstick » Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:20 pm

nooyyllib wrote:
arism87 wrote:
beach_terror wrote:This is why I'm happy I'm not in a relationship right now. The last thing I need during crunch time is someone fucking with my flow.

If you're feeling down, find a rebound and do it quick. Get it in. It'll help put off any of the emotional baggage until finals are over.


+1


just be careful of the rebound becoming another baggage itself


Recommend cruising the undergrad bars to avoid the baggage. Just make sure she doesn't know where you live until after finals.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby arism87 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:22 pm

grrrstick wrote:
nooyyllib wrote:
arism87 wrote:
beach_terror wrote:This is why I'm happy I'm not in a relationship right now. The last thing I need during crunch time is someone fucking with my flow.

If you're feeling down, find a rebound and do it quick. Get it in. It'll help put off any of the emotional baggage until finals are over.


+1


just be careful of the rebound becoming another baggage itself


Recommend cruising the undergrad bars to avoid the baggage. Just make sure she doesn't know where you live until after finals.


on this side note (sorry OP) my only experience with law school men was during my undergrad.. when a guy at a bar asked if he could join me in the bathroom. I'm not super optimistic about y'all.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Connelly » Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:26 pm

+a million to this being an excuse. No one just wakes up, realizes they're being ignored, and bolts. They would try to work through it. This was her excuse to get out.

+1 to the virginity thing.

Also, this pretty much wraps it up: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0U8_LX7ccC4

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby beach_terror » Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:30 pm

Connelly wrote:+a million to this being an excuse. No one just wakes up, realizes they're being ignored, and bolts. They would try to work through it. This was her excuse to get out.

+1 to the virginity thing.

Also, this pretty much wraps it up: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0U8_LX7ccC4


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=whOLvUEukWs

That wraps it up better.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby BaiAilian2013 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 10:16 pm

I mean, to try to answer OP's actual question... if "not spending enough time with her" means you live in the same city but haven't had dinner or spent a weekend afternoon together in weeks, you can't make 10 minutes at the end of the night to call her before bed, etc... then yeah, it probably does mean you're studying too hard (although it still might not be her only reason). But if "not spending enough time" means you didn't hang with her both Saturday AND Sunday, or you sometimes have to tell her no when she's available (but do see her at some other times), then no, you're fine.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby stayway » Wed Nov 03, 2010 10:20 pm

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Stanford4Me » Wed Nov 03, 2010 10:22 pm

paratactical wrote:I vote that all the ladies PM me urls for boob pics and I will send them as a boob montage to OP to make him feel better.

And forward them to me.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby beach_terror » Wed Nov 03, 2010 10:25 pm

Stanford4Me wrote:
paratactical wrote:I vote that all the ladies PM me urls for boob pics and I will send them as a boob montage to OP to make him feel better.

And forward them to me.


I imagined you saying that with Turk's inflection, which made it lulzy

"anddddd forward them to me (points at self)" .. now thats what im talkin bout




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