So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

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So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Gamecubesupreme » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:34 pm

apparently it's because I haven't been spending enough time with her due to my studying for law school finals.

I'm not sure what to think right now...other than to ask is this an indication that I might be studying too hard? Or should your significant others be feeling deserted when you're clamping down on studying for finals?

I guess the worst thing about this whole ordeal is after she broke up with me, the first thing that came to my mind was I still have to finish my outlines for torts by next week.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby TTH » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:35 pm

Gamecubesupreme wrote:apparently it's because I haven't been spending enough time with her due to my studying for law school finals.

I'm not sure what to think right now...other than to ask is this an indication that I might be studying too hard? Or should your significant others be feeling deserted when you're clamping down on studying for finals?

I guess the worst thing about this whole ordeal is after she broke up with me, the first thing that came to my mind was I still have to finish my outlines for torts by next week.


Not enough info to make a determination. If you've been ignoring her since the semester began, then her argument may have some merit, but if you've been accessible until recently and have started to sequester yourself due to it being crunch time, then she's being unreasonable.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby thexfactor » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:36 pm

Gamecubesupreme wrote:apparently it's because I haven't been spending enough time with her due to my studying for law school finals.

I'm not sure what to think right now...other than to ask is this an indication that I might be studying too hard? Or should your significant others be feeling deserted when you're clamping down on studying for finals?

I guess the worst thing about this whole ordeal is after she broke up with me, the first thing that came to my mind was I still have to finish my outlines for torts by next week.


i think you are ready to become a lawyer.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby plenipotentiary » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:40 pm

Dumping you before finals is ice cold. I hope you didn't love her.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby deadhipsters » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:44 pm

Seriously, F that girl. If she was serious about spending her life with you in the first place she would make concessions so that you could do well in LS. Success in LS equates to career success (for the most part). She should be supportive of that. Continue to do really well and meet someone else who will appreciate you (your money).

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby 12262010 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:44 pm

law school breakups are usually an excuse for something else. also, if she really can't deal with you focusing on LS finals, I'm not sure how she'd be able to handle the demanding and sporadic time committments you're going to have to make to your job when you're a lawyer.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Grizz » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:46 pm

Sounds like she sucks. Forget her. Start your law career early and enjoy alcoholism.

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Postby arism87 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:50 pm

booyakasha wrote:law school breakups are usually an excuse for something else. also, if she really can't deal with you focusing on LS finals, I'm not sure how she'd be able to handle the demanding and sporadic time committments you're going to have to make to your job when you're a lawyer.


This.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Gamecubesupreme » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:52 pm

I guess you guys are right.

It's going to hurt for a few days I guess, but at least it's better in the long run.

Hopefully this doesn't affect my concentration too much for the next few days.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby BaiAilian2013 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:54 pm

Serious relationship?

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Mike12188 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:56 pm

BaiAilian2013 wrote:Serious relationship?

+1. How long have you been together?

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby s0ph1e2007 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:57 pm

I'm really sorry
That's a bummer

but 1) she used that as an excuse. My guess is she just wasn't feeling it anymore
2) this is a good thing then! If she didn't like you enough to stick out even a tiny bump, then can you imagine what would have happened if you'd stayed together??! Terrible. You would have been involved with a girl when you went to law school who was probably just waiting to find someone else and dump you, and you would be ignoring the pretty girls you meet at 0L orientation.

:) look forward to that. There are tons of guys whose gfs are going to break up with them like 1 term into law school, and too bad for them, because you'll already be dating the really gorgeous girl he was checking out at orientation, but couldn't talk to because of his horrible gf.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby Gamecubesupreme » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:57 pm

BaiAilian2013 wrote:Serious relationship?


The funny thing is, I thought this would be a very serious relationship for her since she was a virgin before we started dating and she told me she wouldn't give it up to anyone unless she is ready to be with him forever.

So yeah, I would say it was a serious relationship. Which is why I'm more confused right now than sad. Still waiting for the being depressed part to hit I guess.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby paratactical » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:58 pm

I vote that all the ladies PM me urls for boob pics and I will send them as a boob montage to OP to make him feel better.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby plenipotentiary » Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:59 pm

s0ph1e2007 wrote:this is a good thing then! If she didn't like you enough to stick out even a tiny bump, then can you imagine what would have happened if you'd stayed together??! Terrible. You would have been involved with a girl when you went to law school who was probably just waiting to find someone else and dump you, and you would be ignoring the pretty girls you meet at 0L orientation.

:) look forward to that. There are tons of guys whose gfs are going to break up with them like 1 term into law school, and too bad for them, because you'll already be dating the really gorgeous girl he was checking out at orientation, but couldn't talk to because of his horrible gf.


He's studying for law school finals.... he's one of the guys whose girlfriends break up with them one term into law school.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby cubswin » Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:07 pm

You might get her back. She thinks she hates the fact that you place law school over her, but she doesn't. Women want you to have a higher purpose in life. Even if she needs some time apart, she could quite possibly come back to you if this relationship is as serious as you think it is.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby s0ph1e2007 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:08 pm

plenipotentiary wrote:
s0ph1e2007 wrote:this is a good thing then! If she didn't like you enough to stick out even a tiny bump, then can you imagine what would have happened if you'd stayed together??! Terrible. You would have been involved with a girl when you went to law school who was probably just waiting to find someone else and dump you, and you would be ignoring the pretty girls you meet at 0L orientation.

:) look forward to that. There are tons of guys whose gfs are going to break up with them like 1 term into law school, and too bad for them, because you'll already be dating the really gorgeous girl he was checking out at orientation, but couldn't talk to because of his horrible gf.


He's studying for law school finals.... he's one of the guys whose girlfriends break up with them one term into law school.



ahhhhh
sorry!
I'm the worst!

hey there will be new 0Ls to date starting next year!


I doubt she would appreciate you mentioning her sexual status when you got together, but sometimes things just aren't right.
You should just thank God that He saw fit to make her break up with you, because if she had stayed with you just because she had initially thought you would be together forever, you would have eventually regretted your relationship and by then maybe been stuck in a bad marriage.

You're a 1L yes? Plenty of time. My sis and bro in law met when he was two years out of her law school and she was a 3L. They're both super gorgeous and ridiculously happy, with kids and two great law jobs, been married six years.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby s0ph1e2007 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:09 pm

cubswin wrote:You might get her back. She thinks she hates the fact that you place law school over her, but she doesn't. Women want you to have a higher purpose in life. Even if she needs some time apart, she could quite possibly come back to you if this relationship is as serious as you think it is.


It's true that in a relationship you need to admire things in each other. If my bf was lazy or didn't have any ambition, we'd break up in about 5 minutes.

Don't wait for her to come back to you though. 1. because doesn't sound like this is relationship you should want to be in 2. because she will come back quicker if you try to get over her (seriously not by turning into some creepy sleaze)

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby dresden doll » Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:10 pm

plenipotentiary wrote:Dumping you before finals is ice cold. I hope you didn't love her.

He's at least a month away. That doesn't qualify as ice cold.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby beachbum » Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:11 pm

rad law wrote:Sounds like she sucks. Forget her. Start your law career early and enjoy alcoholism.


Boo shitty girlfriend. Hooray beer!

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby plenipotentiary » Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:13 pm

dresden doll wrote:
plenipotentiary wrote:Dumping you before finals is ice cold. I hope you didn't love her.

He's at least a month away. That doesn't qualify as ice cold.


He's already studying. His head needs to be in the game.

I've told my boyfriend that he can dump me before school starts or after finals. If he does it during 1L, I will disembowel him.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby BarbellDreams » Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:16 pm

I live with my girlfriend but we see each other 2 hours a day tops. I leave for school at 7:30 and come back around 9 p.m.. I warned her I will be like this constantly before this year began. When she asked why I kept bringing it up I told her I didnt want there to be any surprises. I also told her she can pretty much forget about me for the two weeks after the open memo is due through the end of finals. Idk, maybe my girlfriend is just more understanding, seriously though I doubt this is your fault but more so just her being unprepared for how much time you need to devote to this. Yes, NEED TO.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby BaiAilian2013 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:48 pm

Gamecubesupreme wrote:
BaiAilian2013 wrote:Serious relationship?


The funny thing is, I thought this would be a very serious relationship for her since she was a virgin before we started dating and she told me she wouldn't give it up to anyone unless she is ready to be with him forever.

So yeah, I would say it was a serious relationship. Which is why I'm more confused right now than sad. Still waiting for the being depressed part to hit I guess.

In that case I'm gonna agree with Booyakasha et al. and say law school might not be the only issue in her mind. It's probably a factor, but for most people that alone wouldn't justify ending a serious relationship - I mean, unless we're talking about really egregious neglect, like going days without being able to make 10 minutes to talk.

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby LAWYER2 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 6:12 pm

booyakasha wrote:law school breakups are usually an excuse for something else. also, if she really can't deal with you focusing on LS finals, I'm not sure how she'd be able to handle the demanding and sporadic time committments you're going to have to make to your job when you're a lawyer.



best response I read on TLS all day!!

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Re: So my girlfriend broke up with me today...

Postby lolol10 » Wed Nov 03, 2010 6:14 pm

she was prolly seeing some other guy and finally had an excuse to break up. thats what they do. but hang in there bro there are more fish in the sea, as they say.
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