Rikkugrrl wrote:Actually on a semi related note, awhile back I had a guy I was casually dating break things off with me because he didn't see longterm potential in me. When I asked why he told me that "that law school thing" is too intimidating and it wasn't what he had in mind for his ideal girl. Then he asked me if I'd give up an acceptance at a top school and stay in the state for him. I laughed as I cheerily called a cab to take me home.
I get this thread is lolzy and it definitely made me giggle, but it reminded me of a guy who was scarily serious about the whole idea that women should stay home and make sandwiches. Somewhat more mature men in law school won't be like that....will they?
He probably 1) wants kids 2) doesn't want to be the primary caretaker or at least not as much as a lawyer counterpart would necessitate 3) doesn't want to outsource the raising of his children.
Pretty reasonable if you ask me.
Seems reasonable to me too.
As to "somewhat more mature men in law school . . ." I think you'll actually find significantly more of this attitude. I know a number of men who are looking for a woman who will not necessarily stay home with the kids, but at least have a job that is flexible enough that they can put more time into child-rearing, since the male law students are aware they likely won't have much time for it.
I'm a woman, and seeing as no one has criticized me for stating that I would like to fall in love with a man who will stay home with kids or work flexibly, I can't imagine criticizing a guy for thinking logically about what he wants for his future kids and looking for a mate who will match up with that. Parenting-wise, I think it makes sense to have a primary breadwinner and a primary caretaker - nice division of labor, there. If a man OR woman is putting him or herself in line to be the primary breadwinner, why not look for a primary caretaker to counterbalance that?