GF in law school?

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tadams86
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GF in law school?

Postby tadams86 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:46 pm

What are your thoughts? I have been with my gf for over three years, but I worry she might not like the law school lifestyle. She is very demanding now, and I have done my best to prepare her for the rigors, but who knows.


Hopefully I posted this in the right place....

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby AsylumPB » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:49 pm

According to most posters on here...just be prepared to be single. If she is demanding now, law school certainly isn't going to make anything better. You will have far less time to spend with her, so she either needs to respect that or leave.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby JordynAsh » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:53 pm

If sexually demanding --> KEEP GF
If demanding of lots of your time and/or energy --> Not so much.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby am060459 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:53 pm

my girl will be going to med school at the same time im going to law school. my girl is also demanding.

it depends on what she will be doing. if she is staying back at home doing the same old thing then u got a problem.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby am060459 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:54 pm

JordynAsh wrote:If sexually demanding --> KEEP GF
If demanding of lots of your time and/or energy --> Not so much.



lmao. aslo very true.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby Aeroplane » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:56 pm

AsylumPB wrote:If she is demanding now, law school certainly isn't going to make anything better. You will have far less time to spend with her, so she either needs to respect that or leave.
This. If you want to keep her, find her something to keep her busy. Convince her she needs a PhD or something.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby Nom Sawyer » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:58 pm

Aeroplane wrote:
AsylumPB wrote:If she is demanding now, law school certainly isn't going to make anything better. You will have far less time to spend with her, so she either needs to respect that or leave.
This. If you want to keep her, find her something to keep her busy. Convince her she needs a PhD or something.


Double or nothing on the debt huh?

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby JordynAsh » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:59 pm

Nom Sawyer wrote:
Double or nothing on the debt huh?


QFAwesomeness of 'tar. Srsly, maybe the best I've seen.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby chicoalto0649 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 9:59 pm

am060459 wrote:my girl will be going to med school at the same time im going to law school. my girl is also demanding.

it depends on what she will be doing. if she is staying back at home doing the same old thing then u got a problem.



Pffft. A lawyer and a doctor. Come on, you're better than that.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby Aeroplane » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:04 pm

Nom Sawyer wrote:
Aeroplane wrote:
AsylumPB wrote:If she is demanding now, law school certainly isn't going to make anything better. You will have far less time to spend with her, so she either needs to respect that or leave.
This. If you want to keep her, find her something to keep her busy. Convince her she needs a PhD or something.


Double or nothing on the debt huh?

Many, if not most PhD's are fully funded & provide a stipend. Anyway I was joking.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby Jackie O » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:07 pm

two things

1. if you are worried that you will not be capable of maintaining a relationship while attending law school, you have more problems ahead

2. if you are considering ending your relationship because of law school, your relationship sucks

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby iShotFirst » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:08 pm

If you cant keep a girlfriend while you are in law school, how are you going to keep one when you are a lawyer?

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby DeurCorp51 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:23 pm

I currently have a girl friend in law school. She is a international law student from east Asia. We both have different study habits that conflict and she complains to me, all the time, that I need to have a more normal life style/ work schedule. Basically, I stay up too late doing work and she's pissed. She is demanding in many ways but she does take good care of me. I take her out to dinner and movies occasionally. I somehow manage to balance my personal life and my law school life, although I does/doesn't help her being a fellow law student.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby Nom Sawyer » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:27 pm

JordynAsh wrote:
Nom Sawyer wrote:
Double or nothing on the debt huh?


QFAwesomeness of 'tar. Srsly, maybe the best I've seen.


the book he's gnawing on is Tom Sawyer haha.. u can see the "TWAIN"

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby rcharles » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:28 pm

JordynAsh wrote:If sexually demanding --> KEEP GF
If demanding of lots of your time and/or energy --> Not so much.


My GF is sexually demanding. However, this demand requires much of my time and energy to satisfy. What should I do Dr. Ruth?

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby rcharles » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:30 pm

iShotFirst wrote:If you cant keep a girlfriend while you are in law school, how are you going to keep one when you are a lawyer?


TITCR

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby JordynAsh » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:34 pm

rcharles wrote:
JordynAsh wrote:If sexually demanding --> KEEP GF
If demanding of lots of your time and/or emotional energy --> Not so much.


My GF is sexually demanding. However, this demand requires much of my time and energy to satisfy. What should I do Dr. Ruth?


Fixt for clarification.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby rcharles » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:38 pm

JordynAsh wrote:
rcharles wrote:
JordynAsh wrote:If sexually demanding --> KEEP GF
If demanding of lots of your time and/or emotional energy --> Not so much.


My GF is sexually demanding. However, this demand requires much of my time and energy to satisfy. What should I do Dr. Ruth?


Fixt for clarification.


Thanks, this clears things up a bit.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby bees » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:38 pm

tulip baroo wrote:two things

1. if you are worried that you will not be capable of maintaining a relationship while attending law school, you have more problems ahead

2. if you are considering ending your relationship because of law school, your relationship sucks

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby JordynAsh » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:41 pm

bees wrote:
tulip baroo wrote:two things

1. if you are worried that you will not be capable of maintaining a relationship while attending law school, you have more problems ahead

2. if you are considering ending your relationship because of law school, your relationship sucks


Inorite? Sounds like OP is looking for validation to break up with her.

On the interwebs. :(

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby lawduder » Tue Feb 23, 2010 10:46 pm

tulip baroo wrote:two things

1. if you are worried that you will not be capable of maintaining a relationship while attending law school, you have more problems ahead

2. if you are considering ending your relationship because of law school, your relationship sucks

3. if you are asking about relationship advice on tls, you probably are doing something wrong

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby emoticons777 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 11:04 pm

From the other side . . .

I have a boyfriend, and we're making it through my 1L year. We broke up for a few weeks during August-September, due to the expected pressures of law school, but ended up getting back together. We live on opposite coasts, and everything has been going fine. He understands I have work; however, I am still able to talk to him every day and I would almost say this has been beneficial for our relationship. Not having sex is the hardest thing. It is really not completely terrbile because even when I'm really upset about something - I can always call him and he'll listen. It is completely doable and it does NOT mean you'll have problems in a relationship if you foresee that it may be difficult. It isn't easy, it is realistic to expect hardships and sacrifice, but it is completely doable.

In addition, although it can be financially straining (depending on location) it is important to visit every 4-6 weeks. Be sure you make time during school breaks, etc. If you need to take a day off school to travel, do it, one day wont kill you. Just be sure to get your work done before your visit that way you can truly have some relationship time. Also, try to get back to their location for the summer.

It's always worth it if you love them. You don't have to know you want to be with them forever - but why foreclose on the option because of what might maybe happen?

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby td6624 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 11:15 pm

My tentative plan is to move out to DC, and my boyfriend will follow me sometime around January, ideally before the start of the second semester.

But for the last two years (since the relationship started), we've been at a relatively long distance (2-hour drive during school, 1-hour drive in the summer, with him working and me having fun as an undergrad and then working near my home in summers), and I spent a semester abroad last spring (he visited for six days).

I think the added stress of law school will be counterbalanced by the fact that we'll actually be living together. I know that living together can add stress, but pretty much all of our problems in the past have arisen from the whole distance thing...

Am I crazy? I don't expect it to be perfect all the time, but I do expect it to work. Any thoughts?

Not trying to hijack the thread... figured it was on topic enough.

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby kittenmittons » Tue Feb 23, 2010 11:19 pm

iShotFirst wrote:If you cant keep a girlfriend while you are in law school, how are you going to keep one when you are a lawyer?


Unemployment?

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Re: GF in law school?

Postby tadams86 » Tue Feb 23, 2010 11:59 pm

Thanks for the responses....

1. I am not looking for an excuse to breakup
2. My relationship doesnt suck now, just worried about it sucking then.
3. I am not asking for relationship advice, just interested mainly in other peoples experiences.
4. She will be moving with me, is this the best idea...who knows? She is a journalism major, good luck on her finding a job, thats what worries me. I dont need relationship drama + extra financial stress.


Again thank you for the stories/quirks/advice...keep it coming. The only experience i have had with this is through a friend who is now a 1L...her relationship lasted a whole 2 weeks after they moved...makes me paranoid. Again my relationship doesnt suck....




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