Living with S.O. in LS...

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Should seespotrun move in with gf?

Yes
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36%
No
10
17%
Dude, go fuck yourself
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47%
 
Total votes: 59

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Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby seespotrun » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:27 pm

Pros: sex
Cons: conversation

Please feel free to modify the list. Your contribution will surely help me in making a decision as to whether I should take the plunge and move in with my gf.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby apper123 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:27 pm

Definitely enough information in the OP to give you an answer.

Things like how possible is marriage, how much it will cost, where she'll live otherwise, how long you've been together, etc. won't be helpful at all.

Although I'm pretty sure this is a flame anyways, I thought I'd play along.
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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby jks289 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:28 pm

seespotrun wrote:Pros: sex
Cons: conversation

Please feel free to modify the list. Your contribution will surely help me in making a decision as to whether I should take the plunge and move in with my gf.


Based on your post I am going to go ahead and do her a favor. Don't move in.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby 09042014 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:28 pm

seespotrun wrote:Pros: sex
Cons: conversation

Please feel free to modify the list. Your contribution will surely help me in making a decision as to whether I should take the plunge and move in with my gf.


Conversation is a con? Then no.

The real con is what happens when after three months of neglect she doesn't come home one night after a "night with a work friend you don't know" and you get emo right before finals.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby kittenmittons » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:29 pm

IBthebreakup

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby jmaan » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:32 pm

moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby 09042014 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:32 pm

jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


Having a fiance is for suckers.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby jks289 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:36 pm

Desert Fox wrote:
jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


Having a fiance is for suckers.


Dying bitter and alone is for suckers.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby 09042014 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:37 pm

jks289 wrote:
Desert Fox wrote:
jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


Having a fiance is for suckers.


Dying bitter and alone is for suckers.


Having someone who stopped loving you and started resenting you 20 years ago makes dying all the better?

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby seespotrun » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:39 pm

apper123 wrote:Definitely enough information in the OP to give you an answer.

Things like how possible is marriage, how much it will cost, where she'll live otherwise, how long you've been together, etc. won't be helpful at all.

Although I'm pretty sure this is a flame anyways, I thought I'd play along.


But if I included those things in the OP, then you wouldn't get the satisfaction of giving a snarky-ish response pointing out the obvious. :wink:

To be clear, this definitely isn't a flame. It's a serious consideration. We have been together for 2 1/2 years, and the move would not be cost-prohibitive. As for he possibility of marriage, I wouldn't feel comfortable getting married until I get one of those things...what are they called...oh yea, a career. As of now, marrying my gf at some point in the near future is probable.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby seespotrun » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:40 pm

jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


This is the stuff I'm looking for. Please elaborate.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby Zapatero » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:41 pm

jks289 wrote:
Desert Fox wrote:
jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


Having a fiance is for suckers.


Dying bitter and alone is for suckers.


Law school is for suckers.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby 09042014 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:42 pm

seespotrun wrote:
apper123 wrote:Definitely enough information in the OP to give you an answer.

Things like how possible is marriage, how much it will cost, where she'll live otherwise, how long you've been together, etc. won't be helpful at all.

Although I'm pretty sure this is a flame anyways, I thought I'd play along.


But if I included those things in the OP, then you wouldn't get the satisfaction of giving a snarky-ish response pointing out the obvious. :wink:

To be clear, this definitely isn't a flame. It's a serious consideration. We have been together for 2 1/2 years, and the move would not be cost-prohibitive. As for he possibility of marriage, I wouldn't feel comfortable getting married until I get one of those things...what are they called...oh yea, a career. As of now, marrying my gf at some point in the near future is probable.


Will she support you monetarily? Then yes.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby jks289 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:42 pm

Desert Fox wrote:
jks289 wrote:
Desert Fox wrote:
jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


Having a fiance is for suckers.


Dying bitter and alone is for suckers.


Having someone who stopped loving you and started resenting you 20 years ago makes dying all the better?


Goodness, Desert Fox. Can I come give you a hug?

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby booboo » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:42 pm

Desert Fox wrote:
jks289 wrote:
Desert Fox wrote:
jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


Having a fiance is for suckers.


Dying bitter and alone is for suckers.


Having someone who stopped loving you and started resenting you 20 years ago makes dying all the better?


Hey.

You.

You know that is a classic LSAT fallacy.

:P.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby seespotrun » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:42 pm

Desert Fox wrote:
seespotrun wrote:Pros: sex
Cons: conversation

Please feel free to modify the list. Your contribution will surely help me in making a decision as to whether I should take the plunge and move in with my gf.


Conversation is a con? Then no.

The real con is what happens when after three months of neglect she doesn't come home one night after a "night with a work friend you don't know" and you get emo right before finals.


Convo is not a con. I just threw that in there to keep this light-hearted so people don't give me creepy, internet-sentimental advice.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby 09042014 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:43 pm

jks289 wrote:
Desert Fox wrote:
jks289 wrote:
Having a fiance is for suckers.


Dying bitter and alone is for suckers.


Having someone who stopped loving you and started resenting you 20 years ago makes dying all the better?


Goodness, Desert Fox. Can I come give you a hug?[/quote]

Yes but I'm very grabby.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby seespotrun » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:47 pm

Oh, and I'm currently a 1L if that matters. The prospective move-in would happen this summer.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby Tangerine Gleam » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:50 pm

Desert Fox wrote:
seespotrun wrote:Pros: sex
Cons: conversation

Please feel free to modify the list. Your contribution will surely help me in making a decision as to whether I should take the plunge and move in with my gf.


Conversation is a con? Then no.


+1

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby rocross1 » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:51 pm

seespotrun wrote:
jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


This is the stuff I'm looking for. Please elaborate.


Cohabitation before marriage is usually, according to the stats, a relationship killer. Other than age at marriage it is the most indicative factor assosciated with failed relationships i.e. divorce. If you arent engaged or set on marriage why move in with someone, the breakup would be killer-living with the ex and who moves and who gets what etc.. Dont do it unless you are sure she is the one and you think she can handle neglect and still support you in law school not distract you. My wife knows the first year she is going to get little attention and that I need her help with house stuff and dinner, she is prepared to sacrifice and support me during this time. You should take that kind of stuff into consid first.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby Zapatero » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:55 pm

Just make sure you have an escape plan. Have your things organized in such a fashion that they can be packed in ten minutes or less. Bring as few personal belongings as possible (no televisions, toasters, kitchenware, etc.) The breakup will probably happen during finals, so be sure to have a study-ready safehouse set up somewhere, probably in your parents' basement or a friend's living room, in order to minimize downtime.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby jmaan » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:56 pm

seespotrun wrote:
jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


This is the stuff I'm looking for. Please elaborate.



if youre not committed to a woman to the point where youre ready for marriage, theres nothing good that can comeout of living with her...besides maybe cheaper rent...

you can still have sex without living with her and you have a place to be by yourself (which i imagine you'd need a lot of this in law school) Also, you just wanna be by urself man...what about other girls....or guys night and what not....this is my legitimate answer..

How I really feel is that it's unmanly(beta) to want to move in with a girl. I'm single, not bitter..recently out of a long term relationship (3 years) and the whole time i always knew there was no way I'd live with this girl until i was ready to propose.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby The Zeppelin » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:57 pm

Relationship advice on TLS = fail

You either want to be with that person or you don't.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby badwithpseudonyms » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:59 pm

If all 101 questions on the LSAT included a choice "(f) Dude, go fuck yourself", I would have scored 120.
If you're serious anyway, man up and do it (and save yourself some cash). If you're not, then fuck no.

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Re: Living with S.O. in LS...

Postby jmaan » Wed Feb 03, 2010 3:59 pm

rocross1 wrote:
seespotrun wrote:
jmaan wrote:moving in with a non-fiance gf is for suckers


This is the stuff I'm looking for. Please elaborate.


Cohabitation before marriage is usually, according to the stats, a relationship killer. Other than age at marriage it is the most indicative factor assosciated with failed relationships i.e. divorce. If you arent engaged or set on marriage why move in with someone, the breakup would be killer-living with the ex and who moves and who gets what etc.. Dont do it unless you are sure she is the one and you think she can handle neglect and still support you in law school not distract you. My wife knows the first year she is going to get little attention and that I need her help with house stuff and dinner, she is prepared to sacrifice and support me during this time. You should take that kind of stuff into consid first.



this too...i took a class about marriage (went to catholic school) and there was a lot of research done on this topic....all signs point to no when it comes to premarriage cohabitation




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