CanadianWolf wrote:Regardless of your final decision, you are likely to experience "buyer's remorse".
But I don't want buyer's remorse...
He's right, though. You'll likely experience it no matter which decision you make. Unless you managed to choose one way or the other, and have such a fantastically
successful career that it would seem impossible to have gone better if you went the other way, you will probably always wonder.
AlvinJames wrote:Where do you think I am likely to experience the *least* buyer's remorse?
Not quite the right question. The question should be, where will you most likely experience the least buyer's remorse.
If go to Cornell, you'll have an uphill battle to find a job and little/no support from the school, it sounds like. That will make it extremely difficult to find a job, and put the entire burden right on you alone. You may or may not get a job. If you do get a job, you'll still have gone through a very stressful process, and you'll have more debt to repay, and you probably won't have much remorse, but you'll wonder if you could've done as well if you'd stayed. If you don't get a job, you'll hate yourself for not having stayed put, feeling fairly confident you would've been better off if you had, possibly having been able to find a job, and definitely graduating with less debt either way.
If you stay put, it sounds like your school is at least more supportive of you than Cornell would be. You'll also graduate with 50K less debt. You may or may not get a job. If you do get a job, even if it's not quite as prestigious as what you might
have gotten at Cornell, it's still a job, and you'll have less debt to pay back, so you'll likely have little "what-if" twinges but be happy things turned out well overall. If you don't get a job, you'll probably look back and wonder what would've happened at Cornell, but be really conflicted about it because you also know the school wouldn't have helped you out any, and you might have still ended up without a job, but with more debt.
Unless you think your job prospects at Cornell are significantly better, even with being shut out of OCI and the administrative hostility, you're less likely to experience severe buyer's remorse if you stay put. You're probably more likely overall to experience at least a little if you stay, but a lot less likely to experience the big
remorse that would only come from graduating jobless at Cornell.