JSUVA2012 wrote:ziggysmarley wrote: I mentioned the wedding during my interviews, so it's not like they were surprised by it....
How did that go? I've thought it would be best to discuss it between receiving the offer and making my decision, when I would have at least some bit of bargaining power.
The wedding came up during first round and call back interviews, either because the interviewers would notice the engagement ring or I would mention my fiance... and then they'd ask about the wedding. I didn't press anyone re: taking off a week/starting late until after I received multiple offers and was weighing my options.
Summer programs all start at different times, and there is often some flexibility re: start date based on your school. If you schedule your wedding for May 28, you could start a day or two later... and still work 9-10 weeks. This is more than enough time for the firm to get to know you, evaluate your performance, etc. I just don't see a firm administrator/partner saying "He/She does great work... but he/she got married at the beginning of the summer and this shows a lack of maturity and lack of commitment to the firm. NO OFFER." Maybe if you took off mid-summer or took off multiple weeks or did crappy work, but the firm will likely understand that you planned your wedding months before you did OCI, received an offer, got the dates of the summer program, etc.
I think a lot of kids on this site (and others) have never worked at firms, and base their recommendations on horror stories re: mean partners that float around law schools. At my old firm, no one was canned for stuff like this. When a summer's wife had a baby mid-summer and he took off for a week, people were HAPPY for him. He got an offer (and baby gifts).