OperaSoprano wrote:it just pisses me off that some people think low level sexual harassment is par for the course in this economy, or in any other. People tend not to take us as seriously, for the plain reasons that we are young and female.
I don't think anyone really said that. The rather rude comment directed at you earlier was more in reference to the fact they seemed to assume you wouldn't really be able to tell what factor your appearance played into the hiring process and shouldn't base accepting an offer on something that may or may not be there.
I don't like the victim mentality though. "At least outside of the workplace we can walk away." I'd argue you can be far more effective to combat it in the workplace, with all the ways to report offenses/laws.
Looks based hiring is often not obvious until after employment has started. As I said earlier, it's not really an issue if higher ups behave respectfully after the fact.
I don't think the onus should be on us to confront the person, though. From what I understand, people who experience harassment of any sort are expected to tell the person to stop, and then do so again if it continues. Only if these measures fail to stop the behavior do they have a claim. I might be mistaken about this, and I hope someone will correct me if I am, but my understanding is that getting unwanted behavior stopped is largely made the responsibility of the party with less power.
The fact that multiple people on here have walked instead of combating the behavior should illustrate all that is wrong with this model. The laws exist, which is awesome, but people can absolutely be intimidated into not taking advantage of them. My situation was complicated by the fact that my boss was the head of the organization, and he was obviously ill. I viewed it as an act of power to say "screw you" and walk away.