motownsaint wrote:Do you folks know of many JAGs with spouses or long-term significant others?
I'm really enchanted with the idea of JAG right now (I go AD next month), and I certainly wouldn't mind moving every couple of years to a new place. But I don't want to reduce my SO's career options to house wife, either. What have you guys seen work/experienced?
I'm dealing with that reality now. The AF offered me a great overseas base, and I decided to take it. My then gf had to do a gut check to determine if the military life was something she wanted. Thankfully, she knew enough wives of officers to provide a picture for her. The short story of what they said is that being an officer's wife is what you make of it. If your SO doesn't want to be more than a housewife, then she won't try to be. BUT if she wants more, she can have it to an extent. The main caveat is that your SO (and future wife) will never get the opportunity to hold an upper level position unless it's on base. Few employers (and likely no employer) wants someone running their business who is going to leave in a few years. Some careers (artist, writer, nurse, etc.) are more mobile than others, so it somewhat depends on the situation. Regardless, you SO will need ot make sacrifices for it to work. Your main sacrifice will be down the road in determining whether you decide to stay beyond the initial commitment, but I don't think that's something you should predetermine from the start unless your SO has something waiting in the wings.
Furthermore, I think the housewife/baby-making-momma thing for military wives isn't as true when it comes to officers' wives than it does for enlistee wives. It happens, but I don't think to the same extent. I suspect education has a lot to do with the disparity: officers and their spouses tend to be more educated than enlistees and their wives. As such, the wives of officers want more than just being a mother because they feel like they went to college for a reason. This is at least the sentiment the few wives I know have, but that's fairly limited at this point.