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I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Anonymous User » Thu Jan 25, 2018 2:49 am

Help! Long time lurker, first time poster spurred by a crisis. I’m a new associate at a V100. I had a bad encounter with a well known, rainmaking partner at my firm today and don’t know what to do.

The story: This partner has a very distinct blazer that he wears frequently. I went to wash my hands after lunch and noticed he was in a stall because this blazer was hanging over the side (I also could make out his fancy shoes underneath the door). I left, but had to return 30 minutes later to use the bathroom. He was still in the stall. As I was washing my hands at the sink, he finally came out of the stall. I looked up and made eye contact. I didn’t know what to say, and blurted out of nervousness “lot of Mexican food this week huh?”

His response was unintelligible.

As we finished washing our hands I decided to introduce myself. I reached out reached out my hand and said "I don’t think we’ve met I’m 'name'”. He brushed past and said sarcastically “my pleasure”.

Super awkward every time I see him now. What should I do? I’m scared I’m going to get canned
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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Anonymous User » Thu Jan 25, 2018 3:02 am

This could not have happened.

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Aergia » Thu Jan 25, 2018 4:35 am

You fucked up when you didn’t immediately offer him some pepto bismol.

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby jbagelboy » Thu Jan 25, 2018 8:58 am

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby bobrino » Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:04 am

Retake

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby objctnyrhnr » Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:08 am

I don’t believe this happened because, assuming the first thing happened, you have to have realized how absurd it was. That’s why it doesn’t make sense to me that you’d introduce yourself by name immediately afterwards.

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby jd20132013 » Thu Jan 25, 2018 9:51 am

this didn't happen , work on making these more believable

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Damage Over Time » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:00 am

People don't shake hands in the bathroom

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby kellyfrost » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:12 am

Also not believable because no one hangs their blazer over the side of the stall. That is absurd.
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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby pancakes3 » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:36 am

you deserve to be fired

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Graybrow » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:56 am

But how does this tie into the lay prestige of Cornell vs NYU?

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Anonymous User » Thu Jan 25, 2018 11:53 pm

OP here. I know it sounds super ridiculous but I am not joking. I have really bad anxiety sometimes (different story I don't want to get into on here) and when it happens my mind starts moving a mile a minute... looking back it's ridiculous I did what I did and I'm so embarrassed. I think I was trying to be funny with the first comment but I didn't think before I spoke... then I was trying to save face by the introduction but obviously that was not proper etiquette either

Is there anything I can do? Should I email the partner to apologize?

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Anonymous User » Fri Jan 26, 2018 12:34 am

In the off chance this is serious:
No, do not email the partner about your comment re his bowel movements. Pretend that the conversation never happened. That's what he wants.

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby spha12 » Fri Jan 26, 2018 1:14 am

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby spha12 » Fri Jan 26, 2018 1:14 am

Anonymous User wrote:This could not have happened.


I agree. This must be a troll.

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Anonymous User » Fri Jan 26, 2018 1:30 am

Anonymous User wrote:In the off chance this is serious:
No, do not email the partner about your comment re his bowel movements. Pretend that the conversation never happened. That's what he wants.


OP here. Thank you. Would you recommend taking 'any' action at all or just lay low and hope this blows over?

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby whats an updog » Fri Jan 26, 2018 4:58 am

If this isn't fake, first, lay low. Anything you do/say can only make this worse. But more importantly, what type of low shelf firm has stalls without floor to ceiling walls?

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby RCSOB657 » Fri Jan 26, 2018 10:15 am

Should totally sponsor a taco bar for your next firm lunch.

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby magnum_law » Fri Jan 26, 2018 10:49 am

I would email the partner first thing Monday morning (after he's had time to calm down) and apologize profusely.

Make sure to CC all the partners in his practice group and any others that you frequently work with. You want to counteract any possible bad-mouthing that he might have done

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Nagster5 » Fri Jan 26, 2018 12:17 pm

Order him lunch from a Mexican place and deliver it to his office. It will show you have a good sense of humor about the whole thing and want to make it up to him. Not talking about it just makes it awkward, bring it up at every opportunity and laugh about it, he will see you don't take yourself too seriously.

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby cron1834 » Fri Jan 26, 2018 12:39 pm

whats an updog wrote:If this isn't fake, first, lay low. Anything you do/say can only make this worse. But more importantly, what type of low shelf firm has stalls without floor to ceiling walls?

Love the full walls.

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Anonymous User » Sat Jan 27, 2018 12:04 am

cron1834 wrote:
whats an updog wrote:If this isn't fake, first, lay low. Anything you do/say can only make this worse. But more importantly, what type of low shelf firm has stalls without floor to ceiling walls?

Love the full walls.


I barely just started at the firm I don't know the rationale behind their bathroom architecture decisions. Should I email the partner about that too? smdh

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Anonymous User » Sat Jan 27, 2018 12:05 am

Thank you for humor glad you are all taking my embarrassment so seriously.... does anyone else have suggestions on what I might want to do?

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby jd20132013 » Sat Jan 27, 2018 12:20 am

I suggest learning from
This experience and making your troll topics less unbelievable

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Re: I think I ruined my career prospects at firm

Postby Anonymous User » Sat Jan 27, 2018 1:23 am

As a managing partner he was probably just concerned about the latent racism in the original "joke"



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