dixiecupdrinking wrote:Don't sweat it too much. It's not a great move to let your colleague bear the brunt of the work on a project, but it's also on them to speak up if they're not happy with the arrangement. A simple "hey I'm really busy this week, can you handle this" would have don't the trick. Sounds like a lack of communication all around.
Agreed; it was on the colleague to reach out and communicate if they were really this pissed about how things were going. You did all you can do OP, so I wouldn't feel guilty about it anymore.
But congrats on your first lesson on Passive Aggression in Biglaw OP!
Also just generally, literally the worst thing you can do with a person who's already angry with you is to start making assumptions about what will pacify them based on their gender/age/race/class/etc. Don't "bro it up" with a male colleague who hates you, don't "get ghetto" with a black colleague or a colleague from the projects, etc. Besides the fact that it's racist/sexist/classist/etc. to make assumptions about people and what they like/don't like based on stereotypes, if your stereotypes don't match up to the person you are guaranteed to tank your reputation almost instantly.