elendinel wrote:An hour's not that bad. I've had a 45-min/longer commute after 16-hour days; it was actually a nice time to decompress and not have to worry a whole lot about anything for an hour, because no one could bug me about anything while I was in transit. Most people probably have the same (or worse) commutes, I imagine (I had a similar one for awhile and I'm in a large city).
I didn't read the other posts, but another possible solution (if it really bothers you that much and you don't mind a move) is to move halfway between fiancee's job and yours (assuming it's not balls expensive, and this is assuming fiancee works in the area you live in right now and isn't already an hour in the other direction), and rent out your current house. You keep the property, and you both get inconvenienced an equal amount while still both being able to pursue jobs you really want. This does come with the wrinkle of having to be landlords, though.
OP here. Moving closer is not really an option for two reasons, (a) it would put my fiance further away from work, which is already a 30 minute commute, and (b) the area just isn't very desirable compared to where we live now.
Seems like the overwhelming consensus is to just do the commute. I did tell the firm "Oh ya, I want to live downtown and would love to get an apartment here." Will they call me on this eventually, or do they know it's all part of the salesmanship and blah blah that goes on in interviews?