Anonymous User wrote:Hi all,
I found out I was pregnant this morning. Extremely unexpected as I am on birth control. I am engaged and I think under most circumstances we would continue the pregnancy. However, my approximate due date is right at the end of the summer associate program I have been offered and accepted at a V100. It is a very small program on the west coast and I will only be one of four summers. This is a firm I could see myself at long term, and although they have a 100% offer rate, I am a bit concerned about being 8/9 months pregnant during the program. Are there any big law associates out there that worked through their pregnancy? Would this effect my chances of getting a full time offer? This is my first pregnancy and I don't really know if working during my last trimester is even feasible. Would appreciate any insight. I know that this summer will make or break my career and my partner and I have decided to terminate if doing the program in my final trimester is insane.
I don't know if it will make a difference or not (technically it's illegal for it to make a difference, but we all know of stories of people getting fired for all sorts of things that were just pretext for illegal reasons to fire them).
Here's my other completely unsolicited advice: if you're really just neutral about having a baby right now, this plan is fine, but if you really would love to have the baby and are considering terminating the pregnancy out of abject fear that your career would crash and burn as a result...things are not THAT dire. Don't terminate a pregnancy you want to keep out of fear that this is "a bad time," because that mentality is going to make you miserable. There will never be a "good" time in biglaw to do anything outside your job; that's just the nature of the field. If you keep thinking "Well I don't want to jeopardize my job..." you're never going to get a "good" time to have kids; you're never going to find a "good" time to travel the world; you're never going to find a "good" time to start writing your novel; or whatever other random aspirations you have. So keep that in mind, in terms of weighing job and other important goals, and in terms of thinking that you can achieve your goals later if you just put them off today.
Outside of that, as much as some people in these forums talk about how your life is completely ruined if you don't do specific things every year of law school, there is always another way to get what you want. It may take longer or take more effort/dilligence, but if biglaw is what you really want to do, then you can do it, even if this SA doesn't give you an offer because your water breaks during the second-to-last week. Don't think you have to put everything on the line now to get this job. Don't think you will have to put everything on the line to get some other job. If having the baby's not a big deal, then put work over the baby, but if it is a big deal, you can treat it as one. You can take the SA and do your very best, and you can consider your options if it doesn't turn out the way you wanted it to. Plenty of people get jobs as 3Ls. Plenty of people lateral into biglaw firms after a few years at another firm. Plenty of people find out that another field better suits the lifestyle they want than biglaw ever could. Plenty of people find out that the biglaw job at their dream job wasn't what it was cracked up to be, and leave in a few years anyway. So, don't let this be the end-all, be all (though I completely understand the impulse to do so).