CaptainJapan wrote:A. Nony Mouse wrote:But the OP never claimed there was some kind of moral victory in not drinking. You sound kind of defensive, to be honest.
What makes you say that? All the personal insults I started with? The assumed infallible sense of the one correct way to behave in a social setting?
It's dictionary definition "unusual" to completely abstain from alcohol if you're outside the religion/recovery/health reasons. Never said it reflects on anyone's character...only that it's a tiny bit strange. That radical opinion upsets some people, and I can only imagine why...
So, the OP asked if they would stick out if they didn't want to drink at SA events. You were the one who injected judginess into the situation, by characterizing not-drinking as being about "draw[ing] arbitrary rules" and "attach[ing] some moral victory to carrying a Diet Pepsi around." Those were the first non-neutral characterizations of not drinking, they didn't come from the OP, and they're quite a bit stronger than "a tiny bit strange."
(And honestly it's not normal to carry around a beer that you're not drinking.)