zacharus85 wrote:I do love the tried-and-true tactic of 'You're an idiot' and any response is met with 'Calm down aspie what's the big deal.'
Sorry for offending, North. I don't know when to stop feeding the trolls. I'll stop now - AV feel free to keep strawmanning me to your heart's content, you're doing a bangup job on BOTH SIDES of the argument.
Edit: retake, go to t6 with $$, whatever the groupthink answer is, all times, forever. God forbid a different opinion get debated like adults.
I don't think you're an idiot. You're probably smarter than I am, attending a better school than I did, and will work at a better firm than I'm at.
What I will say is that I don't think it's fair to call OP "dumb" for planning his wedding during an SA he didn't know he would have, especially since that seems to be the best choice given his wife's particular taste in venue and season (the alternatives appear to be during bar exam study or during his first year as an associate...both worse options than doing it during his SA).
I also don't think it's fair to say that taking this day off is "one strike when you didn't have to swing in the first place." That's just not how law firms work. They not only won't know OP was gone, they won't even remember that he took a day off for his wedding when he comes back after taking the bar exam. Seriously, everyone from the receptionist to the paralegals will have way more important things to do than worry about where OP is, and the partners and senior associates won't even know OP's name until three months into his time as a junior associate.
I also don't think it's fair to say that this could lead to bad habits for OP with regard to hours. Even firms with partners and senior associates that worship Satan understand that life happens.
That's all I'm saying, albeit with whiny and immature prose because I'm bored and waiting to get comments/revisions on an assignment I spent 30 hours on last week that I'm likely going to have to do over once the partner defecates on everything I wrote.