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- Mce252
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Help with law school recruiter problem
THIS IS A TROLL. THANKS ATL
Looking for advice on a tricky situation stemming from OCI. As you all know, the OCI process wrapped up a little bit ago and I was lucky enough to get an offer from a great firm for next summer.
At that firm, I happened to hit it off with one of the girls on the recruiting staff who was mingling with the interviewees during the process. I don't think anyone noticed but we talked quite a bit that week and really hit it off.
I ended up taking her to dinner several times and we've spent a lot of time together since then. Then, earlier this week, we got in a fight that got really bad. I won't describe the details, but, in the end, she shattered the windshield of my car last night and is threatening to make some wild accusations to the firm that I will be working for next summer.
What should I do without making this worse? Talking to her is out of the question. She could be legitimately dangerous and I am already considering involving the police... Any ideas?
Looking for advice on a tricky situation stemming from OCI. As you all know, the OCI process wrapped up a little bit ago and I was lucky enough to get an offer from a great firm for next summer.
At that firm, I happened to hit it off with one of the girls on the recruiting staff who was mingling with the interviewees during the process. I don't think anyone noticed but we talked quite a bit that week and really hit it off.
I ended up taking her to dinner several times and we've spent a lot of time together since then. Then, earlier this week, we got in a fight that got really bad. I won't describe the details, but, in the end, she shattered the windshield of my car last night and is threatening to make some wild accusations to the firm that I will be working for next summer.
What should I do without making this worse? Talking to her is out of the question. She could be legitimately dangerous and I am already considering involving the police... Any ideas?
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Don't call the police, apologize to her, fix your car. Enjoy your summer at the firm and stay far the hell away from her. AND NEVER DATE SOMEONE FROM THE FIRM AGAIN. YOU IDIOT.Anonymous User wrote:Looking for advice on a tricky situation stemming from OCI. As you all know, the OCI process wrapped up a little bit ago and I was lucky enough to get an offer from a great firm for next summer.
At that firm, I happened to hit it off with one of the girls on the recruiting staff who was mingling with the interviewees during the process. I don't think anyone noticed but we talked quite a bit that week and really hit it off.
I ended up taking her to dinner several times and we've spent a lot of time together since then. Then, earlier this week, we got in a fight that got really bad. I won't describe the details, but, in the end, she shattered the windshield of my car last night and is threatening to make some wild accusations to the firm that I will be working for next summer.
What should I do without making this worse? Talking to her is out of the question. She could be legitimately dangerous and I am already considering involving the police... Any ideas?
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Or, be proactive. Tell HR at the firm and say "just wanted to give you a heads up." And get a police report on the windshield so you have some proof of what's going on.
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OP here.sparty99 wrote:Don't call the police, apologize to her, fix your car. Enjoy your summer at the firm and stay far the hell away from her. AND NEVER DATE SOMEONE FROM THE FIRM AGAIN. YOU IDIOT.Anonymous User wrote:Looking for advice on a tricky situation stemming from OCI. As you all know, the OCI process wrapped up a little bit ago and I was lucky enough to get an offer from a great firm for next summer.
At that firm, I happened to hit it off with one of the girls on the recruiting staff who was mingling with the interviewees during the process. I don't think anyone noticed but we talked quite a bit that week and really hit it off.
I ended up taking her to dinner several times and we've spent a lot of time together since then. Then, earlier this week, we got in a fight that got really bad. I won't describe the details, but, in the end, she shattered the windshield of my car last night and is threatening to make some wild accusations to the firm that I will be working for next summer.
What should I do without making this worse? Talking to her is out of the question. She could be legitimately dangerous and I am already considering involving the police... Any ideas?
Yeah, I know. It was stupid.
I guess I'm worried about the situation where the apology is unaccepted. She found out that I am conservative on some issues and I expressed my views on some issues, we got into this huge fight, and now she is calling me a Christian fascist. I legitimately believe she needs to refill a prescription. It's crazy.
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Been through this shit before, well not at work but similar kinds of exes
Have an app on your phone ready to go at the tip of your finger (use a widget on homescreen or similar) in case she she admits to anything damning around you. If/once you get something it will at least give you leverage so she knows to stay away
Have an app on your phone ready to go at the tip of your finger (use a widget on homescreen or similar) in case she she admits to anything damning around you. If/once you get something it will at least give you leverage so she knows to stay away
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Do not do this.*Anonymous User wrote:Been through this shit before, well not at work but similar kinds of exes
Have an app on your phone ready to go at the tip of your finger (use a widget on homescreen or similar) in case she she admits to anything damning around you. If/once you get something it will at least give you leverage so she knows to stay away
*Not legal advice, common sense advice.
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why? court admissibility/whatever else beside (I have no clue)...... police will listen to that shit if they show up to your house because of some bullshit claim (done it, worked out well). and I can't imagine your boss not hearing it out if she goes to him with some bs trying to get you firedph14 wrote:Do not do this.*Anonymous User wrote:Been through this shit before, well not at work but similar kinds of exes
Have an app on your phone ready to go at the tip of your finger (use a widget on homescreen or similar) in case she she admits to anything damning around you. If/once you get something it will at least give you leverage so she knows to stay away
*Not legal advice, common sense advice.
she may be insane but she probably won't risk her job to try to ruin yours
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Did she look good nude at least bro
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I'd ask career services.
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Totally agree with this.kalvano wrote:Or, be proactive. Tell HR at the firm and say "just wanted to give you a heads up." And get a police report on the windshield so you have some proof of what's going on.
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so glad i'm a forever alone
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Side note. Congrats dude, all the recruiters I encountered were close to 10/10s.
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How did you having conservative views escalate to her smashing your car?
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Speak to the DIRECTOR of HR. Firms are particular about who they select as summer associates and try to keep them happy. It not a great look for you to date folks at the firm, but they will chop it up to you being a law student. For the woman, she may be fired for lack of ethics or behavior unbecoming for the firm.
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I'm guessing she realized that she just had consensual sex with a conservative.thewaves wrote:How did you having conservative views escalate to her smashing your car?
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The best answer from an HR prospective would probably be canning both of you. This is what happened when people got involved at my work and it ended badly.
If you can work it out independently that could be best, but this could end badly. Just try not to end up on abovethelaw.
I wish you luck. But this just seems like a real mess. If you file the police report and that is how HR learns of this event, I am guessing HR will fire both of you. Because a partner at a major law firm will probably think this is indicative of your future behavior.(not saying it is but the inferences are bad.)
Good luck man. Be careful. Talk to someone at school like a CDO employee you trust or a professor you are close to. Or your mom or dad. get some real counseling from a friend.
If you can work it out independently that could be best, but this could end badly. Just try not to end up on abovethelaw.
I wish you luck. But this just seems like a real mess. If you file the police report and that is how HR learns of this event, I am guessing HR will fire both of you. Because a partner at a major law firm will probably think this is indicative of your future behavior.(not saying it is but the inferences are bad.)
Good luck man. Be careful. Talk to someone at school like a CDO employee you trust or a professor you are close to. Or your mom or dad. get some real counseling from a friend.
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This. I actually can't believe the OP actually dated a recruiter for a firm he wanted to work for. Just seems like an all-around terrible idea. The risk of being unemployed should far outweigh the risk of catching something from some strange not related with the law firm. As you said, best of luck to the OP but this is one of the worst situations I've read about in a while.jarofsoup wrote:The best answer from an HR prospective would probably be canning both of you. This is what happened when people got involved at my work and it ended badly.
If you can work it out independently that could be best, but this could end badly. Just try not to end up on abovethelaw.
I wish you luck. But this just seems like a real mess. If you file the police report and that is how HR learns of this event, I am guessing HR will fire both of you. Because a partner at a major law firm will probably think this is indicative of your future behavior.(not saying it is but the inferences are bad.)
Good luck man. Be careful. Talk to someone at school like a CDO employee you trust or a professor you are close to. Or your mom or dad. get some real counseling from a friend.
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At the very least, keep the texts/messages where she has threatened to tell the firm..
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If firm gets a wiff of this, OP is fucked. That is all.
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The best answer from an HR prospective would probably be canning both of you.
Agreed.If firm gets a wiff of this, OP is fucked. That is all.
This is a terrible idea. You're both easily replaceable, and the firm will very likely can both of you immediately if it finds out.Or, be proactive. Tell HR at the firm and say "just wanted to give you a heads up."
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I think you are sorta fucked if you tell and if you don't.
If you do, you look like an idiot who got involved in a messy relationship. If you don't, she can possibly poison the well.
I'd call and see if you can't come to an understanding, then pray she doesn't start rumors. But know, the minute you sweep this under the rug, you'll probably forfeit any chance the firm will take your side and not hold it against you. The only reason I'd go this way is because the HR piece of ass doesn't have much pull in the firm, at least usually.
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If you do, you look like an idiot who got involved in a messy relationship. If you don't, she can possibly poison the well.
I'd call and see if you can't come to an understanding, then pray she doesn't start rumors. But know, the minute you sweep this under the rug, you'll probably forfeit any chance the firm will take your side and not hold it against you. The only reason I'd go this way is because the HR piece of ass doesn't have much pull in the firm, at least usually.
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I think posters are overreacting. You've got a mutually assured destruction thing going here. I think when she chills out, she's not not going to be telling the firm shit. I would not go to the police about the car. I would give it some time and then reach out to her with a fig leaf.
When summer comes around, the firm will probably tell you something about its policies on office relationships. At my firm, these are not frowned upon and are not a big deal. The policy is just to disclose the relationship to HR. By that point maybe she'll have cooled enough that you can just casually disclose that you once had a relationship.
When summer comes around, the firm will probably tell you something about its policies on office relationships. At my firm, these are not frowned upon and are not a big deal. The policy is just to disclose the relationship to HR. By that point maybe she'll have cooled enough that you can just casually disclose that you once had a relationship.
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sparty99 wrote:AND NEVER DATE SOMEONE FROM THE FIRM AGAIN. YOU IDIOT.
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This is a undoubtedly a question for the lounge.
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Romances among co-workers aren't the problem. The problem is the spill over and drama. If the firm gets a whiff of the drama, OP is done. I think all in this thread, including the OP, are capable of appreciating that distinction (and of reading our HR policies during orientation).Bronte wrote:I think posters are overreacting. You've got a mutually assured destruction thing going here. I think when she chills out, she's not not going to be telling the firm shit. I would not go to the police about the car. I would give it some time and then reach out to her with a fig leaf.
When summer comes around, the firm will probably tell you something about its policies on office relationships. At my firm, these are not frowned upon and are not a big deal. The policy is just to disclose the relationship to HR. By that point maybe she'll have cooled enough that you can just casually disclose that you once had a relationship.
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