Hutz_and_Goodman wrote:I'm married and concerned about work/life balance. I had big law offers in secondary market where my school is and major market (160k). I accepted the major market firm (v50). Major market is where I grew up and my family is still there. Major market is better professionally for my wife. I have read only good things about the firm and loved it during my callback. Even looking it as a 2-3 year proposition (until likely midlaw or in house or biglaw outside of major market to regain some semblance of balance) I'm concerned because we want to start a family. Wife has much more stable hours but will still be working 40/50 hours a week.
It's expensive to find child care for a very young infant for 50+ hours a week. So you can decide between yourselves whether she's willing to work less hours or whether you can afford a nanny or what you want to do with that. People in biglaw have children so obviously it's doable. As long as your wife is on board for you working those hours, you'll work it out.
Realistically, it'll be tough for your wife to find a job that's okay with maternity leave right after hiring her, and she won't qualify for FMLA until she's already been working for a year. So if you are only planning on being there for 2-3 years and she'll have to wait 1 year + 9 months or so anyway, it might not be that much of an issue.