KidStuddi wrote:Icculus wrote:lukertin wrote:The number of people willing to sacrifice their live for their work ITT is astounding.
I don't think people here are sacrificing life for work, what they are doing is explaining that when you are entering into a summer job that has the potential to lead to a full time offer you don't want to risk not getting the offer. If OP were going into 1st year associate it would be different, but as a summer you want to avoid anything that can get you the dreaded no offer.
How is doing whatever it takes to avoid any potential "risk" not a sacrifice? Are you arguing that he's not giving up anything by skipping his brother's bachelor party? You're pretty much proving lukertin point if you are.
I think what you meant to say is that the sacrifice is reasonable, but you're still wrong.
What you're seeing ITT is typical TLS neuroticism run amok. People here have a compulsive need to try and find a "why" for everything that happens in life. It can never be as simple as "bad luck;" there has to be a reason why people get no offered. And so they congregate here and analyze everything to point of inanity hoping to find patterns in the chaos. Obviously there is some actual wisdom interspersed among the craziness, but there are people on this board who honestly think you're risking getting no offered if you wear a black suit to work. These people will advocate anything, regardless of how specious it is, so long as they think it's the risk adverse position.
You are absolutely right...black suit to work is the same as taking a day off for a bachor party during what is an essentially summer's long interview. Have you ever worked a real job? It is sometimes impossible to get a day off for something like this. Shockingly "party" is not a very good excuse for a day off unless you have actually earned some vacation time. And again, what people in the thread are saying, is be smart about it. We don't know what firm op is going to, the atmosphere, or the policies. If his firm says he needs to work then he my need to sacrifice part of the party. It's not like it's the actual wedding. Life is about making choices. If the party is that important the op can go.
ETA: skipping several hours of what seems to be a weekend long bachelor party is not sacrificing "life" it's being a grown up.