sparty99 wrote:Clearly you need to learn how to play the game. You have already ruined relationships and have Partners emailing you. Be a damn man. Tell them you need xyz date or accept the offer and renege down the line. You sound kind of greedy. I would have pulled the offer.
I strongly disagree. OP doesn't sound greedy. OP isn't sure he wants to stay at this firm.
What OP has done is very poor communications with the firm. OP, you need to get out in front of this now. I liked my idea- tell them you loved the firm but you need some more time.
Just keep in mind that you are damaging your relationship with the firm. If you know when your other callbacks are, tell the firm when you interview that you would appreciate knowing when they can get back to you with an answer. You need a firm date to make this decision as soon as possible. They know you are looking around and they need to know if they should hire someone else.