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Anonymous User wrote:My parents are very happy for me in general (though I can tell they are confused as to why some kid with zero experience should be making so much right out of school). But they are happy for me nonetheless. We are Jews, so parents need to be able to brag about their kids to their friends. So in general, and externally, they are very supportive and happy for me, know how important it is to start at one of these big firms since it will hopefully set me up for a successful career, etc.
Where they get "jealous" is when I focus too much on the material shit. We are and always have been a middle-class family who was smart with money and I was taught the value of things. My parents get "resentful" a bit when I go against those lessons. For example, I will say how I'm thinking about buying a Brooks Brothers suit during my summer SA as a treat, and my parents will think I'm a misguided and lost fool, totally going against what they taught me. My dad will go on about how he never spent more than $200 for a suit in his life, and that its about the quality of the work you do, not the brand of suit or shoe you wear. So they now think of me as this soft, materialistic, and deluded kid, yet they can turn around to their friends and brag about the same shit they criticize me for.
Though I told my parents they are going on a European cruise in 2 years (30th anniversary) on me, so that sort of placated them
I don't get this mentality at all. Some of my friends have a condescending attitude about their thriftiness. They act like buying a nice suit-- and really, Brooks Brothers suits aren't crazy expensive, they're just "nice"-- is motivated by pure vanity. Apparently they don't understand that it's completely
inappropriate to wear a $200 suit to your six-figure salary job (especially in a conservative profession like law).
My dad is old school about this stuff. He still uses the same $50 buck briefcase he got for his college graduation in 1980, gets his suits at Syms, shoes wherever there is a sale, etc. He doesn't have to do this of course. He makes more than enough money to treat himself, but he just sees absolutely no need, and just goes purely functional. He is the extreme end of the spectrum when it comes to the "so long as you are clean, and your clothes are well tailored" opinion. He gets his suits impeccably tailored, and shines his shoes all the freaking time, so he always looks good. But he sees anything above functional as needless vanity. He has been with the same company for 30 years, and is essentially the top person in his department now, so he of course has no need to impress anyone, and I think he just superimposes that attitude on me.
Though TBF, of the 3 suits I wore to OCI, one was a hand-me-down, and another was purchased at Kohls, and its not like that stopped me from racking up a bunch of top firm offers. The suits were perfectly tailored, and really did look good, so I can understand where my dad is coming from. But I get what you are saying that, once you actually start working, rocking the cheap stuff like that may not be as appropriate.