Anonymous User wrote:Again, it obviously varies between firms how much they care, but they probably do consider that if someone can't make it to fun after work social events, how are they ever going to be able to stay late for not-fun work assignments.
That's the whole problem, that these two are considered the same. These social events are scheduled during prime time for school pick-ups etc. For late-night assignments, it is completely feasible to be out of pocket for an hour or so to take care of family stuff and then sign back on. You can't really do that for happy hour or whatever.
And I am sure this is a personal thing for me, but while I am willing to ask my husband to take on some additional family tasks/chores if I have a huge filing or other late-night project, it is really hard to ask someone who also works long hours in a demanding career to take on additional stuff so I can go to social events. I did that a few times during my second summer though because I was afraid of not getting an offer. And I get that that is just part of firm politics, but I think the point is firms can be flexible for people who are non-traditional hires. Well, they can be if they want to.
And yeah, I totally agree it is a liability to be a summer associate with significant responsibilities outside of work, at least at certain firms.