Thank you so much for giving me all this information!
I feel so much better to know that people actually CARE.
At this point, I am afraid that going to any of these organizations is going to escalate the issue. As I said, he is pretty powerful and respectable in the field - with no knowing record of anything like this. I don't know if I will be in a good situation if I just go and report to these groups.
The reason I am saying this is that he can just go to other friends and partners, and say "this girl has no potential" - then I will pretty much be dead in the BigLaw business.
I hope that he will stop, and realize that this is immoral.
by contacting these organizations, you will not be "reporting" anything. They should treat you with the utmost respect and CONFIDENTIALITY. They also shouldn't tell you to do anything you're not comfortable with. This is not necessarily the case with law enforcement.
Talking with the advocacy groups will provide you with a safe space to talk about everything that you've experienced. You can probably do it anonymously also (there are plenty of anonymous, 24-hour support lines just for this purpose in California. Again, I am not familiar with organizations in New York). The purpose of these advocacy groups is not to force you to take action that you don't want but rather to listen to you and help you come up with a course of action that YOU want. They are the ones who can help you follow through on your plan, not people on TLS.
I am not sure how talking to them will escalate the issue. If you contacted the ones I am aware of in California, it wouldn't escalate anything. You would just be a client receiving completely confidential services.
Again, you don't have to talk to them. You don't have to talk to anyone. I am just trying to give you the best advice that I can. That advice includes talking to someone who is familiar with these issues (not rude/ignorant people on TLS). Again, you don't have to do it. That's just the best course of action I can advise.