A. Nony Mouse wrote:The problem is, how on earth do you say it was someone else's fault without making it sound like you're making excuses? You can't, so just don't try. It just looks better to take responsibility. I mean, applying for schools (or for a job) is a really artificial circumstance in which you spin everything in your life to look better than it really is. Why start being unvarnished with this particular kind of issue?
yeah, I get that, which is why I didn't disagree with the advice given. But why do we have to make it like that? Why do we insist that everyone accept responsibility even when they shouldn't have to. People get screwed over by other people all the time - why are we doubling that by making them say it was their fault?
If nothing else, those people screwed up by being in a position where someone else's mistake could bite them in the ass.
Easy to say, and it's true in many cases, but definitely not all. I've known people who were copied off of without their knowledge and then they have shit to deal with when they didn't do anything wrong.
Samara wrote:Considering how much cheating likely doesn't get caught, what is more likely, that you were somehow fingered for something you didn't do or that you were, at the very least, in a grey area you shouldn't have been in? Instead of "covering your ass from other people's screw-ups" why don't you report their cheating? Seems like an easy way to not get implicated in something you aren't doing.
And as I said, people get screwed over by other people all the time too. On what basis do you claim to know what's more likely? Not everyone is something you could have stopped preemptively by reporting someone. That would require it be something you know about in advance, and knew sufficiently about to actually have it taken care of. You make it sound as if anyone who can't solve all societal ills around them is then tacitly guilty.