contrapositive1 wrote:Volforlife wrote:rad lulz wrote:lol @ all you self righteous fucks calling OP a rapist when you know nothing about the situation
If someone read my student misconduct violations they would probably think I was some kind of campus wide drug dealer, when in fact I only had beer bottles in my room. Things are not always as they first seem.
So true...But I guess people are very quick to judge...
So can anyone help me with my addendum and stop calling me names?
To be fair, the way you originally framed it makes it sound like you are admitting to rape (non consent is the basic element). What I think the name callers are overlooking is the fact that the police who looked into it (and know the facts) didn't think it was a crime.
As others have said, you need to talk to a lawyer about this and look very specifically at the school's policy. I agree with others that what part/how you broke it makes a difference. Others here seem to think that the lack of arrest won't matter to adcomms, but I think you need to highlight this -- tell the whole story so its obvious that the authorities looked into it and didn't pursue it (not even as a lower sexual assault misdemeanor). I highly doubt cops give the benefit of the doubt to alleged rapists, they'll arrest you just to be safe if there is any decent evidence.
EDIT: If possible, while being honest, "I would try as hard as possible to avoid using the term "non-consensual sex" policy. Again, this is because that sounds like rape. Try and narrow in how you violated the policy. For example, maybe the policy requires you to say "Hi, my name is Bob and I would like to have intercourse with you. Do you consent?" And the person must say "yes." (How unsexy is that btw)?
Turns you you said "hey babe, wanna bang?" while making out and she just kind of went along with it.