minuit wrote: TommyK wrote: Mustard Blood wrote:
Well, look at it from the roommate's perspective. He moved in and found his new room trashed from a party and a bong and pot in the bong. He may or may not have known that he could be held responsible for it if he didn't report it. While I think a better approach would be to have a candid conversation with your roommate about wanting to keep your nose clean, you can understand why he might choose self-preservation over the disciplinary record of essentially a complete stranger.
You could easily imagine a TLS post from the other perspective if he hadn't narc'd on OP.
"Hey Guys, I need to write an addendum. I was placed on disciplinary action my second semester of my undergrad. I moved into a new room and it was a total wreck from a party. There was a bong and weed present. I wanted to give my roommate a chance to move the stuff out and to have a candid conversation with him, but before we could discuss it, the RA saw it when passing by and called the university police. Per university policy, I was responsible for any illegal items that were in shared spaces and since I didn't report it, I was placed on probation. Any suggestions on writing an addendum?"
Based out of pure malice? eh, maybe. I don't see compelling evidence of that, though.
I'd still beat the crap out of the roommate. I mean, even if he was afraid of getting in trouble, what kind of relationship did he expect to forge with his new roommate by ratting him out to the cops? I mean, that was likely the first thing he did. I guess I simply don't understand--if I were to walk into my new dorm room to find evidence of a good time, and a little pot, I'd probably high-five her and ask if I could smoke the rest of it.
Um... okay. *backs away slowly*
Look, I think everybody would be pissed at the roommate, but you really can't see why the roommate took the actions he did? C'mon...
To all the roommate detractors - let's say you're in law school and it has a strict honor code: If you know of somebody cheating and you fail to report it, you are as guilty as the cheater and punishable to the same level.
Now in this scenario, somebody you don't know very well cheated on a final. While you're fairly sure nobody would ever find out you knew, would you really risk not saying anything? Fuck that. Unless you're my actual brother, I'm not risking my ass for you.
It's a similar situation - you're making a choice: risking your academic status by inaction, or a relationship with some dude by action. Not even close to a difficult situation, my friends.
you just compared cheating in law school to a little bit of weed.
Gotta say, after being on this site for a while, I'm pretty sure at least half of the users wouldn't only call the cops on their roommate for smoking weed, they'd do it with a huge smile on their face as they had done something good. I can still remember posters on this site saying things like that they'd report me for admitting I used unsubscribed adderall once, lol, or telling me how i'm a cheater and they fucking hate cheaters because I fixed a typo on the LSAT. Gotta tell you OP, if you enjoy people like that, you're going to love law school!
Don't pass out with that stuff laying around next time, especially not in law school. Technically, your roommate was right about calling the cops. It doesn't mean he had to be a huge dickhead about it. Law school is a place for people who think that "technically" being right about something means you get to be a huge dickhead to other people and show general disrespect for them as a human being.