smears wrote:Pay for what? A recommendation, a little wheel greasing w/ the adcomm? What are you asking here?
Really? I mean, really??
You're absolutely unclear on what the OP is asking.
Christ, shit like this exhausts me.
OP - Is this part of the recruitment/application process or did you reach out to him/her to set it up?
I've never been through an alumnus lunch, but I've been through a handful of lunch interviews in my career. Assuming the same protocol, I do the following: I always reach for my wallet, try to reach for the check to pay for it, but every single time, the other party protests stronger and after a polite and faux-surprised "oh, thank you", I let them.
On a related note - Order something that is not messy and easy to eat. I always avoid long pasta noodles and usually go for something like soup and salad - small, measurable bites that will be easy to respond to questions if there's something in your mouth when they ask. I usually avoid hearty, large meals like steaks.