Admitted Student Days/Weekends Forum
- Helmholtz
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I would also like to say that the reason I am against it is not because I care about my future classmates, what image I'm projecting, etc.
ASWs are for future law students and it's not going to be geared towards a family experience. I almost guarantee that you would regret bringing your parents along to an ASW, no question.
side note: have any of you guys been to an ASW or at least a part of one?
ASWs are for future law students and it's not going to be geared towards a family experience. I almost guarantee that you would regret bringing your parents along to an ASW, no question.
side note: have any of you guys been to an ASW or at least a part of one?
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I'm not stating my opinion because it will affect me. My parents won't be going, and I probably will only have a passing thought if I see other parents about.Rand M. wrote: This is the most credited part. I think there is definitely some merit to trying things out on your own. But, again, I just don't see how someone else decision will affect your time. Their parents are not your safety net and will probably not interact with you to any degree.
But I honestly think a student bringing their parents along is doing a disservice to themselves.
- sarlis
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Thanks for the info guys. I have been telling my parents that ASD/Ws are for students to get to know each other, and the professors and the school. I am not going to bring my parents.
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sarlis wrote:Thanks for the info guys. I have been telling my parents that ASD/Ws are for students to get to know each other, and the professors and the school. I am not going to bring my parents.
Haha, you poor guy. You were asking such an innocent and simple question and got...all this.
- sarlis
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Haha, such is TLS!Pearalegal wrote:sarlis wrote:Thanks for the info guys. I have been telling my parents that ASD/Ws are for students to get to know each other, and the professors and the school. I am not going to bring my parents.
Haha, you poor guy. You were asking such an innocent and simple question and got...all this.
Also, Helm, I have never been to a ASD/W, which is why I am asking
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I know it wouldn't work well for me - I know I'd feel awkward and be worried about having to "babysit", that's why I personally would NOT want them coming.Helmholtz wrote:Because you will mind when you actually get there and see what's going on. It might sound nice in theory, but it just won't work well.ashleigh wrote:+1DoubleChecks wrote:if they want to come and you dont mind, why does it matter?
but someone else might be aware of all these things and not mind at all. there are certain people in this world who just don't give a f*ck what other people think (more power to them).
sure, I might call my bf that night and say, "there was some dude here with his parents" but whatever, I still don't see a problem with it if someone truly doesn't mind them tagging along.
- Helmholtz
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No, I know you haven't, and I think I asked the exact same question about a year ago that you did on here. It was a valid question.sarlis wrote: Haha, such is TLS!
Also, Helm, I have never been to a ASD/W, which is why I am asking
- MC Southstar
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Tch. It doesn't come down to what the culture of your family is. It matters what the culture of the classmates and faculty members that you are going to meet FOR THE FIRST TIME is. That American culture is one that favors independence, imo. If you honestly do not think it will reflect negatively on you if your parents tag along when they are just going to be extra baggage, then go ahead. I just don't think it's worth the extra stigma you risk in doing so. I also find it counterproductive to bring around comfort zones with you when you need to spread yourself around, but that doesn't apply to everyone.
Also, if your parents are just really outgoing and great conversationalists, doesn't hurt.
Also, if your parents are just really outgoing and great conversationalists, doesn't hurt.
- violaboy
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I didn't even think of bringing my parents. My Mom just tells me to go to law school in a city that's amusing so that she can have fun if she visits.
- lbeezy
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My response to this last year was ummmm a little more judgmental. A teensy bit.
However, now having been to them -- don't take your parents. Have them come in that weekend with you, and show them around separately, but don't take them to the admitted students stuff. Only a few people brought their parents and they just stood with their parents the entire time, didn't really interact with other people, and the parents for the most part dominated the question and answer stuff.
A lot of schools do prospective student tours the day before ASW/D's even. Take your parents to those. They can ask all the questions they want there, and it's perfectly appropriate for them to be there then.
However, now having been to them -- don't take your parents. Have them come in that weekend with you, and show them around separately, but don't take them to the admitted students stuff. Only a few people brought their parents and they just stood with their parents the entire time, didn't really interact with other people, and the parents for the most part dominated the question and answer stuff.
A lot of schools do prospective student tours the day before ASW/D's even. Take your parents to those. They can ask all the questions they want there, and it's perfectly appropriate for them to be there then.
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shadowfrost000 wrote:Tch. It doesn't come down to what the culture of your family is. It matters what the culture of the classmates and faculty members that you are going to meet FOR THE FIRST TIME is. That American culture is one that favors independence, imo. If you honestly do not think it will reflect negatively on you if your parents tag along when they are just going to be extra baggage, then go ahead. I just don't think it's worth the extra stigma you risk in doing so. I also find it counterproductive to bring around comfort zones with you when you need to spread yourself around, but that doesn't apply to everyone.
Also, if your parents are just really outgoing and great conversationalists, doesn't hurt.
I should not have talked about the image it projects. Who really cares...its more that I think an adult heading to law school needs to be a grown up and do these things on their own.
I'd also argue that an outgoing and great conversationalist parents will only make things work. If you are going to bring your parents, it should be in a seen and not hear capacity.
- toolshed
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Would you suggest the same with a SO? Mine will come with me, but I just assumed I would leave her to her own devices during the daytime, school-related activities. If there are nighttime social gatherings, I would guess it would be okay.lbeezy wrote:My response to this last year was ummmm a little more judgmental. A teensy bit.
However, now having been to them -- don't take your parents. Have them come in that weekend with you, and show them around separately, but don't take them to the admitted students stuff. Only a few people brought their parents and they just stood with their parents the entire time, didn't really interact with other people, and the parents for the most part dominated the question and answer stuff.
A lot of schools do prospective student tours the day before ASW/D's even. Take your parents to those. They can ask all the questions they want there, and it's perfectly appropriate for them to be there then.
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I think its a very good decision if SO will be moving with you. If not, my position remains the same.toolshed wrote:
Would you suggest the same with a SO? Mine will come with me, but I just assumed I would leave her to her own devices during the daytime, school-related activities. If there are nighttime social gatherings, I would guess it would be okay.
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- violaboy
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This is what I'm doing.Pearalegal wrote:I think its a very good decision if SO will be moving with you. If not, my position remains the same.toolshed wrote:
Would you suggest the same with a SO? Mine will come with me, but I just assumed I would leave her to her own devices during the daytime, school-related activities. If there are nighttime social gatherings, I would guess it would be okay.
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I would certainly be judging anyone who showed up with their parents...
- lbeezy
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Personally, I would put her to work during the day. Have her go check out apartments and stuff if she's going to be moving with you. But if she doesn't go for that, eh. I don't remember any SO's. But they would have been harder to spot, I guess. For nighttime stuff, it's obviously okay to bring her.toolshed wrote:Would you suggest the same with a SO? Mine will come with me, but I just assumed I would leave her to her own devices during the daytime, school-related activities. If there are nighttime social gatherings, I would guess it would be okay.lbeezy wrote:My response to this last year was ummmm a little more judgmental. A teensy bit.
However, now having been to them -- don't take your parents. Have them come in that weekend with you, and show them around separately, but don't take them to the admitted students stuff. Only a few people brought their parents and they just stood with their parents the entire time, didn't really interact with other people, and the parents for the most part dominated the question and answer stuff.
A lot of schools do prospective student tours the day before ASW/D's even. Take your parents to those. They can ask all the questions they want there, and it's perfectly appropriate for them to be there then.
I think bringing your SO is different than bringing your parents. Especially if they're moving with you.
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- MC Southstar
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Regarding SO and the two things I said before. I don't think an SO really gives you a negative image necessarily. I also don't think they are as much of a social barrier, since they are probably the same age, and could easily be confused for another student. Just don't cling too much.
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Lol, at the bolded because it made me smile and is true. When someone is moving in with you, I think its more acceptable (not to the school events though).lbeezy wrote: Personally, I would put her to work during the day. Have her go check out apartments and stuff if she's going to be moving with you. But if she doesn't go for that, eh. I don't remember any SO's. But they would have been harder to spot, I guess. For nighttime stuff, it's obviously okay to bring her.
I think bringing your SO is different than bringing your parents. Especially if they're moving with you.
However...
I just don't think theres anything wrong with going on your own to everything (even the nighttime stuff) during ASWs. Your significant other is not going to be interracting with your peers everyday, and I hope you plan on spending some social time away from the significant other after law school starts too.
When I went through this for my bf's B school stuff, I made my boyfriend do things without me. I wanted him to make his own friends first, without me. Because it was going to be his school. His classmates. Sure I'd like to be friendly and get to know everyone...but after he did.
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- The Zeppelin
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No parents. It's like bringing your mom to the first day of high school. People will judge you differently.
Just bring you.
Just bring you.
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This can't be true, this is exactly the opposite of what girlfriends doPearalegal wrote:
When I went through this for my bf's B school stuff, I made my boyfriend do things without me. I wanted him to make his own friends first, without me. Because it was going to be his school. His classmates. Sure I'd like to be friendly and get to know everyone...but after he did.
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- MC Southstar
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Maybe she actually has a brain.Dwaterman86 wrote:This can't be true, this is exactly the opposite of what girlfriends doPearalegal wrote:
When I went through this for my bf's B school stuff, I made my boyfriend do things without me. I wanted him to make his own friends first, without me. Because it was going to be his school. His classmates. Sure I'd like to be friendly and get to know everyone...but after he did.
- sarlis
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Haha, they are NOT coming. just one plane ticket more me!YCrevolution wrote:Quite a few people brought parents to the UVA ASDs last year. I definitely did not.sarlis wrote:Do parents typically go, or do students normally go by themselves? My parents would like to go to some, but I'd rather just go by myself / it is cheaper if I just go. I am trying to book a flights and need to know now many tickets to get. What has everyone typically done/typically seen done? Thanks!
I'll snicker if your parents come to the actual events with you.
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Thats...funny. I used to want to spend all my time with my high school boyfriend. Then I, you know, wasn't a high schooler anymore and got some self-confidence.Dwaterman86 wrote:This can't be true, this is exactly the opposite of what girlfriends doPearalegal wrote:
When I went through this for my bf's B school stuff, I made my boyfriend do things without me. I wanted him to make his own friends first, without me. Because it was going to be his school. His classmates. Sure I'd like to be friendly and get to know everyone...but after he did.
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Count me in for judging. We've all been adults for years.ughOSU wrote:I would certainly be judging anyone who showed up with their parents...
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