Not a student, but I suspect that your award should be substantial unless there are other significant assets (such as rental properties & real estate not held by a qualified retirement plan).
Yea I keep hearing they are generous but I don't know what that means. Are we talking 30k off sticker, 60k off sticker?
Max grant aid this year is about $33,600 for a single student. If combined income is less than 60k you will get something around that.. Can't say for certain what grant aid on $80k combined would be. Need-based aid is recalculated each year but they use a standard formula so you dont really have to worry about being tricked.
It is possible to get parental info waivers in extraordinary circumstances. Not sure if "parents wont do taxes" qualifies but with good documentation it might be possible.