URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby applelover » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:42 pm

Midnight, I too have had this attraction to engineers and computer science majors throughout UG. I really only see myself marrying someone with some sort of college degree. I would never marry a doctor (hate the hours), but I would marry a dentist. I would marry someone with a degree in business as well. Definitely not interested in marrying a lawyer though. I'm hoping to end up in NY OR DC ultimately, and I'm open to interracial dating, so I don't think my options will be limited.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby applelover » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:43 pm

AAJD2B wrote:
midnight_circus wrote:
AAJD2B wrote:If you do end up in DC, be careful of the DLing that goes down. I heard its a struggle to find a suitable black male there.


What is this?


Downlow - Men who sex men but claim to be straight and sex/date/marry women.


That's so common in the DC area. I know several men from there who do/have done this.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby ThePiedPiper » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:43 pm

okaygo wrote:
ThePiedPiper wrote:
AAJD2B wrote:
ThePiedPiper wrote:I actually don't want to get married at all. I don't want someone to feel threatened by my status or prestige as a lawyer. Plus if by some chance my work schedule impedes or gets in the way of having a loving healthy relationship I don't want my wife getting a divorce and taking my kids. For a while I thought about just adopting since I grew up in the foster care system or in vitro.


Uhm, what? This makes no sense, bro.

There are women who are committed and understanding of sacrifices made to get ahead. Besides this work schedule thing is within your control once you've gain some years of experience. I hope you won't be one of those black males that wear their degree on their sleeves and act as if you're God's gift to women.


Oh no not at all. I am in no way arrogant. However, I am proud of where I came from and how hard I had to work to put myself in this position. I just have always had in the back of my mind what if the relationship doesn't workout, will she take the kids, will she find me being a lawyer intimidating. etc...


You just need a strong women. I don't know what you're used to dating, but you need to just up your standards.


Exactly I think you hit the nail on the head. I think I just need to reevaluate who I can see myself with long term.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby applelover » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:46 pm

Okaygo, there's no way to prepare for the GTown interview, just relax and remember to articulate your opinions to the best of your ability.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby midnight_circus » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:48 pm

okaygo wrote:Hey since everyone's on...does anyone have any advice for my GULC interview tomorrow?! It's a group interview with the dean. Also. What do I wear? What is 'business casual'?


I'd recommend black/grey/navy/khaki dress pants or black/grey/navy skirt, knee-length. No stockings required, nice flats or heels (even open toe is acceptable). Boots are debatable.
For the shirt, a blouse or nice sweater in any color. I tend to avoid the shells that I would normally wear under a jacket because they're usually short sleeved/sleeveless and so too casual without the jacket (which I think are usually too formal for business casual). Good luck at the interview!

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applelover wrote:
AAJD2B wrote:Downlow - Men who sex men but claim to be straight and sex/date/marry women.


That's so common in the DC area. I know several men from there who do/have done this.


Seriously? That's ridiculous.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby okaygo » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:50 pm

applelover wrote:Okaygo, there's no way to prepare for the GTown interview, just relax and remember to articulate your opinions to the best of your ability.


Okay. But what do I wear! I don't know business casual in women's clothes.
Sweater with blazer?
Nice top with blazer?
Suit?
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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby Mojosodope » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:50 pm

midnight_circus wrote:
okaygo wrote:Hey since everyone's on...does anyone have any advice for my GULC interview tomorrow?! It's a group interview with the dean. Also. What do I wear? What is 'business casual'?


I'd recommend black/grey/navy/khaki dress pants or black/grey/navy skirt, knee-length. No stockings required, nice flats or heels (even open toe is acceptable). Boots are debatable.
For the shirt, a blouse or nice sweater in any color. I tend to avoid the shells that I would normally wear under a jacket because they're usually short sleeved/sleeveless and so too casual without the jacket (which I think are usually too formal for business casual). Good luck at the interview!

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applelover wrote:
AAJD2B wrote:Downlow - Men who sex men but claim to be straight and sex/date/marry women.


That's so common in the DC area. I know several men from there who do/have done this.


Seriously? That's ridiculous.


Cook for me...IM SO HUNGRY RIGHT NOWWWW

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby applelover » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:52 pm

okaygo wrote:
applelover wrote:Okaygo, there's no way to prepare for the GTown interview, just relax and remember to articulate your opinions to the best of your ability.


Okay. But what do I wear! I don't know business casual in women's clothes.


Whoops I missed the business casual part or your question. I didn't actually wear business casual, I wore business professional, and I saw people there wearing both. If you do decide to wear business casual, slacks and a nice shirt and flats should be fine.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby mandyjay11 » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:54 pm

applelover wrote:Midnight, I too have had this attraction to engineers and computer science majors throughout UG. I really only see myself marrying someone with some sort of college degree. I would never marry a doctor (hate the hours), but I would marry a dentist. I would marry someone with a degree in business as well. Definitely not interested in marrying a lawyer though. I'm hoping to end up in NY OR DC ultimately, and I'm open to interracial dating, so I don't think my options will be limited.



Yeah I have no desire for a lawyer or a black male doctor (I dated one that was in med school and he thought he was the holy grail of all men. Needless to say, he wasnt.)

I do want to make sure I find a guy with at least a 4-year degree with an entreprenurial spirit. I'm open to interracial but I dont think other races are attracted to me because I've never been approached.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby midnight_circus » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:55 pm

Okay:
midnight_circus wrote:
okaygo wrote:Hey since everyone's on...does anyone have any advice for my GULC interview tomorrow?! It's a group interview with the dean. Also. What do I wear? What is 'business casual'?


I'd recommend black/grey/navy/khaki dress pants or black/grey/navy skirt, knee-length. No stockings required, nice flats or heels (even open toe is acceptable). Boots are debatable.
For the shirt, a blouse or nice sweater in any color. I tend to avoid the shells that I would normally wear under a jacket because they're usually short sleeved/sleeveless and so too casual without the jacket (which I think are usually too formal for business casual). Good luck at the interview!


Mojosodope wrote:Cook for me...IM SO HUNGRY RIGHT NOWWWW


It's too cold out for me to go anywhere. Besides, I just ate dinner. You're on your own. :)

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby kenwash » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:58 pm

okaygo wrote:Hey since everyone's on...does anyone have any advice for my GULC interview tomorrow?! It's a group interview with the dean. Also. What do I wear? What is 'business casual'?


I'd wear slacks and a button down shirt or a nice blouse. Good luck on the interview!!

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby applelover » Sun Dec 08, 2013 8:58 pm

mandyjay11 wrote:
applelover wrote:Midnight, I too have had this attraction to engineers and computer science majors throughout UG. I really only see myself marrying someone with some sort of college degree. I would never marry a doctor (hate the hours), but I would marry a dentist. I would marry someone with a degree in business as well. Definitely not interested in marrying a lawyer though. I'm hoping to end up in NY OR DC ultimately, and I'm open to interracial dating, so I don't think my options will be limited.



Yeah I have no desire for a lawyer or a black male doctor (I dated one that was in med school and he thought he was the holy grail of all men. Needless to say, he wasnt.)

I do want to make sure I find a guy with at least a 4-year degree with an entreprenurial spirit. I'm open to interracial but I dont think other races are attracted to me because I've never been approached.


I used to think the same thing, but then I told myself maybe they're not as forward as black men or are intimidated by me (it's just what I told myself to feel better).
I have a thing for Italians, but there isn't a large Italian population in the city I attend school in. Nor is there a strong black middle class, but that's another issue for another time.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby okaygo » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:00 pm

Thanks for the advice everyone!

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby applelover » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:01 pm

okaygo wrote:Thanks for the advice everyone!


Good luck!! I'm sure you'll do fine! That was the easiest and most relaxed interview I've ever had.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby ThePiedPiper » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:02 pm

Good luck Okaygo. You will do great

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby mandyjay11 » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:03 pm

On a related note, I am not looking forward to the boring attire that we will have to wear at law firms and to interviews.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby midnight_circus » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:06 pm

applelover wrote:
mandyjay11 wrote:
applelover wrote:Midnight, I too have had this attraction to engineers and computer science majors throughout UG. I really only see myself marrying someone with some sort of college degree. I would never marry a doctor (hate the hours), but I would marry a dentist. I would marry someone with a degree in business as well. Definitely not interested in marrying a lawyer though. I'm hoping to end up in NY OR DC ultimately, and I'm open to interracial dating, so I don't think my options will be limited.



Yeah I have no desire for a lawyer or a black male doctor (I dated one that was in med school and he thought he was the holy grail of all men. Needless to say, he wasnt.)

I do want to make sure I find a guy with at least a 4-year degree with an entreprenurial spirit. I'm open to interracial but I dont think other races are attracted to me because I've never been approached.


I used to think the same thing, but then I told myself maybe they're not as forward as black men or are intimidated by me (it's just what I told myself to feel better).
I have a thing for Italians, but there isn't a large Italian population in the city I attend school in. Nor is there a strong black middle class, but that's another issue for another time.


I've had white guys tell me that they don't approach black women because they assume that black women are only going to be interested in black guys and they don't want to get rejected. But I've also found that it depends a lot on where you are. At home in the midwest, white men literally never approach me. At the area around my UG, when I roll out to a bar of coffee shop with a book to read/study, only white men approach me--and I've heard from friends out there that it's because I didn't "look like" I'd be interested in black guys. The stereotypes involved with all of this are crazy.

The best solution? You approach the guys you're interested in instead of waiting. Gets the job done. :wink:

mandyjay11 wrote:On a related note, I am not looking forward to the boring attire that we will have to wear at law firms and to interviews.

True life. I have an extensive sundress collection which is going to rot in my closet for the rest of forever. :/

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby mandyjay11 » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:07 pm

applelover wrote:
I used to think the same thing, but then I told myself maybe they're not as forward as black men or are intimidated by me (it's just what I told myself to feel better).
I have a thing for Italians, but there isn't a large Italian population in the city I attend school in. Nor is there a strong black middle class, but that's another issue for another time.


I think Italian men are adorable! I loved vinny from Jersey shore.... LOVED

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby ThePiedPiper » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:10 pm

mandyjay11 wrote:On a related note, I am not looking forward to the boring attire that we will have to wear at law firms and to interviews.


+1 Because I love wearing fitted hats and I have a tie to go with each fitted hat I have. Time to abandon personal style I guess.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby okaygo » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:14 pm

Actually I'm looking forward to having a closet full of tailored suits, pretty winter coats, and delicious heels.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby mandyjay11 » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:15 pm

ThePiedPiper wrote:
mandyjay11 wrote:On a related note, I am not looking forward to the boring attire that we will have to wear at law firms and to interviews.


+1 Because I love wearing fitted hats and I have a tie to go with each fitted hat I have. Time to abandon personal style I guess.


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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby applelover » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:18 pm

mandyjay11 wrote:
ThePiedPiper wrote:
mandyjay11 wrote:On a related note, I am not looking forward to the boring attire that we will have to wear at law firms and to interviews.


+1 Because I love wearing fitted hats and I have a tie to go with each fitted hat I have. Time to abandon personal style I guess.


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#BigLawStyleIcon Jessica from Suits


I love her wardrobe on that show.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby okaygo » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:18 pm

Oh honey my style icon is Olivia Pope. Don't even get me started.

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby californiauser » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:19 pm

mandyjay11 wrote:
ThePiedPiper wrote:
mandyjay11 wrote:On a related note, I am not looking forward to the boring attire that we will have to wear at law firms and to interviews.


+1 Because I love wearing fitted hats and I have a tie to go with each fitted hat I have. Time to abandon personal style I guess.


Image
#BigLawStyleIcon Jessica from Suits


The wardrobe on that show is impeccable...unfortunately I won't be wearing $2000 dollar suits for quite sometime, if ever

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Re: URM 2013-2014 Cycle Thread

Postby ThePiedPiper » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:21 pm

I guess I can work it out. I can just wear custom tailor suits like Harrison from Scandal




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