GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby indigomachine » Sun Jan 06, 2013 3:19 pm

shntn wrote:
howlery wrote:I have a feeling that the grindr gays in Miami are the worst/thirstiest. Hows the crowd in NYC?

NYC Grindr gays are awful because it's NYC and everything in NYC is awful. In Miami, you've got a revolving door of tourists looking to get off with an easy townie while their SO's aren't looking. And the locals in Miami...LOL. I might have to give this one to NYC, which is just mind-boggling.


NYC is a mixed bag that increasingly becomes exclusively a mix of "open relationship / 3some seekers" + quick hookups the later you get into any given night. Earlier in the day, a face pic instead of torso shot can land you a date as long as you're stubborn about not hooking up the first time you meet someone.

Surprisingly, it's not terrible on the tourist front. Overwhelming majority of the people online are locals. Unless all the tourists are just old and I only get the ones who message me because of age parameters?

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby 02122015 » Sun Jan 06, 2013 6:07 pm

shntn wrote:
moonman157 wrote:
alwayssunnyinfl wrote:Quality/Quantity, dude.


Since when have gay men put quality ahead of quantity?

Me, since always. If you'd be embarrassed to be seen with them in public, don't do it.


shntn wrote:Prude.

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby WalkingPlato » Sun Jan 06, 2013 10:30 pm

I always wondered if being on these types of sites is seen as a negative, especially with how they can be sometime.. Can't picture it being completely ok to be in a top law school looking for an influential post and be known to be on a website where other users post crotch pics lol . Do you guys identify yourself on these sites (i.e. put face pictures)?

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby indigomachine » Mon Jan 07, 2013 12:27 pm

WalkingPlato wrote:I always wondered if being on these types of sites is seen as a negative, especially with how they can be sometime.. Can't picture it being completely ok to be in a top law school looking for an influential post and be known to be on a website where other users post crotch pics lol . Do you guys identify yourself on these sites (i.e. put face pictures)?


I face pic on break, torso pic during the semester...

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby dproduct » Mon Jan 07, 2013 6:14 pm

After some holiday vacation research, I can confirm for all that San Diego Grindr = Thirsty Navy personnel. Also, compared to LA (torso/biceps) it was nearly all face pics. Classier bunch?

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby indigomachine » Tue Jan 08, 2013 10:42 am

dproduct wrote:After some holiday vacation research, I can confirm for all that San Diego Grindr = Thirsty Navy personnel. Also, compared to LA (torso/biceps) it was nearly all face pics. Classier bunch?


Classier or less concerned about being recognized?

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby WalkingPlato » Tue Jan 08, 2013 11:55 am

sokomofo wrote:
indigomachine wrote:
dproduct wrote:After some holiday vacation research, I can confirm for all that San Diego Grindr = Thirsty Navy personnel. Also, compared to LA (torso/biceps) it was nearly all face pics. Classier bunch?


Classier or less concerned about being recognized?


why worry about being recognized when you're not closeted (i assume you're not)? i just have my face pic on all the time lol. everyone whose on it are all LGBT as well so i feel like it wouldnt matter if they recognize you. but then again im 0L, and maybe things are different when youre in law school. do you need to be more careful?


Yea but you wouldn't think you'd see someone with an important post on there.. They have guys showing their stuff out in the open in some pics and it sometimes feels like half a porn site. It's hard to see how someone who wants to be taken seriously and is looking for a really professional, influential post can be on there. If I saw Anderson Cooper on there, my view of him would definitely change lol.

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby indigomachine » Tue Jan 08, 2013 12:39 pm

sokomofo wrote:
indigomachine wrote:
dproduct wrote:After some holiday vacation research, I can confirm for all that San Diego Grindr = Thirsty Navy personnel. Also, compared to LA (torso/biceps) it was nearly all face pics. Classier bunch?


Classier or less concerned about being recognized?


why worry about being recognized when you're not closeted (i assume you're not)? i just have my face pic on all the time lol. everyone whose on it are all LGBT as well so i feel like it wouldnt matter if they recognize you. but then again im 0L, and maybe things are different when youre in law school. do you need to be more careful?


LGBT legal community is awkwardly small sometimes and it can feel like everyone knows everyone else. Grindr can occupy a sort of weird mobile social place; dates / friends apparently do happen, but a lot of people hook up off of it, so it's nice to have some control over who sees you on there... It's not terribly professional, but you can still meet some cool guys off there (I'm also pretty liberal with my blocking though too, so...).

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Postby sokomofo » Tue Jan 08, 2013 12:44 pm

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby indigomachine » Tue Jan 08, 2013 12:47 pm

sokomofo wrote:oh youre talking about a website? i was talking about smart phone apps like grindr/jack'd. but still, i dont think it would be that much of an issue. i mean most of us probably used these things at one point or another, and even if someone perused a porn site, whats the big deal? dont most men watch porn? and again if someone were to recognize you on these, they would also have to be LGBT, and we as a group do not tend to be prudes. i for one would not think less of anderson cooper if he was on these apps :lol: i would find him more relatable haha


Nah I meant the app. Also just as a general social thing, during the semester there are definitely going to be some guys at your school you don't want to have to deal with in real life, let alone on grindr (even big law schools are pretty objectively small communities). Life can get really awkward, really quickly and sending messages over grindr seems to make the creepers more ballsy than they normally are IRL.

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Postby sokomofo » Tue Jan 08, 2013 12:54 pm

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby indigomachine » Tue Jan 08, 2013 1:27 pm

sokomofo wrote:
indigomachine wrote:
sokomofo wrote:oh youre talking about a website? i was talking about smart phone apps like grindr/jack'd. but still, i dont think it would be that much of an issue. i mean most of us probably used these things at one point or another, and even if someone perused a porn site, whats the big deal? dont most men watch porn? and again if someone were to recognize you on these, they would also have to be LGBT, and we as a group do not tend to be prudes. i for one would not think less of anderson cooper if he was on these apps :lol: i would find him more relatable haha


Nah I meant the app. Also just as a general social thing, during the semester there are definitely going to be some guys at your school you don't want to have to deal with in real life, let alone on grindr (even big law schools are pretty objectively small communities). Life can get really awkward, really quickly and sending messages over grindr seems to make the creepers more ballsy than they normally are IRL.


oh my post was directed at walkingplato, not you.

but i hear ya. well just block those creepers on sight :lol: hows the LGBT life at nyu in general? other than it having a potential to be awkward


oh sorry haha. that's what I get for swapping back and forth between this and cover letters x_x.

The LGBT community at NYU is great. Was definitely a relevant consideration during my application cycle (my undergrad LGBT population was kind of meh...). The OUTLaw organization is very active and there are a number of networking events hosted by the group / NYC firms. Definitely a fan. People are generally friendly and outgoing, and awkwardness is actually pretty minimal (though it definitely sometimes crops up...). Decent # of cute guys too :D.

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Postby sokomofo » Tue Jan 08, 2013 1:31 pm

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Postby indigomachine » Tue Jan 08, 2013 1:34 pm

sokomofo wrote:i like what i hear! cant wait for the ASW :)


I'm assuming the OUTLaw group is doing free food and drinks type stuff again (they did at the ASW I went to anyways). It's pretty fun and a good chance to get a bunch of student views on the LGBT community.

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby WalkingPlato » Tue Jan 08, 2013 4:30 pm


why worry about being recognized when you're not closeted (i assume you're not)? i just have my face pic on all the time lol. everyone whose on it are all LGBT as well so i feel like it wouldnt matter if they recognize you. but then again im 0L, and maybe things are different when youre in law school. do you need to be more careful?



Yea but you wouldn't think you'd see someone with an important post on there.. They have guys showing their stuff out in the open in some pics and it sometimes feels like half a porn site. It's hard to see how someone who wants to be taken seriously and is looking for a really professional, influential post can be on there. If I saw Anderson Cooper on there, my view of him would definitely change lol.


oh youre talking about a website? i was talking about smart phone apps like grindr/jack'd. but still, i dont think it would be that much of an issue. i mean most of us probably used these things at one point or another, and even if someone perused a porn site, whats the big deal? dont most men watch porn? and again if someone were to recognize you on these, they would also have to be LGBT, and we as a group do not tend to be prudes. i for one would not think less of anderson cooper if he was on these apps :lol: i would find him more relatable haha


I would too. He's be more awesome then. But the whole "being ethical" thing about lawyers makes me nervous at times. If they asked us all those questions about our criminal record (squeeky clean here) and stuff like that on the app, I don't wanna have to explain why I was found (if I am doing it and I'm not saying I am) sending smiles to people on a website that has members showing their crotch lol ... I don't see a problem with it if it's done appropriately, but you know how mainstream in-the-box people can be... it can be a reason someone loses their job.. But, I'm not really out and don't know too much about it so I might be wrong.

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby howlery » Tue Jan 08, 2013 7:05 pm

To the above poster: what is so unethical about being on Grindr? It isn't illegal. As long as you aren't engaging in any illegal behavior with minors, no one should hold it against you.

Its been getting a skeevy reputation, perhaps deservedly so, but any employer that treats you unfairly because of your grindr/growlr/etc. activity should expect a lawsuit. Unless you live in like Florida or something, then there is probably not much you could do :P .

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Postby alwayssunnyinfl » Tue Jan 08, 2013 7:12 pm

If your employer knows what grindr is, I don't think you have too much to worry about. Internet hookups are part of gay culture, and even if he's not in that phase of his life, chances are he's going to understand. Unless you're posting skeevy dick pics along with face pics and spamming everyone within 25 miles with "sup? wanna get down?" messages, no one cares.

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Postby indigomachine » Tue Jan 08, 2013 7:55 pm

alwayssunnyinfl wrote:If your employer knows what grindr is, I don't think you have too much to worry about. Internet hookups are part of gay culture, and even if he's not in that phase of his life, chances are he's going to understand. Unless you're posting skeevy dick pics along with face pics and spamming everyone within 25 miles with "sup? wanna get down?" messages, no one cares.


I think it's less an issue of 'ethical' and more an issue of 'wow, it's really awkward/uncomfortable to be in an interview with a diversity recruiter who's seen you on there'. It's kind of like walking in on your parents having sex or seeing your professor at a gay bar. You figure it happens and there's obviously nothing wrong with that, but it's better for everyone involved at the dinner table if you never have to see it.

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby shntn » Tue Jan 08, 2013 7:56 pm

indigomachine wrote:
alwayssunnyinfl wrote:If your employer knows what grindr is, I don't think you have too much to worry about. Internet hookups are part of gay culture, and even if he's not in that phase of his life, chances are he's going to understand. Unless you're posting skeevy dick pics along with face pics and spamming everyone within 25 miles with "sup? wanna get down?" messages, no one cares.


I think it's less an issue of 'ethical' and more an issue of 'wow, it's really awkward/uncomfortable to be in an interview with a diversity recruiter who's seen you on there'. It's kind of like walking in on your parents having sex or seeing your professor at a gay bar. You figure it happens and there's obviously nothing wrong with that, but it's better for everyone involved at the dinner table if you never have to see it.

Just make sure your profile says you're looking for "networking" and you should be covered.

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby dproduct » Tue Jan 08, 2013 8:04 pm

shntn wrote:
indigomachine wrote:
alwayssunnyinfl wrote:If your employer knows what grindr is, I don't think you have too much to worry about. Internet hookups are part of gay culture, and even if he's not in that phase of his life, chances are he's going to understand. Unless you're posting skeevy dick pics along with face pics and spamming everyone within 25 miles with "sup? wanna get down?" messages, no one cares.


I think it's less an issue of 'ethical' and more an issue of 'wow, it's really awkward/uncomfortable to be in an interview with a diversity recruiter who's seen you on there'. It's kind of like walking in on your parents having sex or seeing your professor at a gay bar. You figure it happens and there's obviously nothing wrong with that, but it's better for everyone involved at the dinner table if you never have to see it.

Just make sure your profile says you're looking for "networking" and you should be covered.


:lol: :lol: :lol:

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Postby 02122015 » Wed Jan 09, 2013 12:11 pm

indigomachine wrote:or seeing your professor at a gay bar.

As an aside, I've seen one of my professors at one of the (more professionally-oriented) gay bars quite a few times and it's never really been that awkward. Of course, when the prof is only in his 30s, teaches a sexual orientation class in the first place, and the local gay legal community is small (like it is almost everywhere), things like that will happen. Honestly, back in my K-12 days, it was much more awkward running into any teacher outside of school at all.

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Postby danitt » Wed Jan 09, 2013 12:15 pm

MSPeast wrote:
indigomachine wrote:or seeing your professor at a gay bar.

As an aside, I've seen one of my professors at one of the (more professionally-oriented) gay bars quite a few times and it's never really been that awkward. Of course, when the prof is only in his 30s, teaches a sexual orientation class in the first place, and the local gay legal community is small (like it is almost everywhere), things like that will happen. Honestly, back in my K-12 days, it was much more awkward running into any teacher outside of school at all.

When I was a senior in high school, I saw my English teacher at a party and she bought me a drink. It was hilarious because she was already drunk and teachers don't have lives outside of school!

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Re: GLBT: C/O 2015, Grindr/Manhunt, and More

Postby ce255 » Wed Jan 09, 2013 10:06 pm

I'm watching the movie Philadelphia right now and thought about this thread - law+LGBT= Philadelphia lol...and denzel washington is beautiful (back then).

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Postby dproduct » Wed Jan 09, 2013 10:55 pm

ce255 wrote:I'm watching the movie Philadelphia right now and thought about this thread - law+LGBT= Philadelphia lol...and denzel washington is beautiful (back then).


What a fantastic film.




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