SeiferD wrote: ccs224 wrote:
violaboy wrote:My friend at Columbia has had a rough time. Shy small fish in a big pond. He was much more comfortable in Utah.
NYC has the largest single population, gay or straight, of any major city in America, by a large margin. However, its residents also have more friends and spend more time with them than any other city. (Both of these statements I believe to be factually correct, though I learned them from listening in on an awkward blind date going on next to me at a whiskey bar in the East Village.) My thoughts would be that, in a city with such a large population, people have more chances to make friends and less of an incentive to settle down with one person. Whether that's a positive or negative feature of the city is up to you.
I sort of got that impression while visiting Columbia. There also seemed to be a big emphasis on bars, which isn't really my style. However, I don't think I would let dating prospects significantly influence my decision either way.
+1 Being a native New Yorker, I can tell you that finding a boyfriend isn't necessarily easier here. There is a huge emphasis on bars (I didn't really know there was another way of meeting people until I lived elsewhere). Meeting people online is also pretty big here. NYC is constantly on the go...its an extremely fast-paced city....so there is less incentive to settle down for both gay and straight people.
On the other hand, I find that going on dates and meeting people is a lot easier - simply because there are more options (i.e. gay people). One can literally meet someone walking down the street in any neighborhood, on the subway, in the supermarket, etc. Its actually easier for gay people to meet (and this can be taken in other ways) one another than straight people. And inevitably one of these options can turn into something more serious.