Dave118 wrote:Thank you. My wife isn't crazy about me spending all my time in a law firm so she's pushing Cardozo and definitely not going to be happy with me taking an extra year, no matter what the benefits. I will show her this thread though....
Specifically tell your wife that if she's concerned with your future career (and she ought to be, since she presumably wants your marriage to be a joint venture), then taking the time to make sure you go to the right school is absolutely essential. You should probably also let her know that there's no such thing as a law firm with a light schedule, so if you two haven't figured out whether that's manageable, that's another discussion that needs to have already happened.
Cav you're either not married or in a very controlling relationship.
As a married man, you have an obligation to make your wife happy. I am perfectly fine with moving to Ithaca. The wife is not. I argued that 3 years can determine the rest of our lives, and employment prospects are better at a top school. Blah, blah, blah. She wants to stay local - near her parents. And I have an obligation to listen to her.
Of course Dave's wife is concerned with his career and future, but not at the expense of losing her husband to a firm. Can you blame her? Now, throw a full scholarship on top of that.
Bottom line is: if your spouse or SO isn't 100% on board with big decisions, it's going to be hard to perform well. That is, even if I convinced her to move to Ithaca, who's to say she won't be miserable in a year? Sure dave could try convincing her, but if that doesn't work then that's life.