Would you turn down HYS for SO & CCN Forum

[Ti Malice]

1) couldn't you conceivably commute from NYC to Yale (not sure how class scheduling works there, so maybe it wouldn't be possible)? I mean.. not that it would be ideal, but personally, if I could get into Yale, I would want to go there. And if my SO lived in NYC, I would want to live with him/her, so I'd do whatever it took to make it work (if such a thing were possible).

Yes, this is more than possible. Several people here live in NYC. Even in my class (1L), a friend of mine lives with his wife in Manhattan and commutes. But we obviously don't know if this is the situation in question, since OP is being so ridiculously, unnecessarily coy about revealing the two schools involved.

[John_rizzy_rawls]

This is simple. If it's Stanford and you're quite sure you're going to marry and have a future with this girl then no, pick CCN with a huge scholarship.

If it's Harvard or Yale then you're not far from NY and picking the best school and being with your SO don't have to be mutually exclusive.

[dixiecupdrinking]

I don't understand how OP went from wanting something "that HYS will give a significant boost with" to "I don't care what I do after graduating." How are these ideas compatible?

You misquoted me. I said I care much less about what I do after graduating than where I go to school. There is no contradiction. I have preferences, but I believe I would enjoy a legal career in almost all areas. My opinions/open mindedness may change as I begin to study law formally, and I recognize that if they do, HYS offers more options.

Okay, but the point remains. What is it that you want?

The reason to go to HYS over CCN is because it might open better job prospects. So if you are open to working in "almost all areas," then why would you want to move away from your significant other just to go to HYS? You can only have one job when you graduate, so if you're more or less indifferent as between any two legal jobs, what benefit is there to going to the school that might give you the option of choosing between three of them instead? I guess the issue is that it makes extremely little sense to care more about where you go to law school than what you will do when you graduate. It's professional school.

If you think that having "Harvard" on your diploma or whatever pleasures spending three years at a top-three rather than top-six law school will give you is worth moving away from a serious partner for three years, then do it. Personally, I think it seems silly unless you have more concrete reasons.

[tino1317]

Jesus Christ talk about first world problems. For all of you pencil neck weenies telling op to go to HYS when it clearly wouldn't make him happy, gtfo. Op you seem like you aren't too sure about what you want for your future aside from your SO. It's pretty clear that you made your decision before you posted this. Pretty clear cut if I'm in your shoes, although you do seem to be a more sentimental person than I am. The one piece of advice I will give you before you send in your deposit is this: ask yourself if she loves you more than you love her. If you feel like it's the other way around I would seriously reconsider your options and plans given you have said you would relocate for her again after you both get the degrees. Good luck man, CCN+money HOW FUCKING TERRIBLE, SEE YOU AT THE UNEMPLOYMENT LINE JEDI SCUM

[John_rizzy_rawls]

Jesus Christ talk about first world problems. For all of you pencil neck weenies telling op to go to HYS when it clearly wouldn't make him happy, gtfo. Op you seem like you aren't too sure about what you want for your future aside from your SO. It's pretty clear that you made your decision before you posted this. Pretty clear cut if I'm in your shoes, although you do seem to be a more sentimental person than I am. The one piece of advice I will give you before you send in your deposit is this: ask yourself if she loves you more than you love her. If you feel like it's the other way around I would seriously reconsider your options and plans given you have said you would relocate for her again after you both get the degrees. Good luck man, CCN+money HOW FUCKING TERRIBLE, SEE YOU AT THE UNEMPLOYMENT LINE JEDI SCUM

Chill out turbo.

[Davidbentley]

Jesus Christ talk about first world problems. For all of you pencil neck weenies telling op to go to HYS when it clearly wouldn't make him happy, gtfo. Op you seem like you aren't too sure about what you want for your future aside from your SO. It's pretty clear that you made your decision before you posted this. Pretty clear cut if I'm in your shoes, although you do seem to be a more sentimental person than I am. The one piece of advice I will give you before you send in your deposit is this: ask yourself if she loves you more than you love her. If you feel like it's the other way around I would seriously reconsider your options and plans given you have said you would relocate for her again after you both get the degrees. Good luck man, CCN+money HOW FUCKING TERRIBLE, SEE YOU AT THE UNEMPLOYMENT LINE JEDI SCUM

Chill out turbo.

+1

OP, HYS or CC with money is a difficult decision. Whatever you do, don't put that shit on someone else. You may end up with not only regret, but also resentment. Sack up and decide based on what's best for you.

[laxbrah420]

I read this whole thread trying to find genders

[jetsfan1]

I read this whole thread trying to find genders

Haha same. Failed.

[banjo]

OP is obviously female

[Elston Gunn]

I also don't understand why you wont specify the schools.

If it were me and my fiancée, I would definitely not go to Stanford, and definitely would go to Yale if she were in NY, and very likely Harvard too. If she were in Chicago, it would be a tougher decision, but I'd probably still do it (I know at least one person doing this at Yale right now). But that's just me, and we've already done a year long distance with relatively little complication, so we at least know we can do it.

[GeneralMuffin]

Replying as I'm currently in a similar situation, and we will likely go with long distance. By the time school starts we will have been together for 4+ years, living together for 2. We did a year of semi-long distance in college.

The way we see it, we plan to eventually get married, and it is worth dealing with 3 years of crappiness to ultimately put our family in a better position in the long run.

I'm currently set on Harvard (with serious consideration for Columbia/NYU), he has decided on Georgetown. A very important factor in our decision is that neither one wants to hold the other back- I wouldn't ask him to turn down Georgetown in favor of BU/BC, and he wouldn't ask me to turn down Harvard for Georgetown. Not only would it feel incredibly selfish to ask, I worry that it would breed resentment in the partner who had to "settle."

Right now, we're also focusing on the positives. We'll each get to know a different city. We will be more open to meeting new friends since we won't have each other as go-to weekend plans. We will be able to fill our schedules with classes, volunteering, clubs, etc, without worrying like we're neglecting each other (sidenote - I hate working overtime when I know he is at home waiting for me. When he is also busy or out of town, I don't mind nearly as much). At the end of the day he will be a phone/Skype call (or at worst, a 1.5 hour plane ride) away.

But as others have said, it ultimately comes down to what you are most comfortable with.