thetravelinglawyer wrote:I am struggling with whether to go to law school or have a kid now.. I know I could do both at the same time but I really don't want to. I am the type to devote myself fully to whatever I am focused on at that moment, and I know if I try to have a kid while in law school I will do badly at both or give up on school. I am 32 now, would be doing the 4-year joint JD/MBA program in the fall, so I would be graduating around age 36. I have already struggled with infertility so that could add more years on top. Having kids at 38+ is not ideal, but not the end of the world either (my sister just had her first at 41). Or I could skip law school and have kids now and potentially be around to see my grandkids longer. My husband is also six years older so that puts him being a dad in his mid-40s. Not sure he is going to love having a teenager at age 60. But does four years really make a difference? Am I stressing for nothing? Ugh. Would love any advice or thoughts from you all. Going to law school is a dream, it would be a no brainer if this stupid biological clock weren't ticking so loudly in my ear.
1. There is no perfect time to have kids. Ever.
2. Having kids and taking maternity leave can hurt your career, and this is especially true in law. It sucks, it's unfair, but it is absolutely the case. Having kids BEFORE you start in a law job, however, could be less impactful.
3. Law school is a joke after the first year. If you've got a good support system and if hubby is helping out, then you can definitely balance kids and school. Just try not to have 'em immediately around finals (and maybe wait til after the first year to have them).