OperaSoprano wrote:I'm not sold on biglaw either, and I have the same problem about competition feeling completely alien. I don't want to compete with my classmates! I was extremely lucky, and I'm grateful, but I still torture myself every day. I want to be easygoing. I think your attitude is healthy and positive, and you shouldn't change it. I hope there is room in the law for people who feel this way. If you don't mind my asking, how do you keep it from getting to you? If there is any way to make the end of this semester more peaceful, I mean to try.
Hmm I guess things that help:
1) Outside of law school I dont hang out with law students really. I have 2 2L friends from college and they have a very similar attitude to law school as I do(ie OMG WHY IS EVERYONE SO CRAZY lets get a beer and play video games for 6 hours). my other friends are all either in other grad schools(my friends in med school really help put the amount of work required of law students in perspective) or working. This obviously has its pros and cons... the downside is the above mentioned feeling of not really knowing many people at law school.
2) The friends I do have in law school have a similar attitude to me. I'm just not friends with anyone who is competitive or intense about it. We all work collaboratively and I happily sent my outlines to my friends that didn't make their own etc. We all have pretty similar work habits....do the reading, go to class, study for 3 weeks at the end of the semester. I don't think any of us use supplements/hornbooks/brief cases. We all did fine last semester...I was top 10% although I put that down to luck/the fact that the british education system is entirely exam based so having one exam count for everything doesn't phase me(back in high school 1 exam would = two years worth of work). Also I honestly kinda thing that 90% of performance in law school is a crap shoot...you have the 5% who kill themselves working every day and they do great. You have the 5% who do nothing and they do badly. Everyone else is in the middle and will get a few As and a few Bs. I do know some people who come up to me freaking out about xy and z and I just sort of tune them out heh.
3) Honestly, I'm very lucky...I got $$ and my parents are covering the rest(as a non citizen w no guarantor I couldnt take out loans). The fact that I won't be graduating with debt probably goes a long way to being chill about law school. I fully intend to pay my parents back over time, but there is no hurry/interest.
4) I want to go home eventually(back to the UK). The people I will be competing with for jobs are not the people I'm in school with right now. As I mentioned above, i am nervous about my ability to get a job back home that that is more because I worry about NYU's int alumni network/name value than someone with better grades in my section getting the job over me.
I guess those probably the 4 big factors...maybe if I knew what I wanted to do I'd be more highly strung but for now I'm just trying to do as well as I can and figure out what I want to do/where I want to live after law school(US/UK/somewhere completely random).