PDaddy wrote:Ok. Even if you are URM, my statements above still apply. I think adjustments need to be made on BOTH SIDES. That's what dioversity is about, and that is what fitting in is about. And you read that i acknowledged prejudices that can exist in given environments...no need to rehash those. FWIW, I can't see a black female writing that way. Your "voice' does not read black female.
Everybody's just going to let this slide? Okay then.
lol. I totally missed this. thanks shlonster.
Your statements still apply to what? to whom? And who refuted that adjustments need to be made on BOTH SIDES? I'm concerned, first and foremost, about how I adjust, and it is my hope that others will do the same as is appropriate in their situations, but realize I wasn't talking about everyone else. Insofar as you continue to believe that your statements are well-informed and appropriate responses to my
statement about myself
, I would hope that yours would at least touch on something of substance that I didn't consider. But your responses suggest that you're more interested in defining who I should be and what my experiences should have been based on your own preconceptions.
My response was addressed to you to point out that you've made (and continue to make) some sweeping generalizations, which is ironic considering you accused me of doing this.
And about this last one in particular....(and maybe I'm being too generous in this assumption) I'm thinking this is an allusion to the often perceived confidence of black women? Okay. But once again, you'd be making the mistake of attributing the characteristics of the whole to the part. And I'm sure you'd know this going into it, so the true intention appears to have been to take a dig at me for being honest about my experiences with self-confidence.
If this is the case, make a more blatant dig, despite the fact that it wouldn't have accomplished much. But it would have, at least, saved you from making a sweeping generalization about what defines the black woman. It's not getting you very far. If this is not the case, and you intended to define for us, who we are, I'm sure some black women on this forum with some extra time on their hands have some words for you...And anyone else who isn't especially keen on being categorized.
I never knew that being honest about my experiences could or should define my place (or lack thereof) in my race. If anything at all, I thought it'd suggest something about my character. But I'm not going to lose sleep over this one. Ah well.