Ayeshabelle wrote:And Tangerine, my parents are not the most accepting of deviation. I've finally gotten "permission" to become a lawyer instead of a doctor, and I do not want to receive any more nightly phone calls bemoaning my "bad life decisions." Some fights are just better not to have.
I understand...of all people, strangers on message boards are completely oblivious to the complicated and delicate scope of unknown inidivuals' family dynamics. In other words, even if you are an adult, simply ignoring your parents is easier said than done, I'm sure. I certainly didn't mean to downplay whatever effects this decision will have on your family life...those elements can hold serious sway. They're your parents, after all...I can only imagine that their opinion/reaction is very significant, and you're completely justified in that.
However, the one good thing about advice from strangers is that they can perhaps give a more objective look at things...assessing your options, as they pertain to your
interests, in a vacuum devoid of your parents' concerns. And, from where I'm standing, "attending one of the country's best law schools" doesn't qualify for harsh "deviation". You may not be a doctor, but fuck...it's not like you're dropping out of school to pursue an acting career or join a metal band. You may not have been successful in the way they envisioned, but you're hardly rebelling.
So,just as they eventually gave you "permission" to become a lawyer, hopefully they will eventually see the benefit to your attending the 2nd-best law school west of the Mississippi. You're in a position that thousands and thousands would kill to be in, and hopefully they'll one day be amply proud of you for it.
At the end of the day, though, it is
true that you should do what you want, regardless of what they say...no matter how hard it may be at first. If they're not footing the bill, then they have to accept your choice. They may be hard on you for it, but not as hard as you will likely be on yourself if, for the rest of your life, you always wish you had gone to Berkeley.
It's a good thing that you're visiting both schools, and a good thing that you have two more months to marinate on your options and make the best choice. Good luck and keep us updated!